HIndu-Christian marriage.. how successful can it be.

India
September 4, 2008 6:59am CST
I am in this relationship for the last five years. However, to this day I am as unsure about whether I should marry him or not. I love him and rally care for him a lot. Everytime I thought of marrying someone else, I realise how deeply I am in love with this guy. But, there are certain issues because of which I don't see a secure future. I am a Hindu and my boyfriend of five years, a Christian. While I am spiritual, he is religious and wants me to not only convert but also kind of stop performing my Hindu rights and rituals. I like going to church and following some of his rituals but certain things I also like about Hinduism. I have never been that religious ever but that also means that if I can't follow Hinduism a lot, I won't want to follow Christianity either. I believe in God and feel a connect with him personally. I find it hard to explain this to him. At times, he has understood my point of view but it's not so. How should I make him understand my point of view. Do you see problems creeping in in our post-marriage life?
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lazeebee
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 08
If the both of you can't come to an agreement regarding your different religions, then it's forever going to be a source of contention. I always believe in live and let live - I don't impose my beliefs on others, and expect others to respect mine. My husband is a Buddhist; I'm a Christian. I believe very strongly in my faith - and don't think I would change my religion. On the other hand, I do explore the teachings of Buddha, and respect the Buddhists for their love of peace and harmony. I'm not going to change or convert my husband, just through talking or preaching. I'd rather that he choose to change his beliefs because he wants to. I hope you'd find a way that would work best for the both of you! God Bless you!
Shilpi0202
@Shilpi0202 (188)
• India
4 Sep 08
It was really nice to read and understand your opinion. I just hope that thinmgs work out between us because it's not just about me and him. It's also about our children. If he wants me to preach about Christianity and don't teach my children to show any respect or concern for any other religion, including mine... it'll forever be a problem for me and my innermost beliefs and family values... It really pains me to think about the sore realities at times.
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lazeebee
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
Hi, it sure complicates things when children are involved. But sometimes things could turn out differently. Most of us start off with a religion - our parents'. And we are taught to pray, and to be good and responsible human beings. As we grow up, we are exposed to different cultures and faiths - so that's where we choose to remain in our faith or join something else. I believe everything will turn out fine. So take care, and thanks for the BR!