Can a hardworking girl and a lazy boy make a perfect couple?

very interesting question ! i'm thinking this is a real long shot even for friendship to make it work. let alone, marriage. no, i'm sorry to say i don't think this would be a good relationship. and, i believe that opposites attract only not THAT opposite.

Hey , I wish you both NOTHING but the absolute best for your future, that said I think that in essence, you have to be happy with the person that you are with. Yep sounds like "Zen" crap I know... but thr reality is that, you have to face up to what it is that YOU want, if the partner is involved or included in that, then so be it! Your partner may be lazy, or have the income from hell, or earn next to nothing as he finds himself... he may also be the most caring, affectionate,romantic or whatever person that you yourself may hope to find! You and only YOU can answer those points! AGAIN! You may indeed be happy, you may indeed be asking yourself "What if?" But In the end you have to decide whether or not this partner TRULY satisfies or makes YOU happy... or heres another word...CONTENT! regardless of Lifes challenges as they present themselves from day to day. Once you have that balance in mind, then and only then, can you decide whether or not to carry on as it were... Again I wisj you both nothing but the very best...Good Luck! MrL®

Hi there! Well, they say oppossites attract and maybe that's why they gor married in the first place. I also believe that true love can change a person so, maybe the hubby will soon realize thats he's been so lazy and would finally decide to help the wifey. In a relationship its always nice to expect something good from your partner and somewhat always give him/her another chance to change. That's what unique in a marriage. Ciao!

The relationship will never work. No body can stand a lazy spouse, be it a man or woman. It takes two hands to clap. If only one person is doing all the thing, he or she will give sooner or later. That person will be exhausted with the relationship.

I have to say no. Believe me I've seen this already and it wasn't really working really well. Well they could still keep their love but in my opinion it would really be very unfair because if you really love your partner you will work hard too so that it wouldn't be a problem when it comes to financial issues. I've seen a couple like this and the guy is really annoying because besides being lazy he pities himself too much. Because of this the girl has to work more than double because of her kids and a husband who is to lazy even to look after the house That's why I always try to work hard so I wouldn't be like that guy.

The girl is excellent ,but I still believe it will happen . Anything is possible in the world, and there are no reasons to explain it. if the boys don't realize his idleness ,their love can't last a long time ,I think.

If you have to build a smooth and healthy relationship, laziness has no place. If any of the partners is lazy and does not help the other partner, irrespective of the gender, the same will definitely effect the relationship. Each of the partner is required to be active and agile to run the show smoothly. If the girl is working and managing house hold affairs, as well and the boy is showing laziness, the girl will get fed up one day, which may cause drift and break up in a relationship. Very Good Post!

Hi Shilpi0202, Perhaps. I think there must be something both like about the other that caused the both of them to come together in a sacred union. Yes, to us, the outsiders, one is lazy while the other is hardworking. How can one stand the other! However like I just said, we are the outsiders. There are so many things we don't know. There must be something that still attracts one to the other if the love would love and make them a perfect couple. Cheers!

i dont think its going to work shilpi..im in the same situation with my sons father a year ago..the relationship lasted 5 years. when we started dating. he's the one who has a job until i got pregnant..after i gave birth and thought that what he is earning is not enough, i decided to get a job on my own. maybe im just lucky and landed a better company and pays thrice than how much he is earning. i can extend hours and work Overtime and still can find time taking care of him and our son...until one day when i came home, he told me he resigned..its fine during the first 2 months, but as days go by, i noticed that he is not even trying to get himself a job..when the main reason for me finding my own job is for us to meet our needs at the same get what we want kwowing the fact that we both have a job and we wont have to worry much financially...to make the story short, yes, we part ways...although deep inside me, i really dont like arguing over money which usually he makes an issue out of it.

well... i doubt... hands down.. why? because a lazy person is a bum for me and would just simply live off on the woman and make her his slave... upon her beck and call... which is not a good foundation for a great relationship. morever... marriage should be a partnership where both partners give their best adn help one another....

well,i do everything for my girl and she is lazy but she has problems to,it is really rough but i am getting through it pretty good.

If the husband would try to change and help for their family i guess the marriage will lasts.But if he will stay that way even though theres love in the relationship but when one would get tired striving alone for the family then i guess the relationship never work because there will be more arguements unless the wife will just keep silent and its fine with her that her husband is like that.But we are just human being we get tired and dont have alot of patience.

No i dont think that one hard working and active can lead a happy married life with a very lethargic and lazy person. The active person who ever it may be (lady or gents) will pretend in front of others that they are happy. but in real life the active person will be struggling to cope up with the lazy one. Bcoz of this the life of person never sparks. some gets their love from this lazy and some try to divert. Happy posting and have a nice day.

I dun think they can be a perfect couple.... although the girl love the boy very very very much, but sure will hv 1 day she can't stand with the boy coz she will think she is the only person who give all the things and try her best for this relationship... the girl will start feel tired n plan to give up... so i dun think they can be a perfect couple....

i dont think its gonna work ..i mean cant be called a perfect couple..and i guess the love will fade away if the woman lost respect on her partner due to reasons above that you had stated..and even i myself hate a lazy person..how much more of a husband??

For me,i will not choose this person for my boyfriend,and will not marry with that person.But love is rummy,you don't konw who you will love.so it is hard to say.Every person has their own feeling.One of my friends and her boy friend is this couple.She is hard working and active,but her boy friend is lazy.she do nearly every thing for her boy friend.To be frank,i really don't enjoy that man.boys and men must have resposibility and obligation to make good life for his lover.The couple must all work hard for their future.Many people say that lover be together long will more like relation.spark will not last for ever.If one couple marry and lose spark,the hard-working girl will tired.

Well, lets see. My daughter and son in law are like that. Many times my daughter has been left holding the bills. Son in law works sometimes but often changes jobs or loses jobs. They broke up awhile but got back together. I suspect she got back with him so he will help out with the kids. Two out of three being boys they are a bit to handle.

Urgh. I've written a long reply and my internet connection went down when i hit the Post button. now I have to write them down again but I'm too lazy... uhm? did i say lazy?? My answer to your question is a big NO! What's being perfect in that? In a relationship, the partners should be on the same direction moving to the same goals at the same [or at least similar] point on views, working together. Uhm wait... did I say WORKING TOGETHER? :-)

I think this one is a exteame case and it might become painful for both the partners in the long run. An intelligent person doesn't understand - this is the matter of concern. For you to dump him is the easiest way to get rid of him. But I personally feel - you should take dicision and shoud not simply go by suggestions. Do you really want to get rid of him? I dont know your feelings towards him. I do not know why has he become such a ridiculous character? I am pretty sure it has not happened suddenly like one morning he announced that he won't work anymore. If it happened this way - he may be a chronic schizoprenic. You must consult a Psychiatrist and provide him the treatment.

Of course not.Even they get marry,divorce is the absolute result to be.