My sister and me

United States
September 8, 2008 11:20am CST
My sister and i had a huge falling out last december. its not the first time that this has happened. Shes 5 years older than me and we have only gotten along for a few years of our lives. So anyway, last year i went down to see her but stayed with friends of mine first and my kids got so so so sick that we were at the drs and everything for the first 2 weeks. i told my sis that i couldnt stay with her because the place she was going to have us say didnt have heat and her house was already croweded. so she got sooo mad and hasnt forgiven me for it yet. now i am doing good to get a response from my emails to her. she is supposed to be on anti depression meds but she doesnt think she needs to be on them. i cant tell her she needs to be on them because she wont even hardly respond to my emails. I dont know what to do, my DH says to just ignore her because she is just trying to get attention but i send her a little email at least every 3 weeks to find out how she is doing. oh, and she wont even talk to my friend anymore either... has anyone else had to deal with something like this and what have you done? i am also many states away, so its not like i can just drive over there... anyway, it hurts because the way she acts and is going to miss out on my kids, but i guess its her decision huh?
1 response
@mychattime (1013)
8 Sep 08
Oh you poor thing, how awful for you. Thats never happened to me, well me and my sister never really got on until I was pregnant and now we are very close so its only been the last 5/6 years we've really got on. Your sister should surely understand why you couldn't stay with her if there was no room, heat etc at the end of the day you have to put your family first especially your kids. Depression is a terrible thing to have but at the end of the day your sister needs to help herself, there is only so much you can do for her, I hate it when people don't take their pills or whatever because they don't think they need them to me its kind of selfish as she is only thinking of herself, guess that is what depressed people do but its good you care so much about her. If I were you I'd be doing the same, emailing her every month to make sure she is ok, at the end of the day you have let her know you are there if she needs you and the door is open, I think you are doing all you can and now it is up to her. Do you have any family or anyone live near her that can keep a check on her now and then? If your sister really has bad depresion I wouldn't take it to heart to much just keep going the way you are, give it time I'm sure things will improve :-)