How do I say I love Her?(pls read whole detail,and understand from heart)

India
September 4, 2008 12:04pm CST
I met a girl who supposed to be my neighbor in fact...We became good friends as well as our families were like on family...We went to places,on picnics and were together always...One day i don't know what happened i wrote her a love letter which she handed to her mom which in turn was handed over to my mom(till that time i didn't knew that things)On that day nothing happened but after sometime my mother talked about that with me and the matter got serious.I was crying and locked myself and wrote another letter to(guess who??)GOD!! about what i was feeling and placed it in front of him.Till that time my mother had told abt what happened to her mother and she came to me to console me;she was not at all angry..but i didn't listened to her..After some time i came outside and saw the letter gone and saw it in that girl's hand and shocked..shocked..She came to me in a state of crying and told me to come with her to her house to talk,but i didn't and she went away.Again her mother came to me and said that she has refused to eat if u will not come and took me and i ate with her and we talked.. But from that day i talked to her very less and after some time we shifted to different city.But after 2 yrs. again i came back to the city to study and by god's grace joined her college only..Still we and her family are friends... She is my senior here and some people say she has a boyfriend whom i see roaming in college with her.For the past years i have never looked to a girl because i loved her and still do,but i don't have the courage to tell her,she is sensitive girl and i fear she will again tell her mother about it.I AM HELPLESS,Pls help me out... I m in dire need of it...
3 responses
@4magoo (396)
4 Sep 08
This is complicated but unless you do something you will never know. First, you CAN NOT walk up to her and say, "I love you." It is my belief that will scare her away. You need to be friends first. Ask her to go out for a pizza. Ask her to go to a movie. Be friends and if the spark is there you have a chance. If it isn't there, then you need to move on.
• India
4 Sep 08
You are right,but she is a studious girl and moreover does every work by asking her mother. And one more problem i would like to tell u is we are INDIANS... On this year valentine's day i even send her a few messages saying "will u be my valentine" which she didn't replied back but also didn't talked about it with me and everything is quite normal... By the way thanx for the suggestion
@4magoo (396)
4 Sep 08
I have lived in the Middle East for 4 years and traveled in India. I know that "times are a changing" in India but is she going to marry the person her parents tell her to marry? If that is the case, maybe you should move in that direction and talk to your parents to begin a discussion on your behalf. If you love her and you think that the two of you will be happy... go for it.
• United States
9 Sep 08
ok since your moms have been involved from the begining. I think it would be best to go to your mom and act as an intermediary. sometimes the other person is not interested but is afraid to tell you b/c you will be hurt. but it's easier to hear it from someone else. if you talk with her about it, then you are in danger of being called a stalker. if she is with someone else, then you need to take into consideration that she might be happy with that person and that you are going to have to call it a day. i say have someone else do the questioning for you. and leave it alone after that
• India
9 Sep 08
Hey buddy!! Thanks for the help, but there are some problems, if u have read others comments also then u must be knowing i am living in India and apart from that we are still 19 years old and in the college time only....so cannot talk about it with our parents... Also in India we have that caste problem(u know!!) which is another big problem at our age to talk about.... Please give me a suggestion by which i can directly talk to the girl so to know what feelings does she have foe me and then i can go on with the families..
• India
5 Sep 08
If you love a girl then there's nothing wrong in expressing your feelings to her. If she says no then forget about it. But take care of one thing that it doesn't affect your friendship. She must be mature enough not to talk to her parents about this. Even i proposed a girl once who was very good friend of mine. But she said no. I accepted her decision and we still our very good friends. We never talked about that topic again.