If I have a different opinion would you hate me?

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Philippines
September 7, 2008 10:31pm CST
I have notice that whenever we comment into someone's post the tendecy is that we have "fear to some extent" if others might give a negative fedback or something like that, I mean this is a forum network, altough we are guided by the guidelines of mylot and abide to that, do we have to agree each other at all times ? Do you hate me for instance if I would throw a negative opinion over yours ? Have you given a negative feedback to someone here in mylot ? Have you also experience that someone was being rude to you? What actions have you done to someone who is not in agreement with your opinion ?
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61 responses
@chinniR (661)
• India
8 Sep 08
hi there. i wouldn't hate if anyone gives a negative opinion. after all everyone has the freedom to express what they feel. i would think about what they would tell. if i feel it's right i would take or else no. but i won't hate them for that. so far i haven't given any negative feed backs to anyone in mylot. at times my friends have been rude to me, but it was when they were disturbed for some reason. at that time they would tell that their comment is only right. such situations i don't speak back and i allow them to cool and later on talk with them. happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I think that is a healthy way too, if there is too much heat in a discussion maybe we could come back later when one is already in cool mind. Appreciate the respons chinni !
@leafgxu (472)
• China
8 Sep 08
Everyone has his or her own opinion. I don't hate others when they have the different opinion with me. We come here is to share our own opinion and discuss with others.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Sometimes its in the way how you deliver your opinion that matters. if you stated your point in a nice way perhaps others would not feel offended by your post but if you inject harsh words that would insult the person or degrade them i would say that will eventually put a really negative impression on you.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Well it says you could not please anybody at all. that is the risk you have to take but if you know deep in your heart you did nothing then there's nothing to worry about or maybe avoid topics that really encourages you to post negatively.
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I can see few instances here in mylot wherein a regular mylotter respond to a negative discussion with tactful words, still some people view it negatively.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
good suggestion, its saying that get off the kitchen if you can't take the heat
@lily3753 (388)
• China
8 Sep 08
Of course not ! there are so many different people on mylot ,and so many people come from different countries ,and they background in different cultures . It is commen if somebody have different opinions with you . And for me ,if somebody have different opinion , I will try to compare these .Why ? And should I change my opinion because the other persion lonking further ,or should I hold my own opinion because other's is ridiculous ? If you want to keep an opining mind ,you should take many other people's opinions.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Few people here in mylot can't handle negative opinion, as I log on here, I noticed that on some posts, which resort them to name call someone or delete them in their friends list or give a negative rate to someone who is not in agreement with them. As you pointed out if someone keep an open mind, these people should learn how to accept some ideas that doesnt necessarily in agreement with their idea.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I think that each and all are the same on this subject. We don't want to receive a negative comment on our response, nor as a discussion owner do we want to see a response that is not of our own tastes. We are all guilty of this chain, and I don't think it can be broken even if we wanted it to be broken. It's a weird and definitely different kind of loop. I do not think that I could hate someone for it, but I know that chances are I wouldn't respond to them if I could not think of a constructive way to say what needed to be said in response or to raise my own point on why I disagree, or stated what I did state in the start of the discussion if it is my own. I do not think that I have given negative feedback, but if I have I am surely sorry for offending. I have experienced rudeness, and I believe this person has since been banned. I responded in due of what I felt needed to be said, allowed him to respond once more and then reported him. The topic was of working, and he stated that I had probably not worked hard at all, I corrected him. That's not the point at all, and I'm sorry for rambling so. I believe I have answered all your questions. I love your avatar, it is precious.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 08
It is good to know that mylot immediately responded cases of rudeness like what you have experienced somecowgirl ! There is a difference between rudeness and giving an opinion which case the receiver perceive it to be negative, the former called for a foul on mylot rules.
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
Definitely not! I'm not a Yes Man, and there wouldn't be any point in posting a discussion if you weren't willing to listen to all opinions and take them on board. I've found I've often changed my opinion about something once I've read things from another's point of view. We can't know what it's like to walk in someone else's shoes, and life would be very boring if we all felt the same - therefore, as long as we are respectful of eachother, different opinions should be gratefully received!
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
You're quite right, torchablazed! Being different is what makes each of us interesting in our own special way.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
It is very unhealthy to live in a world when everyone agrees you all the time, :( my point of view.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
Well I have given negative feedback and I have had it given to me. It gets so that I feel that I have to agree with the person, and I really do not want to. I want my own opinion but if that opinion makes them hate me, what am I to do? And if I am misunderstood, do I have to just answer fluff discussions? I have not given a negative rating, but not because I wanted to, but because of fear and I am not supposed to have fear. It leaves me in a quandary. I mean I want to be a nice person, but if the only way to be nice is to nod my head and say, "yes, yes' like a little puppet, how can I live with myself?
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
That explains why your rate I notice would go for 10 then 9 then 7 then goes up again the next time. I would appreciate and value fellow mylotters if they would comment something negative but honest and eventually would help me better in a sense. I commend those mylotters like you suspenseful of being strait and honest response.
• United States
8 Sep 08
i DON'T HATE ANYONE !I may hate what they believe in or what they do but then it is time for us to just agree to disagree not to hate!Hatred is self destructive
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
8 Sep 08
Well its like two years now for me on MyLot. Nobody ever got rude with me here. I know everyone has its own way of thinking, seperate life style and this world is a school of thoughts. For me, if you have different thoughts about anything then why would I hate you for that or even get rude. I shall try my level best to convince you but if am not able to then why getting rude or start hating you. Convincing is another way of good debate which we usually have competition of debates in schools and colleges so students can increase their speaking power and also help in overcoming confidence by speaking standing behind dice on stage in front of people.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Sometimes, we don't know if someone has already offended on us, and secretly, give us a negative rate or delete you in his/her lists of friends jsut because one time that person doesn't like what you said in the post, that would explain sometime that other mylotters rate decreases. I would give a positive respond to someone who give an extra effort of responding to my discussion as a compliment but I never did give a negative rate to someone who is in disagreement with mine.
• Malaysia
8 Sep 08
Everyone have their right to write what they like. I will prefer to put opinion that will tell my view or new suggestion. I will no nothing if someone doesn't agree with me. That their opinion so I am going to respect it.
@ml2blog (414)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Everyone has different opinion basic on his/her own experiences or thoughts. I don't hate people having different opinion than me. But I don't know about others.
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@ehlsie (730)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
ofcourse not...It's your own opinion and people has different opinions...So just respect her'his opinion rather than hate him/her...It's like respecting each other. But there were some who cannot understand and can accept others opinion specially when their opinion is opposite to them... happy mylotters!~
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Well said dear. Happy mylotting to you as well!
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I don't have to hate with what your opinion would be. Each has its own perception and views in life, that is where we stand, and you don't have to argue to where you stand as long as find it right. I may not agree with what you stand is, but I will fight till the end your right to express it. We are subject to be different, and thats what make it challenging, an exchange of one's ideas so we can learn from them.
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
The flow of opinion is valued greatly here in mylot, that is the beauty of this site is , thanks for the thought iceblizzard !
@reoko10 (578)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Well I have not been on mylot that long to get a negative feedback, but if I did I wouldn't do any thing about it. It is just the way that person feel and I can't stop them from the way they feel.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
We can do something on a negative opinion though if we think it already did go beyond mylot rules and guidelines. Still we value opinions whether they be positive or negative ideas.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
8 Sep 08
i wont. what you says i can clearly understand. i wont be angry. different people can have different opinion here. its very natural. also its not required to be always in sync with the user who started the thread.
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@littleowl (7157)
13 Sep 08
Hi torchablazed..I would never hate you if you gave me a negative response to one of my discussions as that is your opinion on the topic I brought up, there is nothing wrong with that as we are all entitled to our own opinion..yes I have had a couple of people who have been rude or unkind in their response to me but I ignore them its the best easiest way to go about it..well I find..littleowl
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
glad to know that littleowl, hats off on you.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 08
torchablazed hi I do not hate anyone for having a different opinion, I dislike people who disrespect my opinion and call me names because I do not agree with them. that is not respecting me or other people. We have a right to our opinions whether or not they agree with others or not.To respect each otherwe can disagree but still keep a civil tongue in our'mouths and on our pens.you can say I dont agree, and I think 'such and such and not be hurtful, but if you day I dont agree you knucklehead, you moron. that is flaming and not allowed by Mylot at all.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 08
darned typos should be but if you day I dont agree you knucklehead or you moron, that is flamingm, and not allowed by MyLot.
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
A line must be drawn on what is debating or disagreeing one's opinion and naming names of someone just because he/she doesnt agree with you. Calling someone with "knucklehead, moron" or such like are uncalled for, refuting someone's point of view is healthy while refuting for someone who you do not know in the first place is sick.
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I had such experience maybe twice or thrice already here at mylot. It's not at all wrong to comment or to give feedback to discussions and although you have a different view from the majority, I really don't mind it at all smply because I respect all people's opinion on everything. The only thing is that: can these pessimists just express their views/feedbacks in a nice subtle way, at least?
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
they are no longer pessimists then
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
8 Sep 08
i dont hate someone coz everyone has the right and have different opionion
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• China
8 Sep 08
no, i wont.
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