what will u do....
By meesum
@meesum (65)
India
7 responses
@metalhalo (599)
• United States
3 Sep 08
In the end it's always best to be upfront with her. In the past I know it made me more upset when they'd lead me on or act like I actually had a winning chance. Be honest with her and just tell that the feelings aren't there in that way.
Do NOT say that you don't want to risk your friendship with her if it didn't work out...that's like a slap in the face. That's giving her the impression that there are feelings there, you just don't want to ruin what you all have if the relationship didn't work out for whatever reason.
You can't force feelings to happen if they're not there.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I don't believe you that you don't love her.. What I mean is I am sure that you love her as your little/older sister, or just a friend.. You love her but not in a way that she's loving you.. Oh well, if you are really a good friend and if you're concern of her feelings then you must be true to her.. Tell her how you really feel for her.. I know that its hard but the more you don't tell her the truth then the more she will not stop loving you more than a friend and the more she will be waiting for you and the more she will be hurt.. So, I think you better tell her as soon as possible.. Because the more longer you keep it the more she is loving you and the more she gets hurt.. Just be true to her and to your self.. Explain to her that both of you can't never be more than friends.. Make her understand it and of course, don't avoid her after you tell her..
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Ahm that's hard.. for both of you but i guess you'll have to do it sooner or later. I believe it's best to do it SOONER than later. I guess there's no better way to do it but I see only two choice. Write her a letter (but she'll think you're not man enough to tell her) or talk to her personally. Tell her at once that she needs to hear you out first and be open minded. Though she most probably would be really hurt and avoid you, at least you have told her how you felt.
Good luck and I hope you get over with what you have to do.
@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
theres no easy way to do this. expect that she will be devestated. But the right thing to do is be honest to her. Tell her in the most subtle way that friendship is all you can offer. Then everything is up to her. If she really love you, then she will understand that sometimes people cannot just receiprocate the kind of love that you offer. Expect though, that your friendship may be at risk in this kin of situation...
I hope you work things out. Good luck.
@saroodebolan (408)
• Pakistan
3 Sep 08
tell her straight forward...coz its better to tell her time will make her feelings more powerful for you... so tell her... and c'mon you are just 18, she must be also 18. this is an age where people can easily mould themselves... so tell her...
@kavinsh (78)
• India
7 Sep 08
hi meesum
u r really in a bad situation.
its really hard to tell her . but ...
its good if u will tell her in time.
otherwise her love will go on increasing day by day
then it will hurt her.
make her understand that u never let her like a lover .
u like her as a friend.
want to remain in this relation
all the best