cellphone privacy ?

Well, my boyfriend checks my phone almost every time we see each other. He calls it a cellphone inspection thingy. I don't really mind but I guess its his reactions which bothers me. He reads almost all, ALL my inbox, sent, drafts, saved messages. Sometimes he gets jealous and confronts me about who is this particular texter, etc.. blah blah. I couldn't take it at times. I'm honest with him and I hope he knows that. As for me, I rarely check on his phone because I always put it in mind to give him some privacy and I do trust him. If he cheats on me, its his loss if I find out. It's different anyway if you're married already. You have the power to check on your husbands' phone because your his wife and who else would he be showing his phone to? It's a good sign that your husband just laughs it off when you check up on his phone. It looks to me like he isn't hiding anything from you that's why he worries nothing about you checking up on his phone. I have also experienced that cellphone inspection thingy with my dad. 8 years ago, those days when cellphones just started to come to people's attention.. It made me curious. I just wanted to get a hold of it that's why when my Dad bought one , I always use it when he leaves it on the shelf. I read several sms messages which made me suspect that my father is having an affair with another woman. Imagine, I was 10 years at that time. I really cried. My parents argued about it because I told my mom about it. That was I think one of the most painful experiences I have gone through in my childhood.. .and it all started with a "cellphone" . That is one reason that I don't want to inspect my boyfriend's phone or anyone's inbox anymore.. I just don't want to discover or find something similar to what I have found in the dad's years ago. I'm happy now with my love life and my family. I'm over it. We just have to trust our loved ones. Best of luck

Well I think all girls are guilty of that one time or another. I know its not that they don't trust their partners, I guess its just instinct that they do that. Well I don't look at my dimsum's inbox not only because I trust her, but also just in case there is something there that I shouldn't see, then I won't see it. What if she plans to throw me a surprise party? I wouldn't want to spoil that now wouldn't I? Its alright and its normal to take a peek at your partner's inbox once in a while, just don't get paranoid and worry so much with what you see. I know some guys don't like it, but I think those are the guys that have something to hide.

Well, my partner and I are completely open to each other. We've got nothing to hide, so it doesn't bother me at all whether he checks my cellphone, emails, or anything else for that matter. He is just the same way with me. Actually, our trust for each other goes as far as not being so interested to check who sent what to who. I guess it's because when either one of us receives something that we both know might in a way trigger an issue between us, we immediately inform the other about it. That's our way of constantly assuring each other that we both deserve the trust we give each other. Our moments of jealousy are not the kind that is a serious problem between us. We both strongly believe that we are meant for each other, and there should be nothing that could get in the way in our relationship.

pleeeeease, please, please i request you never do it. just receive calls in it is inevitable, answer relevantly and put off. never poke your nose into it. never probe. out of my own recent personal expererience i am suggesting you. cos i checked my husbands cell phone calls, messages, inbox, sent, draft, voice mails etc; only to disturb by loving family/homely life causing valconoes, erosions, tensions, headaches, traumas, and finally we are on the verge on divorce creating turmoil in life. now i have startedt o realize and understand so listen , no man is a SRIRAMA on this earth. men will have their own instincts. and we cannot compare saying what is it that i do not have and the otehr woman has. there are many many many differences. right from the colour of hte skin, length fo hair, voice, accent, looks, clothing, walking, talking, smiles, laughs, showing anger, way of showing love, cooking, signatures, writing, nose, lips, neck, bust, buts, and offcourse, financial status, social status, name and fame etc etc everything counts. everything matters. so dont compare and do not check. jsut leave your life as it is and enjoy it. life is very short. just enjoy it till we leave this world and we do not know whether we are going to get a human birth, same people etc etc. so what we have today enjoy it and do not trespass your own life. understand and follow my suggestion to keep your life a happiest one ever.

Nope.. not unless he gives me the permission to do so. I always believe in treating others the way I want to be treated. And I sure do not want my partner to be always checking my handphone like I am a criminal or something. i am sure entitled to my own privacy. Unless of course, if my partner were to check my phone without telling me, and when I find out about it, you can be sure I will be checking out his handphone everyday. It's all about fairness, don't you think so? In the meantime, I think i will give it a miss, as he had not yet started to check out my phone. Lol. This behaviour is pretty normal though, and most people will do it. Sometimes they do it because of a lack of trust in their partner, or they do it because they are insecure and needs to see it for themselves so as to reassure themselves that nothing is going on with their partners. Whatever the reasons are, this behavious is pretty normal if it's done once in a while. Just be careful not to let it become an obsession, and check out your partner's phone like every single minute or every single day! That will be just a-b-normal! If your partner wants to cheat on you, no matter how careful you are, no matter how much you check up on them, they will still find a way to 'beat the system' so as to speak. That is also what I found out. So, privacy is very important to me and I want my partner to respect my own space, and so of course, I give him his own space and would never ever invade into his private space unless he invites me to.

I dont check my hubbys phone because i feel like not trusting him and it is also not appropriate in my opinion since i personally prefer to keep some conversation with my friends private. There are things in my life that i wanna keep to myself. Such as stuff that girl friends are talking about and i dont want my hubby to check every now and then everything in my e-mail or in my cellphone. Respect for each other is very important for me and so i do the same. And even if i wouldnt check his mobile phone i can tell if something is really wrong. I believe that woman has the power to sense things. Womens intuition is very strong so i know if something is going on i will feel that. But as much as possible i try not to check his cellphone like im some investigator trying to find out his little secret lol. For me trust and respect is very important in a relationship.It doesnt mean that we are already married i cant anymore have some privacy left for myself and vice versa.

I think if you feel that you must do this, then to some extent there is a level of not trusting your partner. If you are feeling you 'have to be sure', there is some little part of you that does not totally trust your partner. I have never looked at his messages and he never has looked at mine. We don't text, so there is no messages like that to look at, and 98% of his calls has to do with work, the other 2% is his daughter or me. We even answer each others cell phone if the other is out of the room, outside, or whatever. IF your husband was going to do anything 'suspicious', I don't think he would use his cell phone to do it, knowing that you check it.

Good day... I trust my partner so I don't check her messages in her phone. But if I get suspicious and have some facts then I might check it for confirmation.

yes, I do it but only because my husband has cheated on me before he cheated I never did it because I did not have a reason to look. I hate having to try to keep up with that. I am getting better though as it has been 8mths, but I still don't want to be stupid.

you don't have to be suilty about this, but in my opinion, it's no need to check your parter's cellphone. you know that the more you now about the person who you love, the sadder you will feel. if you love her, you don't have to doubt her, if you really find something unhappy, that will make you unhappy too.

It's so irritating when you tries to read your message or send a message, you always had some busybodies near you looking at what you had typed. I've this experience couple of times, out of the 10 of people around you only 1 will not be looking and 9 will just seems to be curious to look at what you had keyed or send. Seems that they had the authority to see before you send officer. So whenever you try to key your message try to take a discreet peek at your side to see is it some busybody near by??

First of all let me say i dont have a partner to check her cell phones. I think it is not a good deal to check others cell phones.To be honest you must believe your partner. If there is some suspicious activity going on with your partner, there is nothing wrong to check his/her cell phone.This must be for the sake of your partner.

I do check my bf's phone every time were together which always cause us arguments,because i kept on asking questions which he finds it annoying.Even though he don't stop me doing it i still felt like he is doing something else.I think its because of the past relationship he had which i'm afraid that it might happen to both of us.There was a time i said to myself why i have to do all the things that annoys him.I don't have to check his phone,because every time i do it I'm the one who is hurting myself coz of questions i'm asking him that i know the answers already.Since then i don't check his phone even his laptop which gave a better result. We don't fight now,He miss me more and more, he do all the effort to be with me.I think its becoz i trust him now and i said to myself if he is doing something elese behind my back that i won't like it's up to him atleast i did my part to give him privacy, being patience, understanding, and loving to him.karma is a b***h anyway..

Im guilty of this very much so not that i dont trust him either jsut the fact i want to make sure whats going on and whats not suppost to be going on. Just the simple fact 99% of guys do lie so its kinda hard to trust most guys so when you come across one that jsut might be telling the truth you still want to make sure its the truth to you and not a lie or so thats my opinion. But ive also had it done to me but i dont mind it cuz i have nothing to hide so its okay.