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Oh that's so bad. hugs to you. That's what I don't understand with America, the way the cops protect the people are great but i don't understand some of the laws. This is one reason why I am hesitant to live there. A cousin of mine, when he was younger, was reprimanded by his mom. He actually called 911. Saying child abuse. This is why I love the Philippines, here, kids are scared of their parents and parents CAN reinforce discipline on their kids. If I were you, let him get his things but make sure you're with somebody else. Always think that he hit you once, he CAN ALWAYS do it again. And maybe when you both have cooled down, you should talk about things. You cannot go on that everytime he goes out, you are in fear that he can hurt you.

Well, barbiegirl I am sorry to hear of your troubles, but it is better to comply and let him get his things so that there will be no further outbursts when the cops are gone. And I do understand what u r saying about what is wrong with America, when things like this can happen. That is precisely why when Michelle Obama said for the 1st time in her adult life she was proud of America, I could identify with what she meant...not that she was unpatriotic, just that when crazy things like that can happen in your country it tends to not go over so well. We as women are given a raw deal a lot of the time and we just take it and be quiet but we need to stand up and not take the bad stuff. That is precisely why I say you are not innocent until proven guilty, it's more like guilty until you prove your innocence and that still may not be enough if you don't have the right amount of money. So, barbiegirl, you hold your head up high and live your life. Don't be afraid and please don't fall into the cycle of an abused woman. May God be with you and God Bless...

barbiegirl why are you with a man who hits you, surely you' have more self respect. get away from him, you owe it to yourself, never mind the damned police. dont let a man bully you and hit you, you dont deserve that and love should never hurt.you know that.nothing wrong with america, whatis wrong' with you staying with a wife beater.the law is the law, so dont quibble over that. the big question is divorce him dont be a fool once a wife beater always a wife beater. why do you get in trouble for being on my lot, you get in trouble when you live and stay married to a jerk. for goodness sake get rid of him.

If you want to press charges you can, but if I remember correctly, what they probably mean when they say you'll be arrested for Mischievous Conduct is that if you prevent him from trying to take things that belong to him, if you damage any of his things, or if you assault him you'll be arrested. And yes, our legal system is EXTREMELY screwed up.

that sounds like a bunch of bull. the good old boy network is at it again. let me ask u a personal question?? what in the world do u put up w/his crap for. come on girl, wake & smell the roses. u don't have to live like that.

I would let him in with the cops there.Let him get his stuff and let him be history.

I am so sorry this happened. I wouldn't harm anything of his just to keep yourself clear and let him go. You are probably better off without him. I understand it's difficult to do. I'm on your side all the way because no man has any reason to harm his wife, girlfriend, signifant other or friend. Just not a manly thing to do. By him doing this to you, taking pictures, calling 911 it sounds to me like he wants help. I don't understand the laws either.

Are you sure the cops were laughing at you and not him? If I were those cops I would have a hard time not laughing at the guy for calling them on himself. As far as the not damaging his property comment, they are required to tell you that. I am sure they would not want to see you get in trouble for damaging the jerks stuff.

Especially under the circumstances, you can request that a law enforcement officer be present when he comes to get his things.