Just curious about something

fwidman I dont even start discussions that generate heat as that was how I lose my ten star over night. let others take the flak, the flaming, the taunts, the sneers, not me, when I first came I had a discussion on smoking being unhealthy and I had never read such nasty and mean hearted responses, then did one on Jehovah witnesses and their rude ways, and more flak so now I stay away from them and dont post them. let others spout ugly retorts at each other, not me. I have not been back to respond to my responses on mylast discussions as I have been a bit busy but I will get there..

That is a nice good morning. Maybe the discussions starters go away for a reason, or maybe they stopped caring for the topic or you are right, they can't stand the heat. I am not sure why, part of mylot life I guess. I have not started a discussion that I have not responded to the replies I get there but then again they are not controversial.

I don't mind a heated discussion, or people sharing what they think about a subject. But people need to show some respect, and realize that everyone has their own opinions. You shouldn't start a discussion if you can't handle getting opposite opinions from your own. Like you say, if you can't reply respectfully, then stay out of it.

I have noticed this, what I have also noticed is a lot of people starting those sorts of discussions and then never answering to any of their responses at all. Not a single one, and there are loads of these about. A couple of times I have read a discussion and it seems that the person has a real problem that they need help with but when I look at the responses the discusser has never responded to a single one. It does irk me because then I wonder if the problem they have is real or they know they will get a lot of responses from it and the same as the heated ones they know when they start them that people are going to get fired up and respond which is why they do it.

I can think of two reasons why they would leave their own discussions. One reason might be because they started the discussion to stir things up on purpose and then just stood back to see what would happen. The other reason might be because they did not expect it to get heated and don't care for that kind of thing so they just stay away. I don't like heated discussions and if I would start one that got heated, I would probably just leave it alone and not return. I don't think there is any reason for heated discussions on here anyway. I think if there are those starting discussions they know are going to get heated, there should be a category just for that. I like the peaceful kind myself.

Hi fwidman, I really haven't notice that one, maybe I'm too busy posting to notice but one thing I will say it when some post their discussion and you respond to them they never come back and respond to you, I find thats annoying. Tamara

It depends on what you call heated discussions. I am pro=life and a Christian and I am concerned about babies killed in the womb, the native European population going down and no one caring,Christians being persecuted, abortion and all that. Oh why they disappear, if someone of the opposite camp would answer politely instead of ganging up with their friends, maybe the poster would stay. I mean some of those rants that are given, well I would be afraid to meet that person in person. She or he might and kill me. And there is the the other person went to University, I did not, and the other person has enough time to read all those books, and has a degree, I do not. But most of the time, it is that the discussion gets too heated that to keep on it means that there is no time to any other discussion. And in order to keep on it, you have to turn on notify on. Any way I usually finish my discussions, in those cases I decide when. I do not keep it on forever.

I have only ran into one heated disussion and I really dont remember what it was all about but it got pretty silly and I just left some girl was getting down on the Americans and she had alot of upset people.I really dont care for those type of discussions.I really dont know what happened because I didnt go back to it. You have a great night.

Hmm I do not mind starting discussions that cause heat but if you do start them then you should not run away from them. Maybe the people start them just to get a lot of responses and do not actually care what the responses are. I mean if you were here just to make money for example then you would want to start discussions that got lots of responses. The more responses you get the harder it is to reply to them all. I usually on get about 5 to 15 responses and am able to answer every one. Once I got 40 odd and it took me ages to reply to everybody and I was running out of ideas of what to say and actually make every reply different. Are you sure they are running away or could it be that they just couldn't answer everyone? Of course if they were running away then yes it would irk me.

Hi fwidman there are some that I haveseen but I just dont bother to answer them when I did once I got rather a nasty response back so since then have left those type of discussions alone..littleowl

i just ignore such garbage...not worthy of my life...they just dont have a life and anything better to do..

I can't believe you started such a heated discussion I am kidding. I think that people do start heated discussions just for the money. I am not sure why, but they do. I try not to start something that will cause heat in the kitchen, but when I do I'll run. I'm a wimp in that manner, so there it's all out on the lazy susan for ya to see.

usually when i start out a topic, i like stepping back and letting the people who respond be the ones to get deeply into it and just moderate the flow of the discussion. i usually argue on other people's topics rather than my own (hehehe). although it it kinda irritating when you reply to a topic and feel as if the thread starter doesn't really care bout your opinion or what you say because they just want to have started a topic

well its not that they start disappearing!!when the discussion picks up heat!! it would be any reason for that matter!! may be that person would have forgotten about that particular discussion that he had started along with all the discussion he/she started!! so we cannot blame it on them!!

Okay, I've been guilty of that and in a lot of the cases it has been the way that the responses are turning out. Sometimes the responses are all agreeing with what I said or are saying the same things among themselves. Mylot does not leave the option to go back into your first post to add a response to the responses as a whole. I'm left with going into every response and trying to say the same thing over and over again in a different manner. I could go into the first response and add a comment, but that makes it look like I am ignoring the others. If Mylot were to add the comment option into my first post then I could thank everyone for the comments and that it seemed as if we were on the same page. DCMerkle

ME...I do this sometimes and get busy doing other things and then don't go back..ok How many lashes with the wet noodle for me? Do I have to give back the shoes too?

I think when people jump into discussions the initial poster really can do two things, tell them to butt out or stay silent. I haven't started any heated dicussions but I've been involved in a few, some are still going, but its up to the fire starter to either let it burn brighter or pee on it, its their choice.