Doing a favour for family.

Giving a favor for a family member or a relatives is fine as long as it wont be too much already. I think your relative should also have thought about your situation. You have offered to let her stuff stored in your place for a while already so for her to asked that you have to hold into it for a while is not right. She should also thought that you also need to make use of your place and have some space in your house. Sometimes when you were so nice to your relatives and family members they can also abuse your kindness so know at what point it is ok to help and what point you need to say no.

i do help out my family but I don't let them push me around. which is what sounds like your family is doing. their testing you to see if you'll do more than the bargain was for in the first place. I would stick to my first arrangement I made with my family and if they say but.... then I say let me help you come up with other arrangements. their leaning on you to much and that is not fair on you or not considering your feelings on this matter. their also not considering other options that they could do instead of burdening you in their matters. families most of the time just go to family for help when their our other alternatives they just need to think what they are. I should know. I used to depend on my mom for everything and I'm 32 years old and living on my own. I kept making the excuse for years I don't know what to do without my mom's help. but since my husband left me last year and now its just me and my son alone. I have started to realize i need to do things on my own and stop assuming my family is the only ones that can help me. I have come up with other options to help me and my son out. My mom is not used to this yet and still wants us living close to her thinking I will need her. This year I am trying to prove to her I don't need that much help. just occassionaly in some matters. My point I guess I am saying is family thinks that if they lean on us once that we're the only option they can go and thats not true. their is always other options it just might not be free. but all of us need our space and raise our new families and not be burdened down with our mothers, fathers and etc.

I know what you mean, you do what you think is a small favor, and it just becomes more and more work for you. It happens to me all the time at work. I think the best thing to do is to define how much help you can give from the beginning. Since you already have her stuff at your house. Try to get her to commit to a deadline to pick her things up. (Heck, she did without it for 5 years, does she even remember what you are storing for her?). Tell her some charity is having a donation drive on a certain date and that you will put out anything she hasn't picked up by that date. That should light a fire under her. If she whines about a deadline, that's a perfect chance for you to remind her that you have been keeping her stuff for far longer than you planned already, and that you feel a little taken advantage of. Good Luck.

That is certainly a problem. We had a similar problem with some things that our friends wanted us to store for a while. We had to ask them to get their things because we ourselves were moving to another place.

Tell her that you need the space for your own things and give her the names of a couple of commercial storage units - or you could move them to a storage unit and send her the bill! She has and continues to take advantage of you. Either she moves her stuff to her own residence or finds storage elsewhere.

You should do what you want to do,and you should not regret what you had done.

Well, you have to take all those considerations (about regretting later) before making any commitments. I think you just have to tell your relative that you need your space back because of this and that reason. You have stored their items for half a decade and that is pretty a long time to keep stuff for someone, no matter how much you are close to them or love them. Just tell them that you need the space and they should come and pick up their things. if they still aren't ready, perhaps they will never be ready to take them back. The best they could do is sell them off.

ask your relative why do they have to still live their things to your house. tell them that you need your space already. they have their own place already. so, whats the problem?

Friends can take advantage without thinking about it for even a second. Sometimes they need to be politely told that they have been your friend long enough to know that although you have offer to help them out it is time for you to have your space back to use it for your things. I have helped the same friend several times and every time I have ended up being stuck paying for it one way or the other. The last time my son mover her over the hill to Reno and it cost him $300, which she promised she would pay back. She disappeared without a word. I am a push over so I get taken atvantage of alot. So try to be fair to yourself she should take her own things and go through them, she might find that she doesn't even want all of them any more and get rid of them. Good Luck to having your onw space back. God Bless

You've had her stuff for 5 years, and she still neds more time?? Wow. That was really nice of you to hold her things and for so long. I try to do things for people I care about if they ask. I'm the type of person who will do for others, but will not let others do for me. I don't like asking people for favors, I don't even like depending on my husband. I let my sister use a car that we have for a while to commute to work. The only reason why I regretted it is because she ended up disrespecting me for no reason.

Nope!Giving a favor to somebody else is fine,what more if it for a relatives.Never regret in helping.Do it without expecting anything in return.In your case you need the place now for your own things,its time for her to take back all the things she has kept in you for a long period of time.

I find myself being too nice at times. I don't notice how it affects me until my wife points it out many times.

yea i am nice too but i never figure it out