duties of wife

hi monika_bansal see ur question is really good but...................... there are so many duties of woman as she is bound in so many relations. u r asking without losing the dignity.. hope u belong to india then u realize after sometime that the word dignity disappeared from ur dictionary when u get married. and whatever u can do just do but u can't please ur husband's family. one thing what they want is that just forget all of YOUR relations like daughter sister etc sometimes u can please ur husband but never his family i think. take care

After marriage there are mutivarious duties of wife because the wife is not only a wife it has many realatoins before the maggiage the gril has not much duties . if she is employed then the duties increses in numbers after marriage. the first and the formost duty of a wife to adjust according to her husdand in india. she should try to win the heart of other person of family and regard their emotions. after giving bith to child she have to perform the duties of good mother also become the obedient daughter in law.

hello Monika ji, i always say that Happiness is most important in our life then any other thing.. i know some time we have to do some sacrifices for our families happiness.. and most of the sacrifices are done from the side wifes.. it is because i think it can only do a women.. sometime because of their wellness and sometime for their children.. in my opinion it is not right always.. but more sacrifices are not good for us.. it is for both Girls and Boys.. we should try to just be happy and positive.. and live normally.

First thing is that she should be open enough with her husband. before they want to lead a peaceful life they should first understand each other by talking with each other openely. Like they should discuss their familiy status,position and how their parents took pain for their studies and all........ Then one shoul convince their parents with correct logic.definetely there exists some differences between us and them becoz of generation gap.so we should explain the reality of life and have to convince them.

It totally depends on your husband and his family. Firstly and foremost is that lets learn to love ourselves and give love to others. Second please ur husband,give him more attention and take his advice and help whenever needed. If the husband is of traditionally guy then try to take tips from him.Then respecting elders is also one of the important factors. To please our usband,try to get to know him better by asking his interests,hobbies,what he loves to eat.....his favourite novels and if at all if both of you are in the same job line then talk to him about your work field.If he is a music lover then sing along with him,Share jokes....hey if he is a dance maniac dance with him. Then about his family.....tell any guy wont like if we talk about there parents.So make sure that we dont open up.Respect them and do ur duties. Regards

you shouldnt try to please anybody b/c trust me once you start trying to do that its hard to stop yourself.try being yourself b/c once you lose that its hard to find you again.thats a hard thing to cope with.

Well IMO for starters dont be the slave or puppet..a commited relationship or marriage should be a two way street with both ppl being equals rather than one being the boss and the other considered less than..Also having respect for each other is important...as is understanding....For me its not a matter of what she should do to please him..its all about what they should do FOR EACH OTHER in order to keep the marriage happy and loving.

well, I don't think I would lose some dignity by pleasing my husband and what do you mean , his family...like my in-laws?. If you love your husband, you would do anything to please him,.It is a wife's duty and it's his delight if you please his family. It's something he would appreciate very much. For me pleasing is to love my husband, and it is through by letting him do whatever he want to do especially with regards to his interests,to cheer him up when he's down, to give him sometimes to be himself to be with his male friends and have their night-outs once in a while, to support him in all things he wants to achieve and be his friend and confidante..There's nothing wrong with that and it won't lose any of my dignity but it makes me more special to him and to my in-laws.

I don't think a "wife" should have to do anything just because she's a "wife". Married or not, she's still and individual, not a slave or an extension. The "duties" of husband and wife should be equal towards each other. As for his family, I don't think a woman should have to cater to her in-laws at all. I personally despise my in-laws and I refuse to have anything to do with them.

hi dear monika_bansal in these times of all silly serials on the tv the ekta kapoor stuff, your question comes like a brief first shower on a hot surface of the earth. good to read and how refreshing that indian women still take care of their inlaws!! i bless you my child ! just take care of them as you would take care of your child. you will be blessed but be care ful dear the times are tough and demanding , they should not behave like the traditional lalita pawar types!! and as you said your own dignity and self esteem should not be compromised!! the love that you shower should be true and selfless and it should be a reciprocal arrangement and can not live long if it is one way traffic!! all the best and take care!!

That is a very subjective question as it totally depends on what your husband and his family expects of you. But to talk in general I believe there are a few things that a girl should be very careful about. First and foremost respect yourself and respect others. You have to respect yourself first for others to respect you. And you cannot gain respect of others unless you respect them. When you come to a new family you should be very careful about how you treat the elders in the family. Love will automatically take its place once the respect factor is properly established. traditions and customs come next. make sure you understand the traditions and customs of the family. Rather than blindly following the customs and traditions it will be much better for you to take interest in understanding the customs and the reasons behind why certain traditions are being followed. This would also show to the family that you are keen to be one of them. Always make sure you give more importance to your husband than the others in the family. That doesn't mean ignore others. You should take every person in the family seriously and make full efforts to earn their love and respect but always you should have a inch of extra effort when it comes to your husband. I believe these general aspects are to be taken care of as the first steps to enter a new family.