How does one sided love affects the studies?
By pranesh245
@pranesh245 (309)
India
September 1, 2008 9:15am CST
It has been several cases when I witnessed so many people suffering from onesided love affair.But in the case of students its a bit different,since thier sudies are at stake.Its not that i am completely under the spell of Love magic but sometimes i have had a soft feeling towards someone.In the course I found that i am hampering my studies.Is there any method to cope up with these sort of problems? Or simply I have to concentrate on my studies and forget all this stuff?
2 responses
@JannaLee (660)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
It's always sad hearing stories about one sided love, but I guess the person in love will always find someone even better than the one in his heart as of the moment. Studies and love are two different things...In my opinion, it is up to the person in love if he's going to let emotions ruin or inspire him in his academic performance... Unrequited love can bring about two things, either the person will be inspired to study more and achieve great standards..or he would end up devastated and defeated..It's up to us...^^
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@pranesh245 (309)
• India
3 Sep 08
Hi lauzzy!
I really found your experience heartening.I hope this not be the case with me.I even am samazed by the bahavior of your lecturer.Even if he was not interested,he could have explained to you and made you understand what to do.He could have made it easy to bear.Nevertheless you moved on and it made you grow stronger.You know life is a big teacher and teaches you very good lectures,sometimes crucial one.
@mickalotz (179)
• South Korea
2 Sep 08
That's really harsh of your lecturer, plus he is rather childish. I wouldn't ban a student for that simple thing...He should be ashamed for messing around with your emotions. Don't worry if that's his karma, I am sure he'd regret one day
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@Lauzzy (27)
• Belgium
2 Sep 08
A few years ago I had a strong crush on one of my lecturers at university and it made my life a living hell as he actually played with my feelings. He openly flirted with me outside class and I flirted back. I was ecstatic as you can imagine. Everything was going fine until I wrote a letter saying how I actually felt for him. I don't know exactly what happened afterwards but I was banned from attending any of his classes and was not allowed to even contact him...I had 2 years left at university at the time and bumping into him on campus on a daily basis was the most heartbreaking experience ever. I felt miserable. I thought he liked me but guess I was wrong. Because of this incident I lost my self- confidence and to this day have big problems concentrating on my studies.
Don't let this happen to you! One word of advice: concentrate on your studies!
There is nothing worse than unrequited love but you need to move on and to start thinking about your future. That is all that should matter for the time being. It took me more than 2 years to forget what that lecturer did to me but I am stronger now.You too will grow strong from this experience and someday you will meet the right person for you! If I could go back in time I would have asked my friend to slap me in the face, that way I would have reacted earlier and I wouldn't be in the situation I am in today. I would have done better in my studies. Good luck.
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@mickalotz (179)
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
well you just have to wish all the best for the person you have feelings for, there's this cool movie, called project make over...and this guy he's a nerd and really clever at school he falls in love with this girl, but she falls in love with a singer later in her life, she hated the singer, but forgot the nerd. so a day came and then he shouted out her name, and she was confused, he introduced her to his friends and said 'this is my first love' even though she didn't love him, he still said it, which is like 10 years ago...before the ten years he said ' i'll go to america and will come back, after 5/10 years, will you become my girlfriend'
the movie's awesome! so even if you don't get her love, always stay true... the nerd became a famous engineer.
@pranesh245 (309)
• India
2 Sep 08
Though I don't rule out this possibility but real life and reel life is something different.Nevertheless its really a sweet one
@mickalotz (179)
• South Korea
2 Sep 08
All you need is an open mind, I suppose you don't see any possibilites, that's why you think movies are just movies, but you don't realise that these ideas come from real life. I do know it is rare, but why not be of those rare people?
