What are we?
By iceblizzard
@iceblizzard (749)
Philippines
September 5, 2008 9:16pm CST
Hi there guys!
I just want to hear your opinion about this. There is this girl whom I've met in the mall a couple of weeks ago. After that I got her number and started sending her SMS message and sometimes making some phone calls. One time in a festival in our town she ask where I am right now coz she really likes to watch the festival with me and we were together half past midnight and ended each other in a hotel room in the town. What we did in the hotel room repeteadly done many times, then one time she ask me "What are we?". I was speechless with what to respond. I have never courted her. What do you think guys? What are we? Basically, we just see each other, hanging out but I just could not answer her directly. I dunno what to say.
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7 responses
@jollibee (57)
• United States
6 Sep 08
do you like her? i am a woman and married now but i have been in that crazy time before. I have a boy freind we do same thing you do. but we are not really committed to each other. we just meet one time in a week and party and end up sleeping together. but i not sure he love me. but i don't care co'z i don't wanna spend the rest of my life with him. lol. we really did not work.
@iceblizzard (749)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Did he ask you or you ask her the same question the girl told me?
How do you go about it?
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
8 Sep 08
I think you are more of flirts than love birds, going by how you have described your relationship.
@janjalanex (86)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
If you don't want to be exclusive with a woman don't go out with her 'many times'. What you just did was keep pushing her exclusivity buttons. See her once a week or find another woman to date with. In a way she is right. She might be wondering where she stands with you because you keep seeing her. Search you true feelings for her dude and simply tell her whats on you mind.
@shwanks (145)
• United States
19 Sep 08
its simple. if you only like to do it with her then you are just fwb, BUT if you have any little butterfly sh*t for her, then its a little more complicated. like if your thinking about her alot, if you like her for more than just s3x...then id say its more. but ya know what the easiest way to figure it out is? talk about it with her! attempt to have a good honest convo with her about whether or not she sees herself with you. or..get ahold of one of her friends and see if you can get info out of him/her. if shes only sleeping with you and your only sleeping with her and you both have feelings, suggest making it official. yeah the relationship might totally bomb. but whatever, it might not then it will be worth the risk.
@seeiloveu (100)
• India
19 Nov 08
See, you both are attracted sexually; the night at the festival was a one-night stand!
@emarie (5442)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Wow, seems so different coming from the guy huh. Well, what do YOU want out of the relationship. She's obviously asking if you are officially dating, she may think of you in that way but just wants to confirm it from your mouth. This is coming from a womans point of view. But she really just wants you do be honest.
How many times have you guys done IT?
From the outside and what you told me it seems like Friends with benefits. She might be alright with that with the hope of it becoming more then that. She might really really like you. And thats when you really have to ask yourself where you want to take it. It might make her feel bad if the answer is nothing, but its better that she knows the truth. If you still like hanging out with her, then just say you want to stay good friends. if you feel that one day it could be more, just keep her beside you.
