Breaking up
By coolies_babe
@coolies_babe (116)
Australia
September 4, 2008 12:25am CST
My friends boyfrind of 6yrs broke up with her on sunday night, it was such a shock to her coz they seem to have such a good relationship, He told her it was because he jus needed some space & time to himself & see how his life changes with out a responsability to her or having to consute her for cirtan things he wants to do.. so hes callin it a break.
Shes really upset & i dont know wat to say to her, i kinda think hes being a bit selfish coz hes says he stil loves her n wants to b with her but jus needs space at the moment? i think he jus wants to keep her round so he doesnt loose her incase he changes his mind (thats jus my opinion) what advice would you give her? what do you think hes really thinking & meaning by this?
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4 responses
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 08
Wow... 6 years is a long time. I think he is not only being selfish, but I think he needs to think about something in his life. He couldn't tell your friend that he started to doubt the relationship. Well.. i don't know about your friend and I don't know the whole story. But sometimes, someone really need some space of his own. I mean, Me and my GF also do the same thing. Sometimes we need our space, but we don't call a break. We just spend the time by ourselves and don't disturb each other with things...
@coolies_babe (116)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
Yeh she said that hes saying its got nothing to do with her or them just him & he needs this time on his own, wich i understand but i think he should jus talk to her & they can work it out 6yrs is a long time to throw away i think he should talk to her & work it out n if he needs space jus say so n hwe can hav it with out the breakup, seeing that he says he doesnt wan loose her
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 08
Saying that he don't want to lose her and still breaking up with her is just a contradiction. If I were your friend I don't want to believe that. It's just absurd. Yes, communicating is the best way to solve those kind of problems. Agree with you. So now, what you have to do is support your friend or meanwhile the guy is trying to find 'his space' maybe she could get her own space and let some other one in :)
@Holv03 (534)
• United States
4 Sep 08
It could be that he wants time to think about the relationship or it could also mean that he might have something on the side. I know a couple of guys that have done that to there girls and they have been together for a while (meaning more than 1 year) and it usually ends up being that they have there eyes on someone else. In only one occasion did they go back together but most of them just end up having there eye on someone else and starting something new with a new person because they were tired of being with the same person or they feel that they need a new start or try something new. It could be different things im not saying that he might have his eyes on another girl but hey you never know. Time will say it all.
@mizzJhaded (244)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I think the guy really just needs space...maybe there are things that comes between their relationship and he don't understand why it happens...so he needed space to think about it..maybe he's doing it for the good of their relationship...coz I've experienced it..I needed space to think and understand why me and my BF always had hard times together...and we always argue of something no matter how hard we try to avoid arguing...It was just so hard for both of us..so we needed space...but unfortunately my BF gave up..he broke up with me...if only he was just patient to wait..I should have done better things for our relationship...I think space is not a good idea after all...hehehe...
@joeytribiani (34)
•
4 Sep 08
sounds like he's scared of committment. In his mind, maybe he thinks its going to the next level (marriage etc) and he doesnt want that. He wants to make sure he has the right person for him and he thinks to do that, he needs to be single and see other people.
