The Right To Challenge Youths Behaving Badly

September 3, 2008 7:24am CST
I live in the UK and violence in young people is on the rise(according to the media). when I was younger any adult could challenge a group of us if we were misbehaving and more often than not we'd get scared off. these days a man or women challenges a group of youths they get attacked, so the net result is people being afraid to call kids to order. I experienced this myself one day a little while back. I was in my dining room using the laptop and I could here this noise and commotion on my back yard. I look out of the window and there bold as brass are three young lads 13-16 dressed in typical sports Hoodie, Scarf, sports gloves(its almost like a combat uniform) throwing stones at one of the shops that are across the street.I shouted "get out of my yard" and one of them snaps round and says " what the f&*% you gonna do bout it!" and stay put. I just walked upstairs boiling with rage,got my baseball bat came back down to the door opened it and threatened that I would break all of their hands. they quickly ran away. It just left me thinking if there more of them they would have tried something. I know I've been long in the explanation but the question is this :- Do you feel as an adult you have the right to challenge young people or groups about their behaviour? do you think that kids rights has allowed the abdication of responsibilty? If you saw an incident in the street would you get involved?
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I personally have no problem taking a bunch of rowdy brats to task! SOMEONE has to flippin do it and since these days so many parents/caregivers are too afraid to raise their kids with a stiff hand I'll be the one to put them in their damn place! Would something have happened if there'd been more...Maybe....but I have to wonder because these teens (and even the younger ones today) are so use to NOT being confronted by an adult who means biz when a grown up DOES get on them I think they get caught off guard and think twice ya know...Kids today are so use to having the upper hand by the majority of the "elders" when one steps to them they dont knwo what to do ya know... Regardless though, when it comes to me, I react before thinking about possible outcomes ya know..its just the way I am...LOL one of these days it just might get me shot..that would suck..
4 Sep 08
Hi Raven, yeah I act before thinking but I think why leave it to someone else? I'm with Jack Nicholson "the worm has turned and is packing an Uzi"
@Beaver72 (446)
3 Sep 08
I also live in the uk and know exactly what you mean, i've had first game experience of 'yob culture' myself. In answer to your question, i feel i have the right to challenge a group of misbehaving children (for thats what they are) but the question is do i feel i have the courage to challenge them? The answer sadly is 'no' for the same reason you give above, if you ask a group of kids these days not to vandalise property all you get is a mouthful of abuse and sadly in some cases far worse such as knife stuck into you, so fear stour many people from challenging these children, its a sad time that you cant protect your own community without dear of possibly getting hurt yourself and the worst things is they know they can get away with it. The penalties for this type of crime needs to be seriously reviewed or its only ever going to get worse
3 Sep 08
Hi beaver72! It wasn't courage that got me to do what i did, just seething rage that I'd been more or less threatened in my own home. I think their has got to be wide measures like if children attack teachers at school teachers have a right to defend themselves. If I'd been attcaked by those youths and the police had been called I would probably have been arrested because it would have been my word against theirs and I had a bat. I work with young kids who are excluded from school and I try to teach them about respecting themselves,(and the difference between fear and respect)others and the wider community, but for every one kid I manage to reach there are a hundred others who get thrown on the scrapheap and it is truly saddening.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
3 Sep 08
It does seem that kids around the world are becoming pretty brazen lately. The teenagers are at a point where there is peer pressure and trying to fit in. Also their doing it in the name of impressing friends in my estimation. It has been a long time since I was a teenager and I did try to be respectful of adults however these days there is still no excuse for the bad behavior. I do sort of feel as an adult that I have the right to challenge young people about behavior. I might be afraid to get involved physically, but I would try my best to dissuade a situation if I could.
3 Sep 08
thanks bamakelly! you raise a great point about peer pressure, but its like nobody's parenting them so its left to the state(and we all know how helpful that is)or school(they've been tied in that many knots they might as well have been hamstrung).