I dont know what to do.....
By corahsmommy
@corahsmommy (35)
United States
September 8, 2008 7:47pm CST
I am 23 years old and my mom and step dad are going through a divorce. I feel like I am stuck in the middle like you would feel if you were a child. I dont know what to do or say to either one of them. There both trying to confide in me and I am so confused. I am the only person that my mom feels that she can talk to and I am the only person that will talk to my step dad. My step dad stopped by my house tonight unexpectedly*which was weird* he just wanted to see my daughter. He misses her alot too. he started crying telling me that he hopes that my mom has not found another man and that he hopes that she has not fallen out of love with him and I dont know what to say. My mom has not really told me much about any of that. I do know taht she has not found anyone else but I dont know about the whole falling out of love thing. My mom is a very independant person and she does not like to be told what to do with her money and she does not like to have someone up her butt all the time and theat is exactly how my step dad has become. She could not even come over here to see me with out him calling every 10 minutes wanting to know when she was coming home. I know that my step dad is broken hearted about my mom leaving and I dont know how to console him. I love him like he was my own dad but I have a fear of what to say. my mom thinks that I should defend her no matter what because she is my mom but I am stuck in the middle I want to say things to him to make him feel better but I dont want my mom to think I am sticking up for him insted of her. grrrr I dont know what to do. I feel like I have a huge weight on my shoulders. I dont know how much I can take of this. I just want it to be done and over with. I told my step dad tonight that no matter what happens that he will always be my daughters papaw and he will always be welcome to come and see her. That made him happy but I dont know what my mom is going to think of that. I just......dont know.... is there anyone with any advice out there?
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@weerick (36)
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9 Sep 08
Hey, so far your doing a great Job. It's gotta be hard being stuck in the middle of this. I feel for you. It's just like when your two best friends fall out and you fear talking to one incase you upset the other.
In regards to you wanting your step dad around to see you and your daughter, im sure your mum isn't going to get upset at you wanting to see the man you know as dad and im sure she wouldn't want to keep her granddaughter away from her granddad either.
It's cool your there to support them both, just remember to take some time out for yourself though.
@corahsmommy (35)
• United States
9 Sep 08
thanks so much for your advice. It makes me feel good to know that someone other then my family thinks I am doing the right thing.
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