can anyone give me advise on what to do!!!!!!!!!!
By lemich
@lemich (4)
United States
September 3, 2008 10:00am CST
I don't understand whats wrong with my daughters father. He is ignorant and a fat slob but.... I love him I just can't understand he's 28 yrs old and I feel he does not want to accoplish anything in life. He just sits arond on his fat behind and watch t.v. i mean damn he can't even cook dinner for his family while i work all day. I mean damn dude ur home all day and when I come home the trash is all the way full, there's dishes in the sink and he acts like it's so hard to take on the resposibility on watching my son during the day while i work and try to provide for the household mind u I only got a job cause his lazy behind was home since march and didn't even make an effort to enroll in a class or nothing and it's not like he didn't have the oppertunity to,I enrolled my daughter in daycare and sent my son to summer camp so what can his excuse be now. This is so hard to deal with my bills are piling up and this mo fo can't figure out the right direction in life to go how can some one sit on there behind alllll day and just watch t.v and ignore all sounds around him. Damn get the F*** up and do something with ur life. How can a man be so jealous that he wouldn'twant to see the mother of his child exceed in life... I love him and i definatly don't want to leave him but what choice do i really have either i stay miserable for the rest of my life or i go off and accomplish the goals i want to in life. I want to be someone to... I love my job my pay is great never imagined that i would make what i make starting off. But how do I deal I already have the responsibility of working and taking care of 2 children how do i take care of a 3rd and not only that why should I have to take care of a 28 yr old adult on top of everything else it's not like i don't do anything I provide food, (although it's food stamps I still make the to apply for it and We wouldn't have it if I didn't) I recieve help with my electric yet another thing that wouldn't happen if I didn't make an effort also Heat I get Assistence for that can u just imagine if I din't get this help I would probablly starve there would be no heat and there would be no light in the house.What else can i say,can anyone please give me an advise.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Why are you letting this man take advantage of you like he is? He sits on his fat butt doing nothing because you let him, he doesn't work because you provide for him, he doesn't help around the house because you do it after working all day. This is not love. You seem to be on top of things and not dependent on him at all...in fact he's costing you since he's eating your food and using your electricity...so why don't you give him his walking papers and stop letting yourself be used as a doormat? I'm not trying to sound harsh but I've seen sooooo many women let men treat them like this for way too long before they wise up. This man does not care about anyone except for himself. If he cared about you he would try his best to help you and, from what you have posted, he's not. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea and this one doesn't sound like a very good catch to me.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
14 May 09
Yes
, I can give you some good sound and practical advice honey, you need to kick his fat A-- out on the streets. It sounds like all that he is doing is leeching off of you and taking advantage of a fairly decent situation. It sounds like you are making pretty good money so you don't really need a fat slob in ur life. You can do better for yourself but first you are gonna have to cut the cords with him. The only reason why a woman would continue to hang on to something like him would be if she didn't believe that she could do any better. You've gotta believe in urself more. I would be damned if I would allow somebody like this to take advantage of me. I almost hate to say it but he really isn't a real man b/c a real man would never put his woman and children in that kind of predicament. You need to get yourself a backbone and tell him to get the hell out and once he leave, go on and change the locks and then move on with ur life. The one that I'm with takes care of me, although it might not be the best care at least I can say that he is trying to take care of business but it sounds to me like urs wants you to take care of him and something about that just isnt' right. The man should be the provider not the woman. It's okay for a woman to get a job and help out with this or that but she shouldn't be the one who have to do it all. Please forgive me if any of this has come across sounding a bit harsh but it really tick me off when I hear about this kind of a man, really he's not a man at all, he's just something taking up space in the universe. In my opinion, the quicker that you get rid of him the better off you will be.Happy Mylotting!
, I can give you some good sound and practical advice honey, you need to kick his fat A-- out on the streets. It sounds like all that he is doing is leeching off of you and taking advantage of a fairly decent situation. It sounds like you are making pretty good money so you don't really need a fat slob in ur life. You can do better for yourself but first you are gonna have to cut the cords with him. The only reason why a woman would continue to hang on to something like him would be if she didn't believe that she could do any better. You've gotta believe in urself more. I would be damned if I would allow somebody like this to take advantage of me. I almost hate to say it but he really isn't a real man b/c a real man would never put his woman and children in that kind of predicament. You need to get yourself a backbone and tell him to get the hell out and once he leave, go on and change the locks and then move on with ur life. The one that I'm with takes care of me, although it might not be the best care at least I can say that he is trying to take care of business but it sounds to me like urs wants you to take care of him and something about that just isnt' right. The man should be the provider not the woman. It's okay for a woman to get a job and help out with this or that but she shouldn't be the one who have to do it all. Please forgive me if any of this has come across sounding a bit harsh but it really tick me off when I hear about this kind of a man, really he's not a man at all, he's just something taking up space in the universe. In my opinion, the quicker that you get rid of him the better off you will be.Happy Mylotting!