Is Social Status Important to You ..?

hi Zed - long time no see. I know there are people that take pride in their status. I just watched a tv show where this woman was throwing her name/position around in a privete hospital to get extra special treatment. I had a gal drop a name on me once. I hadn't been paying too much attention so she had to repeat herself and explain. Turned out that I wasn't too impressed, because I knew her. So, I asked if she had heard from her lately, then, assuming that since she knew her, that she also knew the rest of the bunch and mentioned them. Turned out she knew of them, but didn't KNOW them. She didn't like me because I had inadvertently out name-dropped her. I will name-drop when I feel like someone is trying to put themselves above others, I don't like it when people do it to me, so I don't do it otherwise.

Hi zed_k4, When I was working I remember one of woman who worked along side of me was always trying to look important and used to talk to the boss all the time and at Chrismas she used to hold a dinner party and invit all the top bosses to her house, I became friends with the my bosses wife and she did not like it at all, but she managed to social climb and everyone thought she was so high up in the firm but I knew better, I just love to live a simple life and not bother with all that, she got her status and looked down on me and yet she used to my friend. That was many years ago, but I do come across people like that from time to time what with names dropping as well. Tamara

Dear Zed, this is a difficult one. I think everyone is concerned about social status. There is such a thing as wanting to be above everyone else, though, and that is called PRIDE. I hope I am not proud. I don't want to be. Since I am out of the younger stratos-sphere I am a little less involved in "making the scene", etc. I have learned that status is really earned by how we treat others and especially, how we treat those that need our help. I once heard it said that it is hard to love the "unlovely", but they are the ones that need us. I am mostly concerned with having status before God when I stand before Him at judgement day.

It's good to see you back hon. In answer to your question, I'm one of those people that is not concerned with social status. Personally, I would rather be happy with a good family and a comfortable home than to be high ranked socially and be completely unhappy and bored out of my mind.

To be perfectly honest when i was younger, it probably was important, however after i had children i was too busy providing for them to worry much about "social status" the only status i was worried about was being a good Mama to my babies. And as i got older i realized that my families opinion was all that really made a difference to me anyway, so i simply don't worry about unimportant things (like peoples opinions).

Not really. I have found its important to have friends and its wonderful being accepted and well liked but as far as being popular and having a very high social status can actually damage you all together. People that are extremely well liked tend to be put on a pedestal and looked up on. When those people have hard times the people who look up to them wonder why and don't have as much to do with you because they aren't true friends. Tough question but i'd have to say no.

No, it is no use for me to make social status important, I have none. My life seems to revolve around my husband and my job, and just a few friends. I guess we have status to ourselves. I seldom know what is going on in the social scene, and that is okay. Then I do not have to gossip about it. Or put anyone down. I can just go right along being myself.

social status to me is the equivalent to power in society. High school social status would be the head cheerleader, the president of the class, or just the popular kids. Social status is something that's given to a person more then earned in some ways. But its what you do with the power you are given is what defines your role. I really don't care all too much. I do just want to be happy and just support my family. As long as I can achieve that goal, I should be happy. If I would happen to gain social status it wouldn't change me, well I hope not. you say secretly everyone wants that, well, what people what is the feeling of acknowledgment and acceptance then a social hierarchy. True, you get those things when you have high social status, but you don't need the social status to get that feeling. I'm sure most people want the feeling of being part of a 'group', that's just a feeling of importance, to be important to someone. I know I've wanted that feeling, sharing smiles and fun times with a group of people. That doesn't mean you have to have a high social status though.

I have never really been influenced by social status. I have rubbed elbows with the well to do, I have been married to money before and was invited to social events due to that. I can attend these and fit right in, and as soon as I get home, it's back into my favorite jeans. lol I was never one to 'keep up with the Jones', if someone had a better car, house, clothes, than I did, good for them. I like staying home for the most part, or going camping, I would just as soon wear jeans and tshirt as I would to get all dressed up. If someone doesn't like that, fine by me, I really didn't ask their opinion. I like being myself, so many of the people that try to keep up with the social status are so fake.

I sincerely say that social status comes much lower in my wishlist. In fact, I am an introvert person and value my personal life the most. Therefore, I hate being a celebrity and disturbed by everybody round the clock. However, I must confess that I give more value to earning a decent income than the so called social status. Because if you have money, you can live a good life, far from disturbing crowd and as per your plan of things.

Hi Zed, If you had asked this question 25 years ago I would have probably answered yes, I was one of these people who was a high flyer entrepeneur with the mobile phone the size of a brick glued to the ear LOL and the flash car to go with to prove my social status but these days I am far more humble and much happier as I realise that this or the imporance of this cannot buy you happiness in any degree. I will mix and mingle with everybody because I like them as people not from the background they come from or their social status so in answer to your question now, NO, it has no importance in my life whatsoever. Ellie :D

hi zed k4 I havent seen you around for ages. any way social 'status is not at all important to me. I hate being around what I call the la de da crowd. I am an elderly white haired lady who is just plain old working to middle class, broke as usual and happy to be mylotting again. after three weeks of my computer not working. glad to be back. I live in Tustin, and a lot of La De da types are in Newport beach and on the penninsula where houses go for as much as twelve million dollars. too rich for me by far. there is a grocery store in NewPort beach where one piece of fruit will cost five dollars and other things are on up. not for me.

I am not particular about social status. I'm just living my life naturally and however it placed me in society is what I deserve. I never aspire to be in the scene, If possible would rather be unnoticed. I want a simple but peaceful life. I never go out of my way to become the center of attraction. If ever there were achievement and events in my life that make me noticed by others, then that is not intentional.

Hello Zed; I would rather be up on the social status than lower because being higher improves your quality of life in a way. People treat you like crap and are mean to you if you're down there near the bottom. I prefer to be somewhere in the upper middle.

AH... social status! It really depends. To a point it is somewhat important, but certainly not a priority. Personally I am pretty much my own person and even though being in the scene might have been more important to me in the past , now it really isn't as important as other things. When I look at it, social status seems to be more important to the young ones as well as to older people that crave attention and/or are not completely self confident.

well,i want to have plenty of money that's for sure... not much for the social status, but to be able to live a comfortable life, so that i can buy what i want and what i need, to be able to go on a cruise and reach my dreams.. i dont care about what people will think about me being rich.. all i care for is to have money for me and for my family... to be able to provide for them and give them luxury and the ease and comfort in life!

hello zed Social Status is important to some but not to other. As for myself, I have to say it's important. I would like very much to belong to a group of friend, being at home doesn't give me that. The only time I feel that I belong is when ever I go out with my sister. I have the feeling of not belonging. When I'm out with her and her friend I feel out of place. When I use to work I use to have my friends and people I used to hang out. But like I said staying home withdrawals you from all your friends one has made in the past. I don't really get used to it, but I deal with it. And what is important is that one is really happy, not just saying they are when they are not.

Social Status is very important to me. But one thing I find most important is class, and to have class doesn't always coincide with having a lot of money. Class is all about how you treat other people. I do not like fitting into certain social stereotypes. I am a single mother on social assistance, but I'm not your stereotypical "welfare mom". It bothers me greatly that I'm thrown into that stereotype of other "welfare moms" who are slobs, dress trashy, smoke and drink in excess, and send their children to school in dirty rags. To look at me and my children, you'd never know we were in that same group financially. And I am very grateful for that, and find it extremely important. I don't feel that I aim to be in any "IN" crowd. But I do want to be around like minded individuals. I am a relatively social person, but choose quality over quantity in friendships and other relationships. I am guilty of pinning out who the stereotypical "welfare moms" are, and I avoid them like the plague.

Hi! Yeah of course social status is important to people. But since you specifically asked if its important to me, well, if Id have to rate how important it is, Id have to say its normally important. I mean its not that important that I cant live without it but its normally important to me just so I could be comfortable with how I am living my life. Having some sort of connections to the "in" crowd really does get you more opportunities because of the possible connections that you can get. In my normal day to day life I really dont care much if I have a social status or not, just as long as I can make some way to get things done. I really dont prefer to be in the spotlight and I always take the back seat to everything. This kind of anonymity but still be able to rub elbows with people with influence makes me pretty satisfied in where I am right now. Gives me privacy and anonymity but still gets me places.