do we need to change our-self just to be liked and loved?

Hi i m new user in mylot. Nice to meet you. In my opinion sometimes yes sometimes no, yes for if the changes for a really bad habits of us or not good part of ourself something is back stab people,teasing people or bully people etc and no for sometimes that is just what we are if u don't really have strong will to change you will still be same like our own characteristic and appearance.