My husbands profile has been on dating sites!!!!

Once a cheater,always a cheater.Women's sixth sense always means something.If you just try to believe him and go on your marriage.I think you will be drived crazy by every time you feel something wrong with him.You may become jittery. Choose a better way you can lead a light-hearted life.

Though this is devastating to you, consider yourself one of the few that has found this out. In todays time this is not uncommon and has been going on for a few years. The internet dating sites have now taken the place of the Playboy issues, that men used to keep in a secret hiding place in the home or office. Internet dating sites have now taken the place of the peek shows at the strip club. Internet dating sites have now taken the place of the trple x movies that you only watched when your partner was away. Internet dating sites have now taken the place of the hot triple x romance novels that women used to read in private. So for many of those that indulge its harmless, and nothing more than a fantasy of some sort. Most times its innocent and never really acted upon for both the men and women that participate. Having said that there are those that get caught up in the fun of it and become addicted to the fantasy world of it. They meet people from all over the world with the same thing in mind, they are all hiding behind a monitor living a harmless fantasy that goes away when you stop typing. In your case, there are probally some issues in your marriage, since you speak about the lack of physical attention, this is probally more of a motivating factor for him. In past times, if you had a problem in your marriage you went to a friend to talk about it, today you can escape to a virtual world and forget your problems. You need to start communicating with your husband to figure out how to get the "zest" that he is looking for. You need to find out how the two of you can create some "one on one fun". You need to figure how why he has chose the internet as an outlet.

I feel so bad for you in this situation. I just caught mine on fling.com. He said that it just popped up and he was just looking at it. The guy is totally ignorant about computers and finds a site like this. Anyhow, if he continues to deny it, go to that site as someone else and inquire about him and find out what is really going on. You might get some details about what hes up to. As soon as you get what you need then bust him. This to me, is the same as cheating or looking at another so-to-speak. I was hurt and then enraged by the info that I found out and I am thanking Jesus for the day he's finally gone. Good luck to you!!

Hi, i know we don't know eachother so i hope you don't mind me chipping in! I can ursand that you are feeling really upset and angry! his might actually be a good place to vent though, he won't see it and you get input from different people which i find gives me perspective! Have you seen the profile for yourself? Have you got the printout? If you have confront him with it and then he can't lie about it, it's right under his nose so he can't say it doesn't exist! You're married which means you've made a commitment to eachother, so you have a right to an explanation and for him to be honest with you about this. Hopefully, if it is what you want you'll be able to work through things and get back on track again! Hold your head high, you've done nothing wrong, get the answers you deserve and then you know what you are dealing with and decide what action you want to take! I hope you get things sorted and are feeling happier soon, sorry to hear you are having to deal with this! xxxx

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I was thinking if you have proof, and he's denying it, what else does he lie about??! If it was me, I would just leave my husband. We're newlyweds, and I would just get on with my life while I'm still young. Of course, I would be very hurt. I also imagine it would be very difficult for me to leave him because I do love him. We're expecting our first baby, and he would always need to be in his daughters life like he would if we were still together. But I defintely would not be in a relationship with him. Whatever you decide, do what's best for you. I will pray for you.

I don't blame you for being hurt. I'd be hurt, too. Are you sure it is him? The only reason that I'd ever try to "trap" someone with a fake dating profile is if I wasn't absolutely certain it was really them and wanted to find out. If you're sure it's him, I'd tell him straight out that you know he's posted on this dating site, ask him to be honest with you about it and about what sort of 'zest' he's looking for. If he persists in being dishonest with you about it, and you know that he's lying, then you'll have to decide whether you can live with a man who lies to you about something that hurts you so much.

Have you seen this profile for yourself?? If not I would get the link and check it out AND SAVE IT if it IS him THEN approach him again and ask him what the bloody hell is up! I would be LIVID if my husband had a profile in secret..if he wants to have one and let me know about it thats fine (we have an open marriage just so you know) but doing it behind my back would seriously tick me off! IF HOWEVER we DIDNT have an open marriage and i found out something like that I would SNAP!! thats just b.s in my books! Oh and venting here at the lot is just fine...trust me, MANY OF US do it and you'll find plenty of kind ppl here willing to give you honest suggestions and whatnot

This is certainly a tough situation to be in. I have never understood why people seek to do things like this rather than address any immediate issues that might exist in their relationship. People just don't seem prepared to make the effort anymore. I am not sure what you should do from this point forward but first things first and he should remove the profile for one. If it is just a profile and nothing has come of it then there is hope. If he has acted on anything as a result of this profile then I would show him the door.

If you haven't seen the profile yourself, I'd be a bit iffy on the subject, however the fact that he isn't very affectionate with you also sets off red flags. Try and find the profile if you can and shove it in is his face one day and tell him you know all about it. Don't let him get away with that sort of behavior if it is going on. Stand up for yourself and your right not to be cheated on and used.

I would be so furious and If I was positive this was his profile I would confront him as you did. I was wondering where he gets on the computer at? Is it home? I was also wondering what excuse he gave?? I would check out other dating sites and see, thou the chance is he at least deleted the one as you know about. One thing to go on is your gut instinct .. Do you really feel he did and if so what are you willing to do about it? If it was your home computer you can block sites and such. It is a hard situation and Im sorry you are going thru this.

This must have been incredibly shocking and upsetting for you. I wonder how old your friend's son is. I think he is young to be looking at dating sites. Your friend did well to print off a copy of your husband's profile. I think that you should show this to your husband and ask him if he is being faithful to you. I know a guy and he has a girlfriend, his profile on a dating site says 'looking for friends'. I suggest you keep a diary of day to day happenings. Then you will see if your husband is being affectionate to you. Many ladies in your position would check their husband's mobile phone and emails. I don't think that would be the right thing to do. Discussion would be far better and more helpful. Good luck.

if you have printed the profile and he denies it then he is a liar! he may love you but that does not mean he isn't looking for some "one on one fun". do not let this drop. pursue it and you will find he is lying. sorry to be so blunt but you have proof in your hands.

He says he loves you, but do you love him? Does your heart beat like it did when you first got married when you see him? If so, fight for him and never let go. Do something different and surprise him with it.

Hi Shell , Its really sad . Please make confirm form your Husband regarding it

Myabe your hubby needs a shock therapy, that means that you wak immedatiedly out of his life. It seems that after 11 yrs of marriage he has taken you for gratned and you nteed to rekindle the love between you two. Take it as a challenge. Never accept defeat. Love your man as he is despite being nasty to you. Your heart will win his!

You know what I would do to see if he is telling you the truth or not is to join this dating site under a different name and start talking to him . Find out what you can , and get him to tell you anything you want or feel you need to know . It is not like you would be decieving him for the fact that if he is on this site trying to hook up with other women then he is the one decieving you . If you have a trusted friend you could get them to go on for you just so it wouldn't show up on your computer and they could be online while he was . I would save anything I could get just so you could throw it back in his face when you decided what you were going to do with the info . My heart breaks for you as I know what that hurt feels like . Chances are he is lying to you , as the expression goes , he wants his cake and wants to eat it to . You will have to decide what you are going to do when you have proof and this will be a very tough decision for you to make but will be better for you to know then to be left in the dark and everyone else know but you . And this is a great place to vent especially if he won't ever see it , you will get lots of input and ideas of what you should do until you make your decision yourself and one always feels better ( if only a little bit ) when they realize that other do care about what is going on and when you know others are willing to take the time and listen . Take Care and Best of Luck in this situation .

How long have you been married to him. This is a indication that he is look to cheat or already has. I would sit him down and tell him you want the truth and not to say that he loves you because that doesn't take care of the fact that he is looking for someone else to have s-x with. There is something wrong if he has a profile on dating sites. I definitely would get to the bottom of this. It is not right at all that he has done this. Don't let him squirm out of it by saying the words he loves you. That is not a fix it for the problem. If you have kids make it a time when they are gone so your husband and you can sit down and talk about this. It definitely needs to be discussed and a solution worked out.

why dont you just ask him yourself? i mean now a days, pictures can be stolen easily and some people use other people's picture as a photo for a profile.just confront him and do not think of crazy things in order to make sure, just go and ask him straight coz he might be a victim of fraud identity.

Oh wow. I am so sorry about that. I suggest that you should divorce the jerk since he won't come clean at all. There must be some psychological reason why he did that. If he truly loves you, he wouldn't have posted himself up on some dating sites. That is pretty low what he did. Don't be surprised if he also does the phone thing where he chats with other women on there. It can be pretty addicting which I know because I had done it before even after i met my hon. Boy, did i feel so stupid. i don't do that anymore since my kids and on the net keeps me busy. Besides, I am more interested in making money and reading books as well as about learning some stuff as well. When you keep learning, you will be young for sure.

If he denies it, either it's not him, or on top of being unfaithful, he's also a liar.