At what point do you share your problems?

When I truly feel that I have to, otherwise, I like to keep my problems to myself. I do not want to ever seem like a whiner because I do not like whiners or people who make excuses all of the time. People who whine and make excuses all of the time just hold everyone back.

I usually take my problems right away to the L-rd, but as for people, well it depends on what the problem is..I take some problems here at mylot, but the more personal I use to take to a friend of mine, but now I feel like we have grown apart, so fortunately I haven't had anything too personal to share. So I guess I have a problem right here, I need someone to confide in when I do have problems..

Well it depends. I have a friend that I usually share my problems as they come, and she does the same. With the rest of the people, I tend not to talk about them much, or at all. Me and this friend are very close and basically we know each others lives and problems as our own. Maybe at first we did, but I don't think at this point we worry about being a bother when it comes to anything good or bad happening to us. There have been times where she called me at 2am with some complication troubling her. There have been times that she has been there for me like my pain is her pain. But I'm a bit closed sometimes, and this is basically the only person that I confide into.

I share my problems at a point when I know for sure that I can not find its solution on my own.Its not a bad thing to share them.Many a times we do get solutions and sincere help.But one has to be very wise in confiding.The person taken into confidence must be your trusted one.

The only person I have in my life that I can talk to is my hubby, but I can only talk to him about certain things. Other than that is my eldest son who is 16, I can talk to him pretty much about anything and everything, it has always been like this between us, but as his mum I do not want to burden him with my worries as they can take things on and not be able to deal with them. So other than that I tend to keep things to myself, and I deal with it all myself.

That is a very good question ambie. With me I am very open. I don't like to keep things in so I have no problem sharing my feels. I have a few friends that I talk to. Not so much for their answers as just for me to vent. I find that I don't really listen to advice anyway! Most of my friends don't listen either! So it's kind of a two way street to nowhere and now that I'm writing this it really sounds stupid! No, I do have people that I can talk to if I really need to. If things get to the point where I really need help I know that I have a really good friend that I can call who will listen and help me get my thoughts together. I also can talk to my boyfriend unless he's the problem and often he is!

I share very little here on myLot, or on the other site I use. I sometimes tell some family members, but not the ones that blab to everyone and cannot keep their facts straight. I have one or two close friends that I do share things with, and they do the same. We know that sometimes all we can do for each other is to listen and be there. Health needs I will share in Sunday School, or sometimes just with the pastoral staff.

Friends share their problems with each other. If you feel weird bringing something up to a friend when they have something going on too, listen to them vent and then ask them if could listen so u could vent a little . that is how my friends and I do it and works out very well. we all get wat we want off our chest and it makes us closer as friends

I don't talk much to anyone about my problems, except my mom. When I have something I need some advice about or when I just want to talk, to get it off my back, I will usually phone my mom as she is always there for me. If nothing else she is there for me to just listen and that always helps me feel better because I know she loves me and never judges me and sometimes she has some helpful ideas and advice. But as far as talking to my friends about my problems, never. I never tell my friends about my problems because I don't want to bother them about it, also because I don't want them to take my side and hate my husband, as most of my problems are about him. Alrightly then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris

I share problems as soon as possible with whoever is available to share them with. I've never been disappointed with this method although people do put you down all the time. Sharing is a commonplace thing and most people welcome it even if all they do is listen.

Hi I used to be the type of person who would just soldier on and 'cope'! Then things got really, really to much for me and I had an unofficial breakdown. I fought my way back and it took a very long while (a couple of years) to get 'me' back. Finally it all came together and I had learnt a lesson - when things get too much - share it! A problem shared is a problem halved. How true is that. Also, true friends will be there for you if you need them and won't mind you sharing your problems, even if they have their own problems. That is what friendship is all about - sharing (at least that is what I try to teach my kids). The person I will talk to first is my husband (unless he is the problem of course - lol). After that I have 2 wonderful sister-in-laws and although we don't live to near to each other, there is always the phone and we do see them often enough to be able to share if we need to. After that I have friends locally who would be there if I really needed a shoulder. I know I have been there for them when they have needed it and I'd like to think that if I really needed someone, they would be there for me. Violetdreams

Listen when ever you are in problem it perturb u and it does not look like usual and your attention is diverted from your normal behavior and you tend to that of problem until it solved or shared and your burden on brain is lessened. There is no human being with a lot of problem can be as normal as you have no problem. To me when ever something is abnormal with me I try to conceal it but it remains tense and I use to share it with my wife and after that a lot I am feeling relieved.

As a rule I think that it is not a good practice to hold things in for too long especially if you are feeling emotional and alone. I understand that it may seem awkward to bring up something to somebody. I usually bring up things to my husband because he is the closest friend that I have and I like it that way. He is a good shoulder to cry on. Very dependable and loyal.

I tend to keep certain problems to myself. The biggest one would be related to finances. It is very hard for me to talk about financial matters especially with family members. They seem to assume that because I am single, with a decent job that I would be financially well off. There may be some point(perhaps if it came down to losing my home, or something like that)that I would build up the courage to talk about it with family and seek their help financially. My goal is to keep it from getting to that point.

First I talk it over with God. I've learned that is the best place to start and stop. I do often discuss it with a few close friends or family members though. Most of the time that just confuses me more. Plus I've been disappointed in a few of them. They didn't offer any advice but discussed it with everyone else and gave them their opinion. Well only one or two of them did that but thats enough to make me extra cautious. I find this is a good place to come to because nobody really knows you and you can open up more.

in my case it would be my husband. he would know that it's serious from the tone of my voice and usually I will actually tell him to be there at certain time of the day because we need to talk about something. some things he takes them lightly and some things I just keep to myself, but when I am serious he will listen and we will come up with a solution. When I was single I used to come to my best friend or my dad. I wasn't close to my mother or my brothers, but they somehow always know if I have a serious problem too.

I was the type of person who NEVER told anyone what was going on in my life. Then I was involved in an abusive relationship and the counselor I went to said, "why aren't you talking to family and friends about this"? And I thought DUH! Why aren't I? There are some things you need to keep to yourself and other things you need to ask for help with. It is just hard to tell which is which for most of us.

when I am in the trouble I share the problem and I try to solve finding the solution. i never tired of the problem and tried to solve myself.

it depends on the problem. i usually rant and whine all my problems to my boyfriend; but when my problem is my boyfriend himself, i usually keep mum about it.

I understand that you don't want to be one of those people who treats everyone like their own personal therapist, however, real friends will deal with a little venting now and again. Your feelings are just as justified as everyone else. If their husband is dying of cancer and yours won't take the garbage out, you both have a right to express your fears, hopes, anxieties. As long as you try to be uplifting and supportive most of the time, you have the right to share your problems once in awhile.