do you think it's advisable to have a live-in relation before marriage?

Yes I think it is a good idea to live together before marriage. Some of the happiest couples I know have never married. They say that their love binds them and a piece of paper will not keep them together if their love does not. I know there are some people who will argue that you have to get married for religious reasons but marriage has always been about property not religion and it is true that you do not know a person until you live with them 24/7. No matter how well you think you know someone, their habits, their likes, dislikes, problems etc you just do not really know them until you have lived together. I have two nephews who are twins. One of them moved in with his girlfriend years ago, bought a house together etc. They did not see the need to get married straight away. They seem very happy and just got married last year knowing that they are right for each other. They had a big wedding and reception to keep the family happy. I do not think they felt the need to get married but my nephew's partner found that some of the family treated her differently because she was not married so in the end she decided to have a wedding to gain acceptance from those members of the family who thought marriage was important. It had nothing to do with their relationship. The other twin had a girlfriend who would never live together without being married. He got married two years ago and now they are getting divorced. I still have not quite got used to the idea because on the outside they looked like the perfect couple but it seems that they cannot live together. I think it is so sad that they spent thousands on a huge church wedding and reception only to have the whole thing come apart in just 2 years. He has had to move out of their home and he is miserable. I think he is still in love but she has found him too hard to live with. I personally think it is better if people try living together first to see if they are compatible. If they do this and they are sure and then want to have the big wedding fine.

Im going to say its sometimes good to live with the person before you jump into a marrieage thats going to cost a lot to get out of. I was dating this guy for a couple of years what engaged for 2 years we lived together and i found alot lot i mean ALOT of flaws he has which arent very good to have and it ended up parting ways do to the fact of these flaws. So living with someone before marriage you find out things you never knew about the person and yet also even after marriage you can still find out things you didnt even know so i dont think its a bad thing.

I think that living with a person before you get involved with them is a good thing because then you know what you are in for when you finally commit. Some live-ins do lead to successful marriages and some do not. I think that marraiges are what people make of them. If both people want the marriage to work, then it will, but if both parties do not think that it will work, then it will not.

it actually worked well for me, i choosed to elope before with my ex. we can get to know the person well, like they always said, you get to know the person better if you live with them in one roof. and i did, the good thing it did for me is that it made me decide not to get married later on because he is fooling around. it will be very hard to get out of the relationship when youre married already and someone is fooling around..if youre still living together and the relationship doesnt work, you still have time back out..

Cohabitation is a phenomenon and a trend nowadays for the younger generation. One opts to give it a try for the reason that he/she needs to get more indepth knowlege about his/her partner before making a life-long eternal binding holly relationship. She/he appears to be perfect and considerate during limited hours of date, but in the reality, she/he is a very selfish and mean guy. Or even, we found that we just can't stand he/she snores when he/she is asleep. How can we discover these before we have been live under the same roof for a while. :) One who strongly objects to the live-in relationshiop, may holds the opinion that If we are in love, we should accept his/her everything including bad habits, no need to go through live-in relationship as a test whether they are perfect match.

Without a question of a doubt, I would certainly recomend living together. I think it a great way to test not only your partner, but yourself!,. From my experience, I need to know that I am happy, that I trust myself, and that there no underlying emotions that we keep secretly hidden away. Jealousy, lust, etc etc how will I react, well that works for me, may be garbage to others. But many of my friends have always said, get to know yourself first its not always about your partner, can you live with yourself if your living with someone else, if the answer to that is yes, then brilliant. I would recomend a year, cause after a year you really start being completely honest with each other and truely relax and be yourself, with the one that is speacial to you. Cheers Colin

hmmmm... all i can say is that some guys freak out if they found out that their live-in partner is pregnant, leaving the poor girl alone and escaping the fact by means of no marriage.. happens all the time.. damn i hate those freaky guys...

I defeniatly think that you should live with a partner before deciding to get married. I feel that you HAVE to know if you can deal living with eachother...if you can deal with being told certain things to do...There are just so many things you can find out by living under the same roof; some good and some bad. And I think that it would help you realize if you two are really meant for eachother. And in my personal opinion...if you're at a point in a relationship where you want to live with eachother; the odds are with you :)

I absolutely agree with you. It's like PBB. If ever one of you just pretending, sooner or later the real attitude or personality of each individuals will show up. I was in a 3months live-in relationship too before my husband and I got married.

now i can accept this notion due to high divorce rate. they have a point there that one only knows a person when they live in. but the negative side is that since people don't have a lawful restrict, they part easily or after over 5 or more years, they are fed up with each other and break up. if they are married, things will be different.

Hubby and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Even when we were still in the University, we live in the same and sleep in the same bed It worked for us but may not for some. It really depends on the persons involved in the relationship.

yes I also believe in living together without mariage, i just think that it's a way to let know more about your partner and all the things that you dislike and like him,i think it's better to know everything about it before marriage so that you could easly separete from that guy. if you think his not the one yet. marriage and sacried and inseparable..

i believe, its not really bad to decide to live together before you finally decide to have it on papers.., its not that bad to check if the relationship will work out for the both of you.

Definitely live-in first before marriage.You have to know deeper the person you will spend the rest of life.They said when you're new in a relationship you will start in a "getting to know each other stage",but thats not really enough unless you spen time together in the same roof.Knowing each other is a continous process in relationship wether married or not because each day you discover lots of things in your partner.Then when you know that both of u are ready to sttle down then you v\can get married..Atleast you dont have to adjust after married because you know the person you marry.

it depends on culture and outlook. in our country its not very well taken. I can say still many people are taking this into consideration.but its good if you look at the perspective, better to judge the level of committment of comfort level.

not necessarily dear kayedanda.wherethe live in commences after marriage do all the marriages end in divorce? no dear it is all rubbish talk. any newcomers who come closer for the first time also may have a blissful life!!.the need is that they should know that this is the only mine where i will find my diamonds!!