Help quickly please:(

all i can say is its obvious you really truely love him to deal with his childish actions

He hacked you myspace and facebook account? That bad huh? Where's the respect? I think you better rethink how you want your relationship to stay? About the ex, it IS a little bit weird that after all these years, he calls her out of the blue after your fight. If you are not happy in the relationship, let go. If he does not respect you and your privacy with simple facebook accounts, chances are he won't respect you when you get married. I dont want to sound bad here but based from your story I think the best way is to get away from him first.

I would first like to say that I am sorry because emotionally this must be really hard on you . I wish I could offer you some good advice but the truth is this is something you will have to decide on your own . From what you have said he doesn't sound like a great guy but that doesn't change how you feel about him . It sounds like he may have something going on with his ex , for the simple reason he got defensive when you asked him about it . Usually one doesn't jump to the defense if they have nothing to hide . My best advice I could offer you would be that you sit down and talk to him about what is going on and tell him how this makes you feel and try to get some answers from him . If he doesn't want to talk to you and keeps getting defensive maybe you could talk to his ex and find out what he was like when they were together . Maybe she could offer you some insight into why he is acting the way he is . You would be able to gather if she still had an interest in him . The fact that he is going through your stuff and deleting your info doesn't show a lot of trust on his part and that would give me pause to wonder why he would be doing this if he truely loved you . Take Care and hopefully this will all work out for you , I wish I could offer you more but the truth is you know him better then any of us and you know how much you care for him , it will be up to you to decide if you can continue to live with this in your relationship or if it would be better to move on . Myself personally , I think you could do better but I understand only to well that when feelings are there it is easier said then done . Best of Luck !!

That is a fact that you love him soo you are bearing all his attitude but i wann say that we love soo many persons in this world but cant have everyone some are beeter then us and some are lower then us. He is not your equal and he is not serious with you just passing his time and enjyoing foe some moments maybe today or maybe after 1 yr he will leave you he is not going to stay with you soo be brave and leave him. If he stays with you he wil alwsy torture you Life is so short dont waste it for such idiot. Try find someone who loves you instead to be with someone whome you love and you be happly forvere.

All i can say about this is your really strong if you've had to deal with all of that and i can somewhat see where your comming from considering my ex and i went threw a lot of the same things jsut didnt go to that extreme with the myspace and accusing a friend to be a pedifile. That was really low of him to do to being with. But personly if it was my even though i loved him he'd have to go because thats just way to childish and immature to do the things hes done to you.

Never change yourself for your partner. You will find that you will never ever stop changing after that because of so many differences. And after, you will expect your partner to change for you in return. Being yourself is the most beautiful part of a relationship. Both should just learn to respect each other's view and habits. Like they like to say, love him/her for who she is. If that is the case, you don't have to change a thing.

Try writing down all the reasons you want to stay with him and all the reasons you want to leave him. Write down all the things you've had to give up/have lost because of him and all the things you've gained by being with him. If you have more good things gained and more reasons you want to stay, then stay. But if you have lost more and there are more reasons to leave, act on it, no matter how hard it feels. If you stay, it will just get harder, now is the time to either quit or commit. Do it before you're married and have children.

This must be really hard for you and I'm sorry you have to deal with such antics. I personally would have left the moment he hacked into all my accounts and deleted friends and even the account itself. It is possible that he may remember her number, i guess it depends on how long they dated and how often he called her phone. I can remember my ex boyfriends cell phone number from over 6 years ago. I commend you for changing for him, it's a hard thing to do but anyone would do it for someone they love. If he can't change for you..I would call it over. In the long run it won't be worth the stress and aggravation. I know i say this like it's an easy thing to do, but i know it's not.

Oh shucks, after all you've been through with him, you're still sticking with him. Others might call that true love but those who are a little more logical would say, it's definitely "stupid" to stay with that kind of guy. Sorry about the term, I don't mean to offend you. Your boyfriend has got privacy issues and it's not something a girlfriend can be happy about. It's apparent he doesn't want you to maintain a social circle with other people since he's guilty himself of doing more than just friendship in his own social circle. For how could he pull-out contact numbers of someone from 4 years ago if his social life ain't that active? Yes, you love him, but can you try to love yourself more or even the way you love him? You want to understand him, though it seems obvious that he's not worthy of your trust. You should then understand your own needs and feelings as well. Think this over, life is hard enough without a man who'll just make it harder.

just the same thing that's happening to me right now, i mean every time that we had a fight he just call his ex and talk to her every chance they get..i thought it was so hard to deal with it and it just makes things worst because it pisses me off..it irritates the hell out of me..who would love to know that your boyfriend is spilling his heart to an ex just because we fought? that's just the stupid thing a guy will do..and every time he does i just wont stop fighting because i sure will be upset of what he was doing..well, unfortunately up until now he never got it..he still does act stupid and calls his ex whenever...well as per the number? they were chatting online on yahoo and was e-mailing..so the ex gave the number..who wouldn't she's just crazy about him still..ugh!talk to him girl, tell him what it s causing you..tell him what you feel about it..now if he never stop doing it then thats up to you if you still wanna stick around of let go

There is a lot going on here, and primarily you are hurt because he lied to you. His actions show that he doesn't respect you and seems to be trying to isolate you from your friends. Only you know how the relationship is, however is it really worth it if he is alienating you from your friends. This lack of trust makes me wonder what is wrong, personally I would never stay with someone who does this. You need to work out whether this relationship is worth it.

My azz would be out the front door & getting my own place. NOT because he called his ex. But because he lied & with a lousy lie no less & he did it just to p!ss you off. If he's going into your personal accounts & deleting anything, he is too controlling. It will only get WORSE!!! So make him happy one last time & LEAVE!!!

i think your boyfriend is too possesive and he is not practical at all. because according to him he wants you to keep contact only with him and no one else. he is not even ready to accept anyone else as your friend. well i guess u have been with him for last 4 years. did you ever try to find why he left his ex and if it is other way round what made the girl think of ditching this guy. i don't know your boyfriend, but i believe that he is hiding information from you. in a relationship one has to trust each other, but your boyfriend does seem to know this. he doesn't trust u for being jealous, possesive kind or whatever. he doesn't respect your trust as he has decided to keep in touch with his ex. so in this situation, i think you should do something that will make him feel that it is he who needs you, not the other way round. try to be little harsh on him, don't talk to him for few days if he keeps on telling lies about his ex. unless u get the facts and he appreciates your love and trust, don't get back to him. trust me, if this guy really loves you, he will realize his mistake and come back to you. otherwise, he is total loser. keep one thing in mind that you should be with such person who loves you, not whom you love. if you follow this principle you will be happy. good luck!!

Hi Samantha, I have sympathy for u and your story has deeply touched me.. See love in not a thing that goes on agreements... If he really loves u then he should not do these things with you... tell him clearly these things

I don't think this sound like the perfect relationship, he obviously has no respect for you or your possesions or your friends. I think you got some problems sister, you have been a long time together, try to solve this problem talking to him. If it fail you could try your luck somewhere else, is plenty of fish in the sea, good luck and all the best...

Hi, I am sorry you are hurting and it sounds like he brings much stress to your life . The way he is acting is not normal . He should not be going through your things and treating the people you know like that . Maybe he has much growing up to do ? You know people say people cant change , but I believe they can if they want to . Sure , it wont happen over night . He has to know how he makes you feel that is the first thing . He has to start to treat you better . Even if it is in small ways at first . If he refuses to listen to your feelings , or admit he is the way he is then I think maybe you should leave . Or maybe you just need a weekend away . I know it seems like you cant leave someone who have known and love , but you can , because in life we alll deserve to be happy and treated with respect . Love should be happy and you should not feel like this . There is a man out there for you that will treat you well and then you will see the way it should be . Im not saying leave forget it all . This is what i go by and i hope you are still reading this . Is there more good than bad between you and your boyfriend ? if there is more good then you stay for now . if there is more bad then you leave . With the ex and the number i would talk to him about it more . there is a reason he called . Id wanna know . best of luck .

Hi, I don't know now how old is him but his actions are like the one of a 12 years old kids..you must love him very much if you're still toghether but I would rate you to think very well about you relationship, you don't sound very happe and in your age that's not so good, you have an age where a relationship must be stress free, without problem and with a lot of fun..so think well about all the situation and care a little be more about you without looking at him becouse he doesn't look likes to care much about you... Nun

Girl, first of all you and him should have a cool down period. Leave him for a time being, he's unreasonable, invading your privacy. You love him so much, an just to test him leave him see weather he will call you these few days. And he's at fault invading your own privacy, deleting your MSN contacts. Both who love each other should knows what other and take care of each other.

That sounds happened to one of my friend. Your boyfriend doesn't have a right to delete all your friends contacts thats your personal thing.Then it looks like he make you so stupid,he knows that you are his gf but then he keep calling his ex? what he trying to show you?you must talk to him seriously, if you love him, love your self too.don't be too emotional, you'll have a good future to come so why keep your self fooling on him.I really hate those kind of guy, and i know how you feel.

well girl if i were you dumped him..if he treats you like that..you shouldn't stay with him..