Do you think there's something to be wacky about?
By kean28
@kean28 (226)
Philippines
September 6, 2008 9:09pm CST
when your bf is calling an ex spilling his heart out with an ex (latest ex the one he slept with after we broke up for only 2 weeks) when you two fight? when your on an argument and a mess he calls her out and talk to her even if he knows that that will even make things worst because you'll get jealous and all...
i felt so insecure and upset whenever he does that...
will you feel the same if i were you?
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2 responses
@relundad (2310)
• United States
7 Sep 08
One of two things is going on. 1. They are still just good friends, maybe they had a better friendship than romantic relationship, it happens. 2. He or she still have or want a romantic relationship.
I think its number 2, since they did sleep together!
What is the status of your relationship now? It seems that you are still emotionally attached, and maybe he still has feelings for her. You need to be perfectly honest about what your feelings are and see exactly where he is. You have the right to feel insecure as he has proven to you that he will go back to her and she will have him.
Obviously there is a communication between the two of you, and you will need to get this worked out before you can even think about getting into a relationship again.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Your gut is probally right. Because he has proven to you that he will still sleep with her. He needs to leave that relationship in the past before you can be in a healthy non-threatening relationship.
You have also proven to him that you will take him back with all that you know. He already knows that you will be upset about it but you will take him back. Don't be surprised that it will probally happen again.
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
that is exactly why it's leaving me fears and doubts...because he does the things that he knows i will definitely be upset with..somehow i'm starting to be skeptical and somehow i know that i am just being pathetic with my feelings towards him because i couldn't lose him though i am much hurting and i hate this feeling so much i just couldn't be away from being such a fool..
@ankurdeor (2)
• India
7 Sep 08
ya its just human nature to feel jealous when your gf or bf do this, thats why friendship is a best relation in every sense than your commitment relation or say girl friend-boy friend relation. In friendship u not only care for your friend but also give that extra space to your friend to feel free and talk and to other friends too n all and not to miss the miss positive flirt in friendship when you know other person is just flirting and you respond in the similar fashion which psychologically increases your confidence and make you feel that your more attractive. while in gf-bf relation you expect lot from other person like to complement u and not to talk to his or her ex n all even though they are only friends now but u cant help feeling jealous , you become insecure of losing that person somehow when he does not live upto your expectations. Remember in commitment relation we have to compromise many times and if you have any problem you rather should discuss with you bf/gf by creating first a comfortable environment, if he or she loves you will definitely will come out with a solution. and remember talks with him or her wil not only solve the situation but also
will increase trust and love in this relationship. Neva let any communication gap to enter in your relations or this communication gap could lead to gap forever. Gud luck
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