2. marry this girl? may be i dont love her now but......
By nareshthota
@nareshthota (60)
India
September 1, 2008 2:14am CST
as myloters replied to my first disuccion about the same subject almost of them asking me to be positive with her. Thanks for all your suggestions guys.
Here today i would like to tell you what is hepping since 1+ year. (as you already know that she is in love with me since 3+ years)
Morethan one year my parents and relatives started hutting for a good match for me but unfortunetly they dint not find any nor according to my expectations.
meanwhile she visited many times to my house and had casual chat with my mother. My mother scared that we are comming more closer than before so she has been trying hard to get a good girl in our cast. (well in india cast is very importat, people dies for it cause, but i am not that kind of).
And since today I am trying to get the right time to convence my mom, ofcource not just mom there are many people in relatives (may be its look strage for you but thats what mostly happens in traditional families, India). Here in India every person acceptence is very important and also there are so many traditional(different kind of process in any marriage or festivals) things should be acceptable to all in order to go ahead.
I have asked my mother in the past (almost 7-8months) but her reply was very scary. Suside. and now i want to talk to her about the same but still not desided how to start off. I dont know what to say her to accept. Unable to anticipate the reply from my mother.
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2 responses
@sweetcouple (221)
• India
1 Sep 08
first of all you and that girl both of you sit and have tete-a-tete talk. i mean face to face talk. whether you love each other. if yes. how much? to what extent? how far can you both go and stand for each other?
then after your talk take a decision go tell everybody about your wish to marry her and how good a wife she will make for you.
then if all opposes then, since both of you support each other in every way that is - socially, financially, ethically, morally etc then go ahead and marry her.
but before that make it very clear to your family as well as the girls family that you want then to get your marriage ceremonised and you want their blessings. give due respect to all the elders. despite that if they do not heed, then go ahead and marry and after marriage in all hte ways prove yourself to both the families. make them understand and realise that they were all wrong and you both were right. both the families should think that they could not have brought a better spouse to each of you.
OK.
Cheers
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@nareshthota (60)
• India
3 Sep 08
Thank you!
Well still yet to ask my mom and my girl is not ready for the marriage if my mom not agreed.
so lets see what happens.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
1 Sep 08
People in India make marriage so difficult and it does not have to be. Of course, people around the world seem to make marriage difficult these days. The institution of marriage is so screwed up. Honestly, you should marry for love, not because everyone is forcing it on you.
