Whose job is it?

I could not agree with you more, relundad, it is both the parent and teacher's responsibility to teach the child because children learn from their parents and their teachers. The first people that they learn from are ALWAYS the parents, and your job does not end until that child is 18, and even then it is never really done because, children learn all of their life lessons, and some of their morals and values from their parents and the world around them, the other information they receive in their lives are from teachers, mentors, tutors, instructors, coaches, and anywhere that they can get a lecture or some kind of education. Everyone plays a part in a child's education.

I was a preschool teacher (once) and this is one of my frustrations in the field. When a parent sends their children to school they expect them to go home or end the year reading and writing like a pro yet devote so little time from their ends. In preschool teachers only get to spend 5 hours at the most with the children. Most of the time is still spent with their families. What children learn at school should be supported when they get home. If a kid is learning how to write, parents should provide motor practice at home. If their learning to read, read a book to them every night. That helps a lot. Reinforce what they learn at school by making it useful once they get home. Not only will the child feel motivated that they are achieving something, they'd also see the importance of what they are doing. And they'd feel real good too because they'd sense that their parents have a real interest in them and are also as proud as they are of their achievement.

I don't have any child but I can tell you one error that my father did with me. He tried to get involved a lot about my studies and future, etc., but he wished so hard that I become just like him, that in the end it always ended up as pressure to go really far in university in engineering, which never interested me. So don't let the teachers be the sole provider of teaching a child. Do your part (and you can do a lot!), but do it for them not for you.

My children are all grown now, but we always took an active part in their education. It is in the best interest of your children to be actively involved in school activities as well as knowing the teachers and administrators. We also did what I referred to as "supplemental schooling". Unlike "homeschooling" where you take on the complete responsibilities for educating your child, our preference was to allow our children to attend public school for the academic and socialization aspects, but to supplement their education with various educational opportunities outside of school. As an example - for a time when my children were young and we both worked outside of the home, our children were cared for during the daytime in the home of friends of ours who were of the Mennonite faith and operated a dairy farm. They learned many things through this experience that are not taught in schools. Our children were members of 4-H, a youth organization that, through hands-on projects, teaches a wide variety of skills. 4-H also promotes community involvement and volunteer work. For those who might be interested, 4-H is not just an organization for rural and farm children: http://www.4-h.org/ We also encouraged our children to be involved in the school's music program for at least one year. They could choose their instrument and if at the end of the one year, they didn't want to continue, that was okay, but they had to complete one year. Two of the three continued on through high school - one learned two more instruments in addition to the first and continues to play now that he is in college. (Incidentally, participation with band or choir - and learning to read and perform music - has been proven to be a positive factor in the learning of fractions!) Being a parent means more than just putting a roof over your child's head, feeding and clothing them, and putting them on the bus to school. Raising a child involves forming the whole individual, and you can not rely on teachers that you may hardly know to perform this duty.

I think it's a partnership and I'm doing my share. But I also think it's the teacher's responsibility to teach the children what they should be learning in school. I hate it when my kids come home and don't know how to do their homework. They insist that it was not covered in school. And it turns out that it really wasn't. I don't understand how a teacher could assign something that they haven't gone over in the classroom.

I think the parents roles is definitely the most important role. If the parent does a responsible job then the child will also be responsible. This is nature. As a son myself i always notice whatever my mother says is always right thats why i always ask her for advice more than anyone else really.

While teachers get paid for teaching your child a parent still had the responsibility to help them learn as well. There is only so much a teacher can teach a child in the alloted time for the school day. Parents need to be teachers as well and not rely solely on the school system to educate their children.

Yes, you are right. A teacher cannot be a sole provider as she is spending only 5-6 hours with the child in a day. My opinion is that parents are more responsible than a teacher and only parents can give individual attention to the child. Now the life is very hectic because mostly both parents are working and there is not enough time to spend with the kids. So parents are thinking that teacher should be responsible for every acts of the child. So it is a lame excuse for skipping away from the responsibility of their own. I am also a working mother and sometimes I am not able to concentrate my child's studies. But I never felt that teacher is responsible. I agree with your statement that 'parents doing their part in the partnership of their child's future'. I am trying to do my best because I know without parents participation a child won't be do his best. Thanks.

I think that a lot of parents nowadays rely on others to raise their children. When I was raising my two sons, I helped them with their homework, stayed to watch them play their baseball games and participated in every moment of their lives. It's a mistake to depend on others when it comes to your kids. Why would a parent drop them off at a game and go do something else?! Your kids love for you to be involved! Yes, life is busy now but if you can't take time for your kids you shouldn't have them. If you already have kids and don't have time for them, it's high time you rearranged your priorities! They are the most precious thing in your life, whether or not you realize it, and they deserve your time.

hi relundad I agree we have to also work with our kids to ensure that they really learn and have no problems. the person who was making the fuss has been on a bit of'tear with other people. she came from a horribly abusive life'with a jerk of a husband. I think now she does not trust anyone lest'of all her kids teacher. but I think we all have to help the teachers help our kids learn. My son is grown now, fifty to be exact. but we found we could help him get ahead by teaching him his alphabet, his tellingtime, his math and reading at home before he ever started Kindergarten. and we continued to monito his studies as hewent through grade school and high school too.

It's the teacher's job to teach but sometimes the child needs some extra help. It's up to both the parent and the teacher to make sure that the child gets the extra help. If the parent doesn't help the child, get a tutor, whatever the child needs, the parent is failing the child. But it's up to the teacher to speak and make sure the parent knows.

even though the kids are in school,it is our job still to help teach our children.

Take it as that the mother is the first teacher of child at home. What the child can learn from the mother and the teacher is to supplement it adding with to inculcate some new things in the child. Take it as the child learn to walk with the mother's finger in hand and also learn to weep and laugh at home. This is two way system. The teacher supplement the learning done at home and the mother supplement the things learn at school from the teacher.

I do that full time! I am not in partnership with anyone else. I am homeschooling my kids and I believe that at their age (ages 5 and 3). Although in the future I also plan them to enroll in a school but I would never ever depend on the teaching of the teacher. I would always see to it that aside from the lessons they got from the school I would also follow it up and give supporting ideas and examples. I really don't believe that it is the sole responsibility of the teacher to teach the child. In fact in every classroom there are more than 2o students, how can the teacher teach the kids personally? So it is up to the parents to follow up what ever the teacher said. Busy as we are, yes we still have to make time for the kids, when it said that you should also teach your kids, it does not necessarily means you have to create a classroom atmosphere in your house. It does not mean that you have to put on a uniform or hold up a chalk. Teaching our kids, means giving them some bits of information,in a fun way.Like for example when you are eating, while doing it you can talk about what is on the menu, is it vegetables?the leafy one? so what do you think we got from these vegetables? Those kind of conversations helps a lot our kids specially if it is done in a very informal setting.

i don't like to do some thing to effect child's future,let him do what he want to do,when sent him to school,must be listen to teach,and as child's parent,we have obligation to our children when they are under 18 ages

I think that it is both peoples jobs to teach the children the parent and the teacher. I feel tho we can prepare our children for school by teaching the basics at home and then trying to help them with their schoolwork. My daughter learnt to read by reading street signs and plaques on benches. I would test her on the signs to see if she knew them. She also knew her alphabet and could write her name at the age of three. I always try to help with my childrens homework but know find that my eldest two sons, whom are 16 and 15, homework is now beyond me. I have always try to make it fun for my children as i think the best way to learn is through play. I have always supported my children in their sports as well.

i am a student~~ hah