Why do relationships suck
By hunandi
@hunandi (288)
United States
September 1, 2008 1:54pm CST
Ok heres the deal! I had what I thought was a very good friend. She had the balls to find away to let me know my husband was cheating on me. Then she just stoped talking to me one day and I have no idea as to why. She told me she was worried about losen my friendship because of letting me know about my husband. I how ever was greatful. I'm not one of those people that say oh tell me and then blame the informer. So now she in return Ive head she might be getting a divorce. And I beleive it is for the same reason I have no proof no leads. I'm so lost she hasn't talked to me in monthes. I still love her like my friend. I feel bad I want to be there for her. Why is it all relationships are so messed up.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
17 Sep 08
*She stopped talking you to because her husband asked her to.
*She is getting divorced because he is a selfish inconsiderate butt head.
*He didn't cheat on her - she didn't cheat on him.
*She only did what her husband asked her to do then got crapped on by him.
*She fought for him for a while then he said he wanted to keep trying. A few weeks later he stopped coming home.
*He withdrew from the relationship LONG ago - she held it together as long as she could. She put on a damn good show I will say that!
* Call her!
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@hunandi (288)
• United States
17 Sep 08
She works a bp I dont know how long they have been talking or whats all gone on but I told My old man not to be apart of it. I wont have him help him cheat on her. I fell that if your married your married if you filled for a divorce that so be it. You should at least wait till the divorce is final. So when I saw textes asking my old mand to check on this girl casue he hadnt heard from her for a day I was mad as hell. Thats not staying out of it I understand friendship is important . How ever do ask other people to help you talk to women well your still married is not right. No wonder why he didnt want the two of these woman talking. Because the lies come out!
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@delladidit (466)
• United States
1 Sep 08
...It takes a lot of courage to tell anyone something that will hurt. She sounds like someone you need in your life.
...How close do you live to each other? Can you just go see her? Is she not answering her phone or emails? How do you know she maybe going through the same thing? Do you have other friends in common? Can you let them know you still want to be friends with her?
...Any relationship is continuous work. What you go through together makes it stronger. It sounds like you two need each other right now. Sharing your burden makes it lighter. My gf's have helped me through a lot of sh__ my ex should have been there to help me through. We have been through a lot together and that is what makes me love them so much.
...My prayers go out to both of you. Divorce sucks. The end results are worth it.
...Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della
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@hunandi (288)
• United States
1 Sep 08
We used to live very close but now we are about an hour apart. no when i mean she just stoped talking to me one night we where on the phone he husband who works with mine which is of course how we find half of everything thing out. came home was mad about something got off the phone said wed talk tomorrow but tomorrow never came she starting the next day no longer even let me see when she was online. she just very recently is no longer hidden from me when she comes on line. And to make matters worse Nobody talks nice about her anymore and I want to know whats going on the things i her just seem one sided not right at all. And of corse Im told to keep my nose out of it I say hell no bite me lol.
@delladidit (466)
• United States
1 Sep 08
...It sounds like there is some controling going on. Try writing her a letter and using snail mail. I'd also suggest using a printer to address the envelope, no return address and mail it from a different zip code area. (Does it sound like I'm a cop's kid?)
...Good luck. PBWY =(^;^)= Della
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Maybe she feels guilty and uncomfortable because she told you. It would be a really hard thing to have to tell someone. And maybe, if she's getting divorced she has been dealing with that and hasn't had time to focus on much else. I would reach out to her and tell her you are missing your friendship with her and see if you can't get the friendship back. That is if you want it back.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
2 Sep 08
i would call her and try to talk to her. it's hard to tell a friend that
