Friend requests

[i]Ohhh...I approve any request right away...I have over 400 friends and only less than 20 are active in my post, some of those who are in my post aren't not in my list..LOL! but, still, I am not making it as a hindrance for me to accept their friendship, I wish someday, they will be like me, turning on the notifications and tried to work on it day by day! LOL! It is challenging to have over 100 notifications each day but I love it since I am targeting a dollar a day here, it helps me a lot![/i]

Hi Munchkin, Oh I do feel for you on this one as when I first started I done exactly the same. I have over 21 pages of friends (most are inactive) and there are really only a handful that I am really close to. I don't like to deny though as no one likes rejection but I have three pending at the moment from people tat are still on 0, 1 or 5 and haven't shifted since hey requested last week so probably won't accept. I will however accept any one that has responded to a discussion or who has seen me via a friends discussion and got close to, bearing in mind we have over 147,000 members now though it would be difficult to accept and keep quality responses going to all eh! I answer to your question I do wait and see first. Huggles. Ellie :D

Might I point out to you, Munchkin, that most of the people who have been here on myLot for a considerable length of time have accumulated many, many friends. Of course it would be impossible to communicate with each and every one of them on a daily basis, but over time it is comforting to know that they are there. I don't cross paths with some of my friends for months at a time, but that doesn't mean that I value their friendship any less. In my honest opinion, you limit yourself when you only select friends from a specific group that you think has more in common with you. I am proud to say that I have made friends from various walks of life, all age groups, and differing philosophies. The experience has changed me and made me a better person. So, please take my advice and get to know all kinds of people.

I think they are smitten by your because of your beauty, LOL. But it is a real wonder if they are not answering your discussions perhaps they want to retain your url and check out your pics. Ha!! I'd say do not accept those friend requests. As for me, I accept everyone's requests as long as they are not having 0 post at the moment, because I would think those are spammers or perhaps trolls.

No I never reject or ignore friend requests. It is never bad to have too many friends.

Hi, is that you in the photo? You look really nice, I just thought I would mention that! When you receive a lot of friendship requests it's difficult to say no. I actually agree and don't turn anyone down as I think it's a little impolite to do that. I guess one of the main reasons that the majority are male, and no one is going to admit this to themselves, is the fact that you look nice in the photo, you are attractive!! Don't worry, I'm not coming on to you by the way! I try and respond to my friend's discussions but it is hard at times. Still, you never know regarding friendships, you may become close friends, you just cannot tell. Andrew

To be honest, I haven't even looked at my friends requests for about a year. I'm just not that interested, I guess.

i always see who's want to add me be they friend and always approve them. i like to have much friend, These people who have asked to be my friend haven't responded to any of my discussions too but that's not make me not accept them to be my friend.

You appear to have very catch and beautiful avatar, I think that attract many of the members to send you a request for adding them as your friend. I used to add everyone initially, but now a days I have become a bit selective about new additions. I remain bit apprehensive while adding a member on the basis of his/her number of posts. If the number is less than 100 and the fellow is too young, I just keep the request pending to check after few days, whether the fellow is progressing fast and is active here on my lot or not. If I find any progress, I accept the request and if I do not, I just deny it. While reviewing my friends' list, I try to figure out who are inactive for the past few months, if I am able to identify those, who are not active, I just 'delete' their names. I wish to have active members in my list, even it is a smaller one, rather than a long list with 'inactive members'.

I tend to respond to a request as soon as I notice it while I am logged into mylot. I accept everyone that requests my friendship, though I have denied some in the past when I was still new here. I myself usually request someone's friendship on here after I respond to one of their discussions (if they aren't already on my friends list), or if they respond to one of mine. In the past I have also requested friendships by searching for people that have the same interests as I do. This could be how some of these requests came about for you and that is why they haven't responded to your discussions as of yet. But then again, maybe they are just perverts as you said the majority of them are older men. Who knows? LOL If you feel that you don't have anything in common with these people, just deny their request. But either way please don't leave it hanging as these people did make the effort to request your friendship. Just my 2 cents.

I would just deleted the friends request, but first I would probably check out some of their discussions for something in common-if not "Delete" and move on.

I know this 'phenomenon' and there is an explanation. There are a lot of teenagers joining MyLot. In fact, they are happy to join everything new on the internet. They also use to ask for friendship on all websites, forums ... no matter if they have or not something in common with that person. This is the way they start. Have you ever seen a child, teen, with hundreds of contacts on their messenger list for example? I had. And they are very proud of that. In time, they start to socialize differently, they involve differently. Also, see how many people join MyLot and have no idea what's all about. Most of them understand later the principles and read the rules after 3-4 month. But this does not mean they won't do that. So, why not give them a chance ?! They may express themselves later. I will put this from my own side now. I usually reject all Friend Requests that want to sell me products or simply make me join a program they have. Or, well, to tell the truth, I also use to 'discriminate' people for their musical tastes. I can't help that ... But I give a chance to the rest of them.

Hey munch! Well, I hate to spoil the mystery for you, but it's your beautiful picture! What do think? You're so very pretty why wouldn't you be attracting attention, just be careful because you already said that you've gotten some of that "wrong kind" already! You know that I really care about you as a person and we connect on alot of levels even though I'm old enough to be your mummy (but don't want to be-then we couldn't have fun)lol! You do need to be picky at this point. You can be because you have made some really good friends that really do care about you and will look after you and defend you (you know which ones I'm talking about!) So please be very careful and if you are having a problem with someone, don't hesitate to call on one of us and do hit that mylot button!!! Yeah, that one!

I got a response from you ...for my last discussion... I think the reason for requesting you for friendship is...your photo in your AVATAR Believe me young lady , I am here on my lot since 11 July...and you are the only ONE ...whom no one can forget ..once they have seen your avatar.. I think it is not bad if any one is a admirer of beauty....regardless of age ( by beauty, I do not mean only pretty women) It can be, natures beauty, it can be Taj mahal..or any person... In my school days, there used to be a subject " MORAL SCIENCE " not sure if it is still exist ..There I remember a story of a young Prince, who lost his way, while hunting.He reached a hut of poor fisherman, had food and water from the young beautiful daughter of that poor man. After reaching his palace ...he asked his father's permission to have that beautiful lady, as his life partner...which was refused. The King was forced, to go and ask the poor man,for his daughter as his son's bride..because the prince started a hunger strike..The poor man explained the king that the young girl was not his own daughter...and he found her floating in near by river( typical old time story ) Please keep reading...There King came to know ...that the girl was his own daughter ( extra martial )....and was shocked....thinking, how he would explain this to his son...that she is his " SISTER " Any how ...he told his son of this new relation...and you know how did his son react..He started crying with joy....and told his father...I WANTED HER...AS I LOVED HER...AND BY THIS RELATION,,IT WILL BE GREAT TO HAVE HER AS MY SISTER...I ONLY WANTED TO BE WITH HER...REGARDLESS OF HER RELATION WITH ME....GOD HAS GIVEN ME THIS GIFT AS A SISTER...WHICH AN"T BE DENIED BY ANY ONE IN THIS WORLD.... moral of this story is, beauty can be loved and accepted in any form...You have mentioned that those requesting you are much older than you...In fact after looking at your profile ...I changed my my mind of requesting you for friendship , as you are half the age of mine...and you may take it in other sense...But it is not so with every one dear...I have three niece of your age and a daughter 15 years...We are here to meet different people ..and have only one option of calling them FRIEND..So, better go through their profile and accept those you can...and if you find it difficult later, ignore them or delete them... Regards , have a nice day ...

Well, I usually will try to make friend with as many newbies as possible. Firstly, to encourage them to discuss here. Secondly, when they are trying to meet their first 500 post target, they tend to be more active in the forums as well. I am glad that you are able to add me as a friend. This is good as I can turn the notification on for your profile and track the new topics you post. Then I can go and respond to them as much as I can. In the hope that you do the same for me so that we can respond to each other's discussion on a regular basis.Win win situation for the both of us. I guess when you join a public forum, there will be lots to talk about. Partly because there is people from so many different background coming together in the same forum. I am sure you will meet up with a creep once in a while. But there are lots of nice people out there as well. My thumb of rule... socialize with the nice people, ignore the creeps. And soon enough, you will be enjoying yourself a lot. Especially here in mylot!

Firstly, how are you feeling today Munchkin. Slept well I trust. I have pages and pages of friends most of whom I saw first and last the day that they sent in the friends request. Currently I am doing a little experiment. I have 10 pending friends. The first two of whom requested five weeks ago and haven't visited the Lot since. All are from somewhere other than Europe, Australia/NZ or North America. I am not inclined to accept any of them. None have visited my discussions nor I theirs. I do like to help people along, but I wonder what these folk see in me because I see nothing in them. I'm a misery aren't I. You can say yes! LOL.

Well, honestly I have had a lot of friends request in mine, but I have gotten in the habit of disregarding them. I have deleted alot of people who did not respond to me or started discussions of which I did not like. I would be fine with just having my fiance, and his brother in my friend's list here. A lot of women seem to ask for me to be friends so I can't really say that women rarely as to be friends with me. I do not respond imediately unless I have seen the person's discussions and enjoyed the content. I won't wait to see what they get up to first either, as like I said above I disregard them now.

they may just be lonely & need someone to talk to.

me, im a girl too...and i admit that i'm too friendly..sometime i'm the one who's asking to be their friend..because for me, no matter where he or she comes from, it's best that you'll be friend...having lots of friends are really fun!Because having lots of friends are having shulder to lean on when you have a problems.Like me i have a pending friends requests, i don't know why they don't add me..I don't have any bad intention just want to be their friend and that's it but if they really don't want me to be their friend that's no problem with me... happy mylotters!

Hope you don't mind a guy responding to your discussion. It came up in my digest report so and your topic caught my interest. The friends issue is a big mystery to me as well. Especially when I started getting request after request from people located in India. The first initial thought was okay kewl someone wants to be my friend. But then several other requests started coming from the same location in the world. I do have Indian people in my family, however, I am not of that direct descent. I still accept friend requests from anyone and I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It's all a matter of time before they show their true colors. Even though, I have received several friend requests; if they start PM'ing me about some business opportunity they want me to take a look at; then I know they befriended me with the wrong motive. So I ignore them. I don't delete them because if I ever start a discussion that they might be interested in debating then it improves my rating in mylot. Okay, I've been enough of the chatter box concerning this subject. Thanks for the discussion and I hope you didn't mind be chiming in even though I am a guy. Besides I dont' know why some people aren't actively looking for serious friends that they would like to debate with on mylot or simple just to support one another. It seems like to me that it would only make sense?!? A friend by my definition is someone who has the same common goals or interests as you. Someone who will be a support to you and but mostly importantly someone who can seriously let you know when you're headed down the wrong path in life. Some people simple enjoy being phony and not themselves, which is why they put up a image of themselves that isn't really them at all, just to be liked by everyone else. As for me, if I can't be real, then why do it? Some people like me, some people don't. Some that take the time to get to know me will and others that don't won't. I cannot allow what other people think of me to stop me from being a better person or from striving to become the best person I know how to be. hdjohnson