How do you feel about people who put their parents in a home when they get old?

My grandmother was living with uncle and us many years. It was until she was desperately sick in her last days that we sent her to an old folks home. My parents were working and me and my brother were in high school at the time. She could of fell, and it would of been dangerous if she was left alone. She was taken care of very well in the old folks home until her dying days. We visited quite often

being honest and frank i really hate those peeps who jus leave their parents like that, having problems like financially or someotha probs is diff case but those who can afford and jus leave them alone jus coz they dont like them i really hate them pity on them coz they are the ones coz of whom they are at this stage that they can earn their own living. srry for my bad english but i have tried my level best to convey my msg

My mother in law had to go into a home, she had three children but they all had young families and she had Altzheimers. The children had to put their children first as she may have become a danger too them. This would not have been deliberate just due to the nature of the disease. If I could not look after myself I would prefer my children to put me in a home and get on with their own lives. I would not wish to be a burden to them.

It depends on the person and the situation at hand. I have 1st hand experience with this as I took on my mother when she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (no sympathy please). When I found out it was stay with me or go in a home, I immediately decided she would come with me without any hesitation. It was hard but I'm thankful to have had that time with her, AND I have no regrets. In fact, I'm proud to of had the honor.

they suck beacuse all thier life they were takin care of and know they will throw them away.

I think if parents always have to be maintained it is better

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I don't think it has to do with not liking their parents. It is difficult to take care of an ill parent plus take care of your children. Many illnesses can cause the parent to be violent around the children and create an unsafe enviroment, plus the parent may need many medications, medical equipment and doctor visits. It is best the parent live where they can have the best medical treatment. I think the family should vist their parents often in the home though and not just leave them there all alone.

gets them the he11 out of my hair lol nah umm idunno

Life is not always so simple. My mother was moved into a home from the hospital because she was in need of 24 hour care. Neither my brother or myself were capable or even qualified to offer the level of care that she required. Even if we had given up our jobs we would have been unable to care for her properly. If we had removed her from the home she would not have survived for more than a week. She did die eventually, but at least we did not speed up the process. I visited every day in the beginning, but as time progressed I reduced the visits to 3 or 4 times a week. I agree in principle that parents should remain at home, but only if the circumstances permit.

there are two thinkings to keep with them or to keep in home though one loves parents time and care factor place a roll.

I honestly would never do that. I understand that with the world it is today and how everyone has to work in order to get by, but your parents took care of you growing up, so why can't you just return the favor?

This can be very sad and complex, but if you are raising kids, it would be tough. i would just bring them to my home and hire a caretaker, so I can supervise things