Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire
By Shemrye
@Shemrye (5)
United States
September 2, 2008 12:05pm CST
So I am once again requesting some help or advice. This time about my best friend. I have been best friends with her for about 3 years now. Long story short, there was this guy we were both friends with except she liked him more and he invited to a movie (this is after 2 weeks of them flirting) and come to find out, he had a girlfriend for about 3 weeks. So I immediatley don't like this guy anymore and my best friend was mad for like a day. She may tolerate that kind of crap, but I absolutley do not. So fast forward to now. Her birthday is coming up in two weeks and I did plan on having a surprise party for her. But lo and behold, my plans were ruined the minute she called me and said, "well, I might want to be alone on my birthday (ok I understand), but I also don't want to be alone. So if I don't want to be alone, I want you to come over, and [insert Jerkfaces nameless name] to be there also." Well now I have no idea what to do. That is only one of the many problems I have had with this jerk.
The next problem is the fact that now my best friend is so obviously lying to me, a blind person could see it. She called me one night because I had a question for her, and in the background I hear someone calling my name (so its obvious they already freaking know me) and she in turn asked my question to this person. Now I figured it might have been her brother or the jerk. And my policy with Mr. Jerkface is don't ask don't tell. I won't ask if he's over there and she won't tell. But the minute she asked this person my question, I knew it was him because my question was an animal question that her brother wouldn't know. But still, I was not going to say anything and was going to let it pass. But now she feels she has to lie, because when she gets back on the phone her words were "oh i was just asking my friend Ruben." OK note, I have been BEST FRIENDS with her for 3 stinking YEARS. She does not have any friends, relatives, neighbors, anything of the sort with the name Ruben. Nothing even close! Plus even it there is some dude named Ruben, how the heck would he know me, and even better, why the heck would he be saying my name like he knows me? Well I was kinda tired and didn't want to argue late at night so I let it pass. But now, I am so furious at her that I've been avoiding her calls because I don't want to say something I regret. But that's just it, I don't know how or what to say anything to her!
Also another side note, she decided to tell me later about a friend of mine she has met once that she doesn't like. But she decided to let me know after I told like 3 stories about me and this friend. 3 stories that I told after the 2 met. And so now I try not to talk about her and I know not to invite them both to something at teh same time. But somehow out of all this, I'm the freaking bad guy because I told 3 stories about a friend she doesn't like. Yet she talks about Jerkface all the time, and is subjecting me to be with him not only for her birthday but even some times before that when she knows I hate his guts. But yet I'm the bad guy here.
But I just really need advice! Desperatley! About her birthday, how to bring up her lying so obviously, and to somehow get it through to her that I may have talked about my friend a few times, but she won't shut up about this guy. I really need to somehow talk to her before I say something that'll make us not be friends at all anymore! I'm really sorry this is so long (curse of loving to write :P), but I would really appreciate any and all help I can get! I thank everyone in advance for their advice!
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3 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I think there is a double standard and you need to tell your friend that if you can't talk about your friend, then she shouldn't talk about hers..As for the birthday, I think you should go ahead and be with your friend because it is her day. Maybe instead of staying the whole time, you can stay for a short time..
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I hate to say it but she is your best friend and if she wants both of you there for her birthday you need to suck it up and be there with her to celebrate her day. My best friend knows I have a problem with one guy, but because she is my best friend I won't let that interfere with our friendship and you shouldn't. If she wanted to date a guy who had another girlfriend that is her decision. As for her saying it was a friend Rueben or whatever, she may have felt a need to lie because of your distain for this guy.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I think shemryes friend is playing a double standard, you can read about it in the above reply. As for lying because of her distain for the guy..Shemrye said she didn't ask anything, so why would her friend lie if she was not asked?
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@rina312 (296)
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2 Sep 08
Wow that was long hehe. Well sounds to me you are kind of jealous. If she is your friend you should just support her with whatever decision she is making. Im sure she is matured enough to know whats wrong and what right. It is not that you have not tried giving her advice. Im sorry buddy but you are pushing her about you disliking him that is why now she lies because she does not want to create any fuss.
I understand your feeling, you are jealous someone else has taken your best friend away from you. But it does not mean you can't be best friends with her still. You are the one that is pushing her away by disliking someone she likes. You should be happy for her and if anything goes wrong, she will definitely turn to you and maybe regret for what she has done..
Good luck :)
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I think this is more like a double standard, rina..Because her friend can talk about her friends, but shemrye can't talk about hers..
Here is the paragraph that made me think this:
"she decided to tell me later about a friend of mine she has met once that she doesn't like. But she decided to let me know after I told like 3 stories about me and this friend. 3 stories that I told after the 2 met. And so now I try not to talk about her and I know not to invite them both to something at teh same time. But somehow out of all this, I'm the freaking bad guy because I told 3 stories about a friend she doesn't like. Yet she talks about Jerkface all the time, and is subjecting me to be with him not only for her birthday but even some times before that when she knows I hate his guts. But yet I'm the bad guy here."
So why did this friend decide to let her know later that this friend bothered her and not at the time of her telling the stories?