Teenagers and Dating

I think teenagers should be-able to date who they want when they want to be honest (within reason). Obviously you don't want your child dating a 56 year old man or something do you? If they were only kissing i agree that its fine, of course if she was 14 and doing something else... then that would be 'NOT' so fine. The parent should explain they want their child to do well in their studies however i think they should give them some freedom too... to date people- providing it works around the boundaries.

In my opinion i think teenagers should be able to date whomever they want. Kissing is no big deal just not letting it go any farther than that i dont see a problem with it. But no matter what a parent says a teenager will do what they want weather its in front of you or behind your back.

I think that 14 and dating isn't that bad. I had my first boyfriend when I was 14. It was a learning experience. Each one of my relationships in highschool taught me something and I'm glad I went through each one as it made me a better person for my husband that I have now.

[i]HI BYOLA, I started dating late also because of studies and helping my parents also! I am quite conservative when it comes to this issue because I don't like to have a kid in the future who will be marrying early as well as getting babies early! So, as much as I can, I will always instill to the the value of responsibility! ANyway, maybe 16 for me would be okay, 14 is too young! as long as constant reminder and advises will be given to them as their guide![/i]

well nowadays you can't really stop teenagers to date..all you can do is give them advise and be open to them..don't give them reason to have secrets..

Well i share the same sentiment. I was never infavor of teenage dating...that is one of the reason why there is a rampant number of teenage pregnancies nowadays. I started getting into a relationship when i was 18 years old and i was serious with my studies. I have seen some of my friends getting pregnant at an early age and regret it later on. So personally i dont see anything good will come out on teenage dating. Besides they are still both young and are not capable to stand on their own two feet. They are still sheltered by their parents and they are still unable to understand the seriousness of a relationship. So i believe that until you reach the age where in you know you are mature enough to handle a relationship and knows the consequence in engaging into it then thats the time they should start dating.

Teens should not date until they are 16. That is the rule in my family, and everyone has followed it to this day. If the two teens keep it innocent, and I mean innocent, then they can keep seeing each other, but she really should wait until she is sixteen to be with this boy. I did not start dating until I about 17 or 18, but they were all "blind-dates", "speed-dates", or "dates with friends who could be lovers, but there really is no chance of that happening". I did not meet the love of my life until I was 22, and when it happened, I seriously did not see it coming.

As long as the teens in question are respectful to themselves and each other and as long as their have their priorities straight then I see no problem with it at all...Both my kids are teens (my son is almost 15 and my daughter is 13) and I have the ultimate trust in them and all the confidence tht I've raised them properly ya know..in fact I KNOW I have because my son started dating about 2 yrs ago and he's a perfect gentleman....

My thought is if you tell your teen that they can't date, they are going to sneak around and do it anyways. I feel that kids are dating way too young these days too, but for me, I try to be very open with my kids. My son started dating when he was 14....he dated one girl for about 9 months and another for over a year. Now he isn't dating and I try to reinforce how nice it is for him to be able to do what he wants and not have to report to a girlfriend his every move. For the past year he has not dated anyone and really enjoys the freedom:) My 14 yr old now had a girlfriend but they never saw each other except in school. Over the summer they broke up!! I am happy about that. I hope he takes after his brother and decides that friends are more fun that girlfriends.

ok my take on this as I used to be a teenager and I have kids is that 13/14 is the dating age. I will set limitations on how much older the teen dating my child can be but I see nothing wrong with a 14yr old dating a 16 yr old that is only two yrs difference and not that much. I guess that is because when I was 14 ys old I was dating an 18 yr old. If the parent is concerned the parent can make date guidelines. Like if you are going out with him you have to have a double date or be with him in my house when I'm home or even that the parents must me the other child and that childs parents. Just because a child is dating doesn't mean to assume the worst. You raised that child and you have to hope that you have raised the child good enough to make good decision about her/his life and her/his dating. yeah it's frustrating but hey it's life and one day we are going to have to let go and leave them out on their own. Why not do it now when you can be the safety net...I guess my point is you can't coddle them and keep them safe forever. They are going to go out and date eventually but this way while they are young and dating they can freely make mistakes and come to you for advice. Just make sure you have and open and honest relationship with them.

It always depends. Someone who start dating as a teenager comes to good. Most of people, however, part. The "lovers" all part in my high school so far as I know.

please make it very cklearly as i can't be able to understand thanks

i guess they started too early. for me, someone should start having relationships when their about 17-19 years old. she's not the only one who worries about teenage love but almost every parent. i guess kids get influenced by what they see on TV that's probably why they're starting to have relationships too early.

i think its okay to have relationships like this as long as you know your priorities. and it'l be best if your parents knew. its a good feeling, right? to have inspiration and to have someone you love. but most of teenagers right now are abusing love. boy meets girl...and thats it. theyre just basically looking for fun and peer pressure for some. so, i think its already appropriate for you to be dating if you at least knew what love really is and if youre mature enough to deal with it :)

true, with peer pressure and wanting to be 'adult like' kids are dating younger. my mother always told be that when i was 16 a could date. but then again she told be because i had dry skin and was over weight that no boy would really want me. well. i didn't have my first kiss till i was 17, but i did go out on dates as young as 15, some with guys in their 20's. My mother only knew of 1 boyfriend i had which I introduced my parents to them when I decided to get married, move away and I was also pregnant with his child. it was a real blow to them. The only advice I give you is talk to them, let them be. Don't lecture them about not to date, but give them advice using your own experiences by dating. You can only protect them for so long and trust that you've taught them enough for them to make the right decisions. Warn them about giving in to early and following their heart, those things.

I think that this is a situation where it might depend on the individual. Some young people are ready for dating and mature relationships. Some teenagers just need more time hanging out with friends and not getting too serious. I can understand where a mother would have a concern. It is just part of being protective and being a mother. Some kids can be fickle. I was a teenager once and I remember being somewhat fickle but I did try to play it safe and keep friends and have a good time.

the attitude of teenagers toward relationship need special attention.the problem with teenager is that they want to try every new thing.parent and have a very important roll to play,because if there are not properly causion,they will inventually destroy themself.two things are involves if the teenagers are not properly informed they can sustain emotional wounds,and secondly they will destroy the trust the parent have for them. teenagers are meant to face their studies now,to secure their future.i think the best time for any body to think of relationships should be from the age of 20.i believe by this time, they are able to take the right decision. however, any teenager that focuses on relationship instead of her education is only laying a wrong foundation because he/she will find herself to blame.alot of people will definately take advantage of them

Well its okay to go dating as long as you know your limitations. 14 or 15 no matter how young they are they can do it for its one way of exploring who they are in the future. That how can they handle consequences. The role of the parents is guide their teens give them the pros and cons..Not that you will not give them freedom for if we do the more they will like to do it.