Can you still smile even when you're angry?
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
September 3, 2008 8:16am CST
Good day everyone c",)
I know this is a silly question, but i still would want to know.
There are times that i could still manage to smile even when i'm hurting or angry inside. When i'm around with people who are not close, then i try to hide what i really feel with a smile... is this bad?
How about you guys, do you show to everyone your true feelings even when your angry?
Or you are same as me who hides it...
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84 responses
@rainmark (4302)
•
3 Sep 08
well, sometimes, i can show a smile but deep inside i am hurt, i am kind of person who can hide my true feelings,they can see that im ok,NOT.And sometimes, when i am mad, i really get mad.Because of the intense feelings that i feel i can't calm down myself.cheers!
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Hello dear c",)It's hard to control but most times i do.lol! but i think i can't smile when i'm really really mad, i guess it depends on how angry we are dear c",) Tc my friend.
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@pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
I still can smile when i am angry. I do it most of the time. But what i have known is that people who do that have problems with anger management. Smiling is like a very abnormal way to express anger, because normally people smile when they are happy and not when they are angry. It's ok when they are sad, because there is such a thing called a "sad smile" but i don't know about an "angry smile." When someone grits his teeth in anger, it sure is not a smile.
I should say, smiling when you are angry is so unhealthy. You have to express your anger, though in a reasonable manner. I don't think you can hide your anger, because it always "bursts" somewhere. Do not wait till you explode or get sick from bottling these negative emotions. Deal with it.
I am dealing with mine now quite well. :)
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Hello my dear friend c",) Nice to hear from you here... You do have a point there, as a matter of fact i do have a problem in dealing with these emotions. I try to be as expressive as i can to my true feelings, but it's inevitable to sometimes hide it specially when you're in croud of unfamiliar faces.lol! But yeah, i do agree that it could burst somewhere when true emotions are kept inside.c",)
Do take care and Hugz for the kids sweet friend c",) miss you a lot!
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@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Hi,
Just like you generally if the person I'm talkin with or looking at is not the person I'm upset with, I generally try to smile. They are not the ones I'm upset with so I try my best to not let them feel my anger, but sometimes even if I try my darndest it's not easy to keep the anger specially when it's really an upsetting thought that is lodged inside my head.
@zhaosonghan (1039)
• China
3 Sep 08
It is impossble smile are still on my face when i am angry,it is so for me...
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@darlenelove (80)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
yes, you can still smile even if you're angry...an angry smile though. try it on the mirror and smile. try to compare it on different emotions...u can see the differences. what why somebody create smiley pictures.
@freakingman (239)
• Singapore
3 Sep 08
actually when i am angry, i always put on a smile. it reduce the amount of 'friction' between both parties, so as to decrease the possibility of a quarrel/fight. i smiled because i am amused. i am amused at myself, as i thought about how i had let the situation out of hand. so it was my way of blaming myself.
yeah i do feel angry and hurt in the inside. but there is simply not much point in letting it out.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Sometimes, I do, and I do not like to do it, but I do not want everyone to see my true feelings. I get angry at my mother's boyfriend, and my boyfriend's father a lot, but I cannot let them see how I truly feel, or else all I will get is more heartache and Hell. I hate jerks. I really, truly hate men who are jerks. I have had far too many of them in my life, and it is a shame that I have to keep putting up with them.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
6 Sep 08
No, not at all you are not wrong.. Even if im in a place where people are not so close to me or even when they wont agree with me something like that i just keep having a smiling face .Once it happened for me when my both friends did this to me they very well know that i dont like what they have told me both are just dint mind me and told me about that i just cant control my angriness and i was hurted badly but i dint want to show them as they are really caring for me so i just had a smile on my face and left the place..
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@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
5 Sep 08
Yes i can and mostly i do i dont show my emotions to others but this only for pplz around me as a general public. Friends always catch my thoughts and emotions and i think friends should be like this. You ant hide your mind from your friends if they are really true friends because friends have an inner eye to judge friends.
I think that showing your emotions in public is not god if you do so then pplz just feel pitty about you and will do nothing to help you out. Just some pitty looks
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@m_5ugar (1013)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 08
Hye mycharm88. I just smile when read your post because I'm the type of person that will smile even when I'm angry. It's just my reactions. I just don't know why, but, sometimes people don't take the things seriously because I just smile.
@moondan (712)
• China
7 Sep 08
The same as you,i will not easy express my feeling.I don't like to express my feeling to the people who i don't close.I love smile even i am so angry.So most of my friends think my temper is good.It is not easy to be angry.but my ture temper is not very good.I am easy to be angry with my younger_sister.she is only one who know my ture temper.
@liquorice (3887)
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5 Sep 08
Yes, I am usually quite good at hiding my feelings, and I can smile through my anger, which I know isn't always a great thing. I'd rather just get on with things and not let people know that I'm angry, other than the people I'm really close to - sometimes. Unfortunately it's them who bare the brunt of it sometimes!
I kind of admire people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, and can just get their anger and other feelings out there; - and then it's all done with. That just seems much more healthy to me. But I've never been one of these people!
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Hi mycharm, I have a hard time hiding my feelings especially
when I'm angry. I try to smile if I can when I'm around
people that I am not really close to. But, people that
know me well would just have to look at me to know that
something is wrong. It's written all over my face. I have
a difficult time being able to cover my anger. So when I'm
really angry I basically don't even try to hide it even
around people that don't know me well. I will usually just
not say much and try to be quiet instead.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I have done that a couple of times before, being somewhat having a certain emotion but, keep it all to myself and express something entirely different.
Then again, some emotions are just too strong to conceal with other expressions to throw off others around of what I really am dealing with at the moment.
Sometimes, when dealing with something really difficult or irritating, I could smile and others who know of my predicament would be bewildered of how am I doing but, they'll soon realize that I am indeed angry by using sarcasm with anything that I would say about the situation which is indeed making me angry.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I can't. I remember last week, I was so pissed off with the girl whom I sat with, and then when I looked around, a friend was sitting 3 persons away from me. Much as I want to chit chat with the friend, I avoided looking at him and never talked to him since I was really pissed off. After, I went down, he called me and I told him that I was sorry for not greeting him because I found it fake smiling when infact I was so pissed with the girl. :)
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
Good day, yes sometime I do manage to squeeze a smile when I feel hurt or angry especially to those people who are not really close. I think its not really that bad as you know, I don't really know that person and I wouldn't want to show my anger.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
3 Sep 08
When I was young, I didn't bother to hide my feelings. But now I've learned a lot and I see no reason to burden someone else with my anger or sadness. It's not fair to them and by acting cheerful, I feel better.
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@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
WEll it really depends on the situation that you are dealing with but there are times that even I am angry,I still manage to smile and it really feels better that you will not take serious all problems at all.:-0 GOd bless and have a nice day...:-0
@monkeysay (228)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
Yes I can smile anytime, even keep it on my face throughout the whole day.
I figure that there's no point having everyone brood. So it's good if you can lighten everyone's tensions even if you are feeling really bad within you.
But sometimes it's really hard to smile when you just want to get away from everyone and cry.
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