Do you take advices heartly?
By pranesh245
@pranesh245 (309)
India
September 2, 2008 8:10am CST
I was one of the persons who are always involved in giving advices to friends.I thought I do favor on them.Recently I had had a strange and somewhat bitter experience.One of my friends told me and sort of scold me that why do I do that every now and then?She said that when I give my advices the person next feels as if he were so novice and ingenuous!Or rather I made them feel like they know nothing.So according to her instead of advising them I should left them on their own.
Do you people think that even in pain and grieve one should avoid giving advices to the person who suffers?
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2 responses
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 08
It sounds to me that you are someone that is quite helpful and loves to help others! This is a nice trait to have. I can understand your friend's viewpoint though. Yes it's good to give advice, but I'm guessing that, in relation to your friend it was becoming a bit too much. I think that there are times when it's good not to give advice. Sometimes it's good just to allow your friends to Be! If your friends, in your opinion are going down a dodgy path, then let them do so, it will be a learning experience for them. If in your view though, your friend is about to take a very serious course of action that could harm them in someway, then I guess it would be right to get involved and offer advice. I sometimes restrain myself from giving advice to my friends as I fear that I might be thought of as a busy-body! If your heart is in the right place though then I see no problem with it. Good luck!! Andrew
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@pranesh245 (309)
• India
3 Sep 08
But my friend!won't you agree that if you are a friend of someone and you see him or her sad you feel like go and console your friend?I really cant avoid that temptation.
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
3 Sep 08
No, you are right. It's hard to see your friends feeling down and there is definitely the tempatation to get involved. I suppose you have to make a split decision as to whether you should get involved or not. I wish you the best of luck on this issue. Andrew
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@Boatter (37)
• China
2 Sep 08
It's kind for you to do that, because you always try to help your friends. But whether you should keep on doing that depends whether your advice works. If your advice was useful, I should not reject you when I need help. But if your advice was just what your friends alreadly knew, maybe it wiil be boring and unacceptable for them.
@pranesh245 (309)
• India
7 Sep 08
How will you come to know whether your friend already knows what you have to say or not?
