How Do I Bring Back The Spark In My Relationship

Wow that was quite a good thing to share.I think she have something that she don't want to share.I have made all effort to make her split it out but she is not helping matters.She have accepted that she still loves me and will want go on with me but she is still deciding on it.I don't kniw what she is deciding and I fell that she is cross over something but I can't tell.Any ideas on how to break her.

There is one thing I have learned about relationships with women. It is a rare women that will feel good about hurting you. What she may have to say she knows may hurt you and sense she cares for you, as a friend, she can not bring herself to tell you. One thing you should know. Attraction is not a choice. In the beginning, before she knew you, there was something about you that attracted her. So she was good with it. Then as she got to know you better that feeling may have changed. For a woman to feel a strong need for a relationship she must be attracted. If she is not then you begin to fall into a friend category. Now this is not something she can help. It is either there or it is not. My first wife, prior to us getting married, told me that she was just not sure. I made the mistake of pulling on her heart strings because I was very sure. So we married. During the early years of our marriage it seemed to go okay but gradually, as she got a little older, things changed. She tried to tell me how unhappy she was but we were doing well so I could not hear it. We were married 37 years and perhaps 30 years into it I found out she had had an affair in our early years. I had not known it but I had suspected. However as we talked about it I got a very uneasy feeling there was more to it than that. She finally admitted there had not only been one, but seven. That was the most difficult time in my life. I went through crises counseling and with that I came to accept what my part in it was. As it had happened many years in the past I accepted it and we went on. Problem is that, due to life circumstances, it happened again and that was that. I do not regret the marriage as we have two great children and four grandchildren I love dearly but I can tell you this there were many reasons why that marriage should have never happened. Mostly however the fact she was not attracted to me from the beginning played a major part. She liked me, and even loved me but it was as a friend only. This may be where you are right now and you must not make the same mistake I did. I say this because any time a women has to think about continuing a relationship there is something very wrong. And there is nothing you can do to change it short of a major change in yourself, and that may not do it. Please find out where she is. It will be hard because she will not want to hurt you but you must be willing to accept that. You deserve to be happy and so does she. You are at that fork in the road that the rest of your life depends on. Please take the right path.