are you a jealousu person?
@soldierswife68 (127)
United States
September 7, 2008 1:55am CST
I guess I have to admit that I can be a jealous wife at times. I know my husband would never cheat on me, but still, I can't stand the thoughts of him looking at another woman (I know....it's okay as long as you don't touch!) or that he might be talking to someone at work who he might be attracted to. No reason for me to suspect that it's happening, but my insecurities are horrible and haunt me all of the time! I have always have low self esteem issues, but no one would ever know it by the way I act on the outside.
Any one out there feel the same way? If so, what things make you jealous.....certain magazines, tv shows, REAL people that are close by???
What do you believe, is one of the biggest causes for women to have and keep low self esteems???
4 responses
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
im a jealous wife especially that my husband
is working abroad i don't know what he's doing..
but i'm very thankful that my husband never fails
to show that he's still so much inlove with me,
and he's longing for me everyday..he calls me
twice or thrice a day with 10-15 text messages
per day and that makes me happy and no room for
any jealousy..(",)
happy mylotting! (",)
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@pinkpassion5 (351)
•
7 Sep 08
I am not a jealous wife. I trust my husband. He is very loyal and respectful to me. My self esteem isn't the greatest but when it comes to my husband I'm not worried. I bet your husband loves you just the way you are and you are worrying for nothing. Why not get a book on self esteem and see if that helps.
Good luck!!!!!
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Never say never soldierswife,men are sometimes very cunning..I do not think it is necessary to make yourself miaerable but i have never had a man in my life that did not cheat one way or the other....Men make you have those insecurties,and that is why women have them..I quit blaming myself for insecurties a long time ago....I do not have those feelings,because no man is worth it..If they don't want me there is others out there that do..Its the men that make you have those feelings...If they would spend more time making you feel loved those insecurities would go away....Insecurities are like gut feelings....I always trust my feelings on theae issues...
@soldierswife68 (127)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Thank you guys for your comments and input on this. I totally agree, slickcut....I believe most women are insecure because of the ways in which we have been made to feel by the media, magazines, movies, videos, etc....I have had my husband tell me that him looking at a woman in Maxim, Blender or anyother type of men's magazines has no bearing....WHATSOEVER...on how he looks at me. I say "YEAH, RIGHT!" This may no be true for all men, but to me, if you have to look at these publications, there has to be a pay-off. People don't just do things (or in this case, LOOK at certain images of women) unless there is a pay-off. I can remember one of the heated discussions that I had with my husband on this issue. He said that women are CRAZY and put all of this on themselves. He doesn't buy into the fact that our society and the way women are portrayed has anything to do with it. I know some women just don't care, but for me, it's a subject that makes my blood boil! And to think some of us have teenage girls to raise -- trying to convince them to love themselves and they are beautiful JUST LIKE THEY ARE. It's not gonna get any easier, that's for sure.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
7 Sep 08
A man can either make his wife feel secure or he can make her insecure...Looking at pictures on the net is a sure way to give any woman a complex...It makes them wonder "What is wrong with me"? but the fact is nothing is wrong with you its the man that is making you feel that way by his actions...There is no woman on earth that is totally perfect and without a flaw.....We all have something & so do men...I do not believe women are just automaticially jealous without reason...The reason behind jealousey is what your mate makes you feel.If he thinks you are beautiful she will feel beautiful...I used to be jealous until i found out why women are jealous,now i am not jealous at all...I just get angry & feel disrespected by my husband when he does bad things...Its not my fault,as long as i am a good wife & i do what i know to do then if he sees something better i would say "GO FOR IT"....A woman can always find a man to make her feel beautiful...
@soldierswife68 (127)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Thanks for your response....it's good to hear from the other side. I know it must make you sad that your wife, too, feels like I do. In your particular situation, how do YOU feel about your wife thinking things about you that probably aren't even true? I know I have put my husband through alot, but seriously, sometimes, he brought it on himself.
