I want my child to become...

Philippines
September 6, 2008 8:43am CST
Is it right for parents to decide on what course their child should pursue? In my humble opinion for our children to become good students and for them to be successful... We should let them decide on what they want and what they want to be...
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7 Sep 08
Yes, I agree. When parents force their children into a major or a career, their children usually don't do as well. Aside from that, what kind of parent purposely makes their child miserable like that on purpose?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 08
hi alonagatoc I think parents must allow their children to decide what they want to study and to become in later life. Each child has his or her own talents and will soon find out what they would love to study for for the rest of their lives. you cannot pick out this for them, they have to be the ones who decide what they want to do. you can encourage them to study hard and become successful in their chosen field.
14 Sep 08
I wholeheartedly agree. I have a 22 year old daughter who has so far in life made 4 career changes, and guess what, gone back to what she wanted to do, and set out to do, in the first place! She couldn't initally do what she wanted because of her grades and so decided to take another route. She has now realised that being a teacher is what she wants and so has gone back to college to get her grades and then hopes to go onto university. Although I knew teaching would be for her as she is so brilliant with children, the choices she made had to be her own. I was just there to help and nuture along the way.
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I partially agree with you but I think the last sentence is not complete. I think it should be like this...We should let them decide on what they want and what they want to be...if we are sure that it will not hurt them or other people. Believe me, but there are parents who do not care if their child will grow up stealing things, etc. But of course, it is the right of a child to take the course they want to. All we can do is to guide them, give advises (pros and cons) and support them.
@taysyd (30)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I think you should let the kids determine what they want to do in life...afterall, it's there life! I have a 16 year old and a 12 year old. Needless to say, they have gone thru several ideas as to what they want to do in life over the years. I discuss it with them, but I don't make the choice for them. Right now, my oldest wants to do something in the medical field, but she's not exactly sure what. When she was younger, she wanted to be a singer...big difference. My youngest wanted to be a teacher and right now, she's saying either a professional woman basketball player or an attorney. We'll see!