Do you leave your kids and go out?
By khenson7
@khenson7 (104)
United States
September 3, 2008 11:54am CST
My daughter is 4. I am a stay at home mom and I feel absolutely awful if I leave my daughter at home with her grandparents- even though they love her to death and spoil her. Me & my hubby have been out like 4 times (MAYBE) since she has been born; and we stay gone for like 4 hours maximum. Well, we have friends that want us to go out Friday night- they have a sitter keeping their kids- but my daughter asked me can if she could go. I feel bad to say no, because I feel bad not taking her out. I don't think it would be fair to leave her at home crying and me go out and have fun. What should I do? How should I begin to get her used to us going out once in a blue moon? I don't want her to feel like I leave her or don't want her around. Any ideas? Thanks!
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4 responses
@ProudMommy22 (705)
• United States
10 Sep 08
For one i dont think its right to leave your child jsut to go hang out. Your Child is more important than going out. So id have to say no i dont leave my kids to go out and hang out or have fun or what not. Im with my kids 34/7 and 7 days week and wouldnt trade them for the world.
@khenson7 (104)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Thanks for your reply. How old are your kids? I wouldn't trade my daughter for anything in this world either! I am a stay at home mom, I've never been without my daughter but for maybe a few hours- when I had to do modeling or when we went out for our anniversary. There is nothing in this world I love more or care for more than my baby girl. But, I believe that even the BEST parents need a night to spend together or go out to dinner with friends. I'm not saying go clubbin'/ partying- but dinner with adults doesn't seem like it is such a bad thing. I just can't seem to get myself to leave her alone... I don't know what I'll do when she starts school! I should begin teaching the same year- hopefully that will help. She won't even go to Sunday School at church because I won't go. :( But, hopefully it will all go well with time. Thank you for your answer! Have a great weekend!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
3 Sep 08
My daughter usually cries when I leave her with grandma and I go out because she wants to come with. She normally gets over it and forgets about it a few minutes after I leave though. She is 4, so she is kind of old enough to understand that you need some adult time. Try making plans to do something special with her earlier in the day, so she will not feel so left out.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I know the feeling. I have a young son and I don't go out without him much. I might get a babysitter some time but I am not quite sure when. I feel funny sometimes about leaving him behind.
Our children get used to having us around and we just have a maternal instinct about us that wants to be with them all of the time if we could. I think you are doing a good job as a parent and just try to talk patiently with her. Maybe she will come around and understand.
@titagdl (136)
• Mexico
3 Sep 08
Ok one question.....did you use to go out with your husband before she was born???? If yes,well then don´t let a baby run your life! You are entitled to go out once in a while and have fun. And it´s even more important to have that extra time with your husband without kids!! Thank God you have your parents or inlaws or somebody to leave her with,,I don´t have anybody and wish i could do that! Nothing´s going to happen to her if you go out a couple of hours!
