To SPANK or not to spank?????
By Newmommy2006
@Newmommy2006 (71)
United States
November 5, 2006 4:40pm CST
I am a 28 yr. old mother of three. I have all boys, ages 6, 3 1/2, and 3 mo.
I was spanked and I think that I turned out just fine, my husband was spanked also. I am a firm believer in "spanking"!
Don't get me wrong I also use
"time-outs" and other forms of punishment as needed. but there are a lot of times that they need to be "spanked". I don't beleive in the "talk to them" system. In my opinion these are the kids that end up walking all over their parents and NEVER learn ANY discipline! They are little kids and need firm discipline! When I spank my children I ALWAYS make sure that they know why they are getting spanked. What are your views on the whole "spanking" debate?
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10 responses
@firemansgirl001 (916)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I myself agree with spanking, at least up to a certain age. At some age they arent going to listen anyhow. I do think that time out is for the birds. I think if we were able to punish kids like our parents did, kids wouldnt turn out the way they are.
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@Newmommy2006 (71)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Have you noticed that kids are generally getting worse and worse? I think a lot of it is due to the fact that we have NO control over our kids any more! Most families think that they NEED to have two incomes to make it. And the children are the ones that pay for it! They don't have chores and responsibilities like back in the "olden days". We are also lacking "family unity". We just aren't family oriented anymore. And yes reasoning with kids is quite amusing to me also!
@kentuckyredhead5353 (465)
• United States
5 Nov 06
disipline is one thing and abuse is another. Of course smacking a hand is necessary. Leaving bruises, of course, is not. You are correct we turned out just fine, but those abused have problems. :-(
@Newmommy2006 (71)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Anymore though "abuse" is classified as ANY mark left on the childs body! I have Had many a welt on my butt (sometimes other spots too. Who actually held still to get spanked?) lol I have left a hndprint or two on my children also! I have also found that slotted spoons or spatulas leave little red marks too!!
@tsmeesa98 (576)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I am a 26 yr old mother of 4 ages 5 1/2, 4, 2 1/2, and 2 1/2 months and I totally agree with you. My husband and I were both spanked and I believe that a lot of the problem with kids today is that parents have stopped discipling their children and started reasoning with them. I warn my kids once before a spanking after that they get a swat for each year they are old.
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@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I agree with you. I got spanking growing up. I turn out just fine too. It will be lot easier for us parents when "time out" and "talking to them" works but most of the time, it wont work. My nephews, 5, 6, and 8 get spanking with their mom's belts. My hubby told me that they had to eat the soap instead of spanking. I thought that was funny.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
6 Nov 06
I am in two minds about this as I was never smacked when I was a child but then I was a nice quiet kid but when I see some kids at shopping centres I think they need to be smacked or something, maybe a little smack is ok but certainly not a belting...
@Cortney (3980)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I have no problem with spanking a child. but the punishment must fit the child. I used to spank my daughter, but it didn't work. It is like she has the buns of stone when I spank her. she is not the type to cry when she gets hurt or spanked. so I found out that puting her in time out or taking things away works best on her. If she does something really wrong, she gets spanked, time out, and things taken away.
@southpawgirl79 (22)
• United States
7 Nov 06
spanking is the ONLY thing that works for our 5 year old. we have taken toys away .....his answer..."thats not my favorite toy anyways i dont even like playing with it" and moves right to another....timeout...his answer "thats ok, im tired anyways i need to rest" i feel that those are just him trying to make us think that it doesnt bother him when we do those things to him but seriously....whats 5 minutes in the corner and then being able to go right back to playing again?
