Do you feel guilty?

As you say, there are people out there who try and make you feel guilty for feeling quite relieved that the kids are out at school and your've got some breathing space. Why shouldn't Mums, especially stay at home Mums (which by the way I am) enjoy some peace and quiet? I do! Working Mums do tend to make out that they have a hard job, being a mum and going out to work but my personal opinion is that it is the other way round. Being a Mum is a 24 hour a day, 7 days a week job - it never stops! Even when the kids are away at school etc., you are still a mum - still worrying, still caring, still thinking about them - it rarely switches off. I made the choice that I wanted children and one of the sacrifices I did was give up work to look after them and bring them up. I didn't want a childminder to be the first person to hear them talk or see them walk, see their first friend at nursery, take them to parties etc....I wanted to be a Mum and everything that came with that. I am NOT slagging anyone off by saying the above so please noone think I am - everyone to their own. If financially, I couldn't afford to give up work, then I would have out off having my children until I could. I didn't want to have babies just to pass them off to someone else to look after them. In view of all that, I think I've done a pretty good job so far - not perfect, but who is - and I totally agree that it is lovely when they are off to school and I can enjoy not being needed for something - just for a wee while.

I only feel guilty when I do not spend quality time with my baby after work. I am not a career-oriented person but I work to help my husband with the finances. It is, in fact, my dream to become a full-time mother. But I do not judge those who, for whatever reasons, prefer to keep their jobs. And I definitely do not think of them as being pleased that they do not have to take care of the kids for a number of hours. I think you should not stop yourself from growing, career-wise specifically, just because you become a parent. If you are able to balance things out, you can be a good mom and still have a career you can be proud of. It's a matter of choice. What will make you happy, give up your career and focus on motherhood or juggle between your job and happy mommy moments? There, for me, is no wrong choice. No one has the right to make you feel guilty about the choices that you make. But be sure that you're able to take responsibility over your choices.

HELL NO!! LOL why should I feel guilty ya know...Come end of Aug Im more than ready for them to get the hell out and back to school (which is starting tomorrow YAY) and they know it LOL of course they are anxious to get back to school too by that point so its all good

No, I do not feel guilty for having my time alone. You actually need the time to be able to be a god parent to your child. I have a free day of from work today, My son 17 are at school. So I can spend time for my self with things I like to do without having some one disturbing me. I also take the time to make a god dinner for us by the time he come home. I can take the time without stress and mabe make his favorite of food and make him happy when he come home. And my day end up in a god way. Do not feel guilty for some time on your own. You need it.

I don't think parents should not feel guilty in anyway, if they could find time (even for just a little bit) for themselves without the kids. I am a stay at home mom, and with all the days work, there comes a time when I am really looking for a little time for myself. Even just going to the grocery, taking a walk or going to my Yoga class. Sometimes you feel burned out and a few moments alone could recharge your energy. I think all mother or parents needs this once in a while, otherwise you will feel burned out and it does not give good environment to people around you.

Guilty feeling only comes to me if i did something bad and i think it was too much and the person in front got hurted and if its just a random person i dont but if they are my family or the people i love then i feel i shouldn't have acted like that.Just that and nothing else.