Sticky Situations
By zed_k4
@zed_k4 (17589)
Singapore
September 8, 2008 1:23am CST
Hello mylotters
Here is a discussion.
Have any of you guys been involved in any form of sticky situations before..? And how did you guys manage to get out of it..? Or failing to do so? Do share.
As for me, I had been in this sticky situation before. I had been on a date before and that was actually as a 'stand-in' for my friend whom was so embarrassed to go on a blind-date with this lady he met from the net. My friend is good looking but somehow or rather, this lady sort of 'fall' for me, whom she got into thinking that it was actually my friend.
I was very guilty and told her that I am not the real person she had been talking on the phone and chatted with. I told her that my friend was very embarrassed to meet her up and sent me instead. And luckily enough, she didn't get angry. And she agreed to meet up with the 'real guy', whom is my friend.
And the sticky situation was..? She later confessed that she had fallen for me, the guy that she HAD firstly MET, instead of my friend that she had been chatting and talking on the phone with. That was a real sticky situation for me during that time and I backed off, since I did not want to hurt my friend at all. I told the lady that I was really not into relationships at the moment and that's it. Luckily I had a firm stance because up till now, this friend of mine is still my riding buddy and we go for long rides and traveling etc.
So what's your story..?
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13 responses
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
8 Sep 08
There are some nice stories in literature about this kind of situation. My favorite one is Cyrano de Bergerac which has several modern sequels, but the original play was written by Edmond Rostand, a 19th century poet. I love plays written entirely in verse!
In this play, Cyrano, loosely patterned after the real-life Cyrano de Bergerac, a 17th century dramatist, is madly in love with a girl named Roxanne, but Roxanne is in love with another guy who is sort of green around the edges, and she asks Cyrano to help him out and look after him for her. Look after him, Cyrano does, even to the point of helping him compose eloquent love letters to Roxanne.
Well, I guess you can see where this is going. I had better not say who ends up getting the girl in order not to spoil the ending, for one day, if you have not already, you will want to see the movie!
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Yeppers, when she found out that all those beautiful letters were written by the smart and sensitive "ugly" guy and that the "pretty" guy was clueless, weak, and inarticulate, she sought inner beauty. All young ladies should be so discerning.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
8 Sep 08
You did your readings well, I must say.
OK, lemme make a guess. In the end, Cyrano gets the girl of his dreams, Roxanne because the lady realized how much Cyrano had loved her and sacrificed his love for her for someone else...? Correct me if I'm wrong, ha!! 
And I might catch the movie even after you've told me the truth...Please, pretty please. 
And I might catch the movie even after you've told me the truth...Please, pretty please. 1 person likes this
@suruchi86 (1872)
• India
9 Sep 08
A very interesting situation for you, your friend and the lady. But, I think, you did a proper thing by telling the truth to the lady and then moving out for your friend. Sometime this kind of strange things happen in life and under such circumstances, no standard solution can be prescribed. Every time, the solution need to devised as per that particular situation.
@getnbuy (1312)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Can't think of any off hand, zed, but you managed yours very well. What if you had fallen for the date? Would you have dissed your friend? It sounds like you wouldn't have. You are a loyal friend. My only word of advice would be, don't put yourself in that sort of situation again. Let your friend handle his own dates, etc..
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
I sort of had fallen for her wily charms, getnbuy, ha!! Yes, I do admit that my friend comes first before betraying him. Or should I say loyalty comes first, as you have mentioned.
And yea, I wouldn't want to be in this kind of sticky situation anymore. And I've got to let him handle his own problems the next time. Thanks for your advice, I truly appreciate it very much.
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I would not try to do that because what happened to you would be possible. That's really unfortunate for everyone involved. I think it would be better to simply let your friend handle it themselves.
I have been in some situations that were uncomfortable before; but sticky...not sure what that is exactly. 
I was once asked for money by a person that it appeared was less than honest. I felt uncomfortable. I guess that is one example of a "sticky" or uncomfortable situation. Is that the sort of thing you meant?
I have been in some situations that were uncomfortable before; but sticky...not sure what that is exactly.
I was once asked for money by a person that it appeared was less than honest. I felt uncomfortable. I guess that is one example of a "sticky" or uncomfortable situation. Is that the sort of thing you meant?1 person likes this
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
14 Sep 08
Thanks for trying your best, my friend. I truly appreciate it. The sticky situation which I meant goes something like you being stuck in a situation that you can't really get out; something that puts you in a spot. I guess the thing which you said is something like that because you felt in a spot...?
@ellie333 (21016)
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8 Sep 08
Hi Zed, What a lovely friend you are, if only more people were this considerate. I had a situation about 16 years ago after my divorce where I was the only single female in a group of married friends and my friends ex-husband rang me drunk one night to ell me he had feelings for me and I just said that it was because I was the only single female within the group and he was missing his wife and that as she was my friend I wouldn't go there anyway. He phoned the folowing day and apologised bless but we were both low and lonely and it would have been easy but at the same time it would have caused too much hurt eh! Friendship is far too important to lose over something like this and I am glad to hear that you are still firm friends. Ellie :D
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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8 Sep 08
Hi zed_K4,
I have never been any sticky situations before, but you my dear friend that is another thing, I know you don't want to hurt your friends feelings but its best to come clean because when it does comes out you will hurt your friend more, tell him that this girl likes you more and in that way at least he will know whre her real feelings lies.
Tamara
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Well first let me say that it was very good of you to confess & tell her the truth,women appreciate that when you are honest...I see how you feel about not wanting to hurt your friend...I would just tell him what happened & tell him what she told you and ,that you were not looking for a realtionship & that you would not do that to him anyway...He will tell you right away if he cares if you want to date this woman...The real sticky situation is that your friend is never going to meet anyone as long as he is to shy to go meet them.Tell him what happened and tell him you don't want to fill in for him again because one day you are going to fall for one of these women he sends you to meet.....If your friend tells you to date her and if you want to then date her ,but only if your friend does not care.....
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
Thanks for your compliment there, slick. But if during that time my friend told me to go date the lady, I still wouldn't, because I knew that in the first place he had feelings for her.
Sometimes life is really a mystery. Ha!! Thanks for your input sweetie.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
8 Sep 08
[i]Hi zed,
wow! That was a good decision! I haven't been in a situation like that..I consider mine as funny since my best friend in College has a great crush on the guy who was courting me before and I didn't like him so one time when I was very sick, this guy ask my best friend to accompany her to visit me and my best friend loves it so much because they have time to be together even if they are just talking about me..LOL! and she always wish me to be sick that time..LOL! It's fun to recall and now we are all married with different partners and of course, we are all happy and they guy never knew about my best friend's feeling for him! LOL![/i]
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Sep 08
It is really a very sticky situation of yours. You are right to have a firm stance about this so as not to hurt your friend. You are a nice person, zed.
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@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
9 Sep 08
I think that yours is case of mistaken identity. The lady who had on internet or phone with a guy she do not recognize may be your boy friend but concealing from you. See these are emotions of a woman who fall mere on chatting and calling. Why do not you both satisfy her he was not to whom she is finding and I think your in the manner your friend behave will sense some thing reflecting otherwise every thing will be alright.Comment and have a nice day.
