How do your cope when your Husband/Wife is thousands of miles away?
By Aurone
@Aurone (4755)
United States
September 1, 2008 12:29am CST
My husband just got a new job. For training, he has to go to Sweden for 5 weeks. He has been gone a week and I am not holding up well. We have been married for 3 years and we have never been apart longer than a week and half since we met. How does one cope without losing their mind or breaking down every other day? Also for the job we have to move about 400 miles from where we are now, the stress of the move and trying to get a job myself isn't helping. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
4 responses
@mythic0805 (90)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
You can make yourself busy with work or with your kid. My husband is miles away from me too. But we talk every single day since he left thru the internet. I'ts a good thing we have internet nowadays. We've been married for almost six years, he's been in the US for a year now, he came home last april-may. He stayed home for only 3 weeks. We chat as soon as he's home from work. Then we chat and talk thru skype for hours until he gets too sleepy. then the next morning we chat again as soon as he wakes up until he leaves for work. |On my part, I make myself busy with our 5 yr old daughter. For us, communication is very important. Whenever, we cant chat, we have our cellphones, we can always text each other. It may be hard for the first few days or weeks but you'll get used to it. Now you have plenty of time to post @ mylot LOL goodluck
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@Aurone (4755)
• United States
1 Sep 08
wow, that must be hard, seperated for such a long time. We don't have any kids, but I am keeping pretty busy packing, its a new job that has sent him on this trip and I am moving our apartment to the new area.
I don't know what I would do without the internet. We can't afford to talk on our cell phones too expensive. But we both have Skype and webcams, so we can actually talk to and see each other.
I don't know that it gets better for me. I think the whole time with be hard. But thanks for your words of encouragement.
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
That seems to be a difficult road both of you are passing. Well, just hold on to each other and be strong as a couple. Like what I always say to my wife, I may be far away but I will leave my heart is with you. You should assure each other that everything will be alright and that your communication line should be open.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Thankfully I've never had to be that far from my Hubby. In the 8 years we've been together we've spent one night apart. It was last summer when I went to Branson to see my Dad for the first time in 22 years. I just couldn't pass up the chance and Hubby couldn't travel that far. It was hard on both of us...he missed me and I kept calling him to see how he was doing.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@waters1748 (307)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I totally know how you feel, sort of. We've been married a little more than 5 years. My husband works 4 1/2 hours away from us right now. He has since about May and I'm not sure how much longer this will go on. Because of the drive and gas prices we (me & 2 daughters) only get to see him every other weekend. It's really really hard but we just keep telling ourselves that it is not forever and things could be worse. We enjoy every minute when he is here and yes, I try to keep busy. Luckily I work from home so I have been just diving in and working on the computer every night. Good luck to you and just remember it's not forever.
