How to Know When your Child is Ready to be ...
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
Singapore
September 8, 2008 9:47pm CST
potty trained. I have seen some 20 month old toddlers already potty trained. My daughter is already 20 months and am wondering whether I should start. What are the signs to indicate that they are ready to be potty trained? Thank you for your response! Have a nice day!
2 people like this
14 responses
@reoko10 (578)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Well I potty trained my daugther as soon as she could walk and my daugther stared to walk at 7 months. She is now 2 years old and she's all potty trained and I am loving it. It is better to potty train them early so they wont be wereing pull up at the age of 5 or 7.
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
Wow! You made it sound so easy. Wish it was that simple with my daughter. But will give it a go as per your suggestion. But a potty in the living room does not sound too appealing to me...
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
Your daughter walked at 7 months, that's very quick. And you potty trained her already? How did you start? Tell me!
@reoko10 (578)
• United States
9 Sep 08
It was easy all I did was put the potty in frount of the TV and after she ate I sat her on the potty until she did something and when she did I made a big deal about it, now after she got that down I stared making her use the big potty and soon she got that down and then she started telling me when she need to go.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 Sep 08
My Mom said she started training me as soon as I acted like I hated being in my own filth and wanted to "go big pot" so she got me my own little potty. My brothers, that was harder, they didn't seem to care. She told me it took forever to get them to care enough to even use the thing. So there must be a big variation. I know people who have 5 year olds who aren't potty trained.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Not all children express the interest by talking. Some point or use sign language. Studies have shown, that children know what they want before they can say it, there can be some lag time.
I think 5 is very late, unless the child has a disability that is severe enough to cause problems with learning it, I also think that's a lot of diapers to go through and the kid must be almost able (if not disabled) to change his or her own!
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
If you can already talk and say you want to go to big pot, then i think it's okay to begin. My daughter is not talking much yet. My aunt said that if the kids can at least express their wish to go toilet, then toilet training would be much easier. I just saw someone letting her daughter pee in the bush (though not hygienic), but she was younger than my daughter. My, my! But 5 years old is a bit too late to start. Goodness! How much money is wasted on diapers?
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
YOu're right. They know how to point when they want some food or drink or a toy. Surely they would be able to tell when they want to go to the potty. I just have to be patirnt with her.
@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I think you can start if you feel your child is ready or if you want to give it a try. I do think the earlier you start, the better but...
I started with my daughter when she was about the same age. She would occassionaly go and then we ran into some problems. First, someone (a family member) flushed the toliet while she was still on it. It scared her beyond belief, she wouldn't even step into bathroom without freaking out for a while.
Then, things started to improve, but we would have these moments that seemed like a step back. So, I stopped pushing her to use the bathroom, but would encourage her and put it on the toliet a couple of times a day to try.
It wasn't until she was 3 (actually almost four) before she became fully potty trained. Our doctor said she will when she is ready and it honestly went that way. I always say it seems like she just woke up one morning and decieded she was ready to only use the toliet and wear big girl underwear (as opposed to pull ups)
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
Thank you for sharing your experience. I do feel that sometimes it is one step forward, then two steps back, with my daughter when it comes to other things. So I guess, I will give her the time. When she's ready, she will do it in her potty.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Yeah I think it is timely that you put you baby into potty training already. I have my son started by letting him watch me pee on the bowl and let him realized its okay to do it. Slowly we played along in turns for him to do it. Then we just realized that there came a day that its all okay. A big No no's is forcing him/her if she is resisting it.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
I think I should start already. We bought a mini toilet seat for her. But she resisted, so don't know whether a small potty will work for her instead. We let her sit on it at the store, but she wants to dip her hands in the bowl. I can't imagine her doing that when she has her pee or poo. Will try again soon.
1 person likes this
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I guess you have to be patient enough make it as a play thing at first for her to appreciate it. Also if you can show her when you pee also could help her better understand what it is.
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
I think she knows the concept but just refuses to try it out. Will demo for her still. I have to be very patient, I guess.
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
My daughter of twenty nine months started potty training at nineteen months, It was very hard.. but I am amazed because she is eager to use the potty and enthusiastic about it, in her twenty months, I can remember waking in the middle of the night because she is waking me up and she wants to sits in the potty..from that time, the use of potty is second nature to her in the morning and at night, today, she will miss only if she gets super tired playing at daytime, that no matter how I tried to wake her up for the potty time, she will not obey, I just carry her while sleeping and let her sit on the potty half asleep!It's funny but it works for us.. have a great day!
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
That's so funny. I can't imagine doing that for my daughter. I think she will get really cranky if I do that in her sleep. She wakes you up to go potty at night, that's wonderful. You have trained her well. How did you teach her?
@ProudMommy22 (705)
• United States
9 Sep 08
My son is 2 years old i have been trying to potty train him for about 2 months now and of course its not working as well as i thought it would. He knows what the potty is and he knows what hes suppost to do but he hasnt got the concept of taking off the pants and pull up yet. Working on that.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
Maybe you could help him with the taking off his pants and pull it up for him when he's done. If he's already willing to go potty, I think that's a big step already. My daughter is learning to pull up her pants, although she is not doing that well, she only pulls up the front. But I need to help her get into her pants first before she could pull it up. I guess I have to be patient.
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
The earlier you start the better. It takes little patience initially, but it is worth the effort. You can tell him that passing urine must be done in potty. Use a word to describe it constantly, something like "shi shi."If you have an elder child, it becomes much more easier to demonstrate. The more effort you take, better ready will be the child.
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
Ok, I must constantly tell my daughter that she needs to go to potty when she urinates and constantly describe the act to get her to remember. No older kids, so have to demo myself, I guess.
@ipissakusina (930)
• United States
9 Sep 08
im sorry hon, i hav no children yet so i can't be any help. but i do wanna comment though
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
No worries. Maybe someday you might want to ask this question yourself and bear on mind this discussion thread I started!
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
My pedia has been pestering me to potty train my 2 year old daughter. though she knows how to express her urge to go to the potty most of the time, she still cannot completely do without nappies. I believe i should not force my daughter on this issue. I know that I will know when she is really ready for this. Children grow at different paces. Some pedia even say the older, the better. That way children can fully tell the parents that they need to pee or poop in the bathroom. Don't pressure yourself, it will just drive you nuts.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
I'm not pressured, at least not yet. But I want to know the signs so that at least I won't miss it when she's ready to be potty trained.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
9 Sep 08
[i]Hi Sydney,
I have no experience really about this but for me as long as you want to do it, why not trying? the early the better...As long as you will do it constantly, I know they will learn it to be part of their routine!
Anyway, I hope you will get a great tips from Parents here, for sure, it will be more valid and reliable![/i]
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
No worries! I'm going to try to start getting her used to the potty first and when the time comes she will do it there, I hope. Must get her into a routine, you're right. Crosing my fingers and toes.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
9 Sep 08
Hello Sydney,
I have a problem too. My son is already 2 years old and he is still using diaper. Since he is big in size, it is hard for me to find a comfortable diaper for him. Right now, he is using XXL. I tried to train him but he's still unable to do it on time. My friend's son started potty trained when he was a year plus.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
XXL? My goodness. My daughter is small sized and already using L and was wondering if she will still be wearing diapers before she has to upgrade to XL. My aunt also told me that she was worried that his son was getting larger and might not fit into any diaper soon, so she started toilet training, but I dont think that that should be the basis of starting to toilet train.
1 person likes this
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
9 Sep 08
Well to be honest with you i had started to potty train my son when he learnt how to sit. Now he is 15 omnths old and knows wht he has to say when he wants to make potty. he starts chanting "kaka..kaka" So i know that he wants to make potty. I think one should teach when the child is ready to accept the potty training and not forced. They would not give you signs that they want to be trained but you would have to try and see if they accept
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
I was just responding to someone who toilet trained when her kid knows how to walk. You have broken the record, you toilet trained your kid when he learns to sit. I guess it's trial and error for me.
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
9 Sep 08
one of the key things i was told, was when child wakes up with a dry diaper, you can try starting as this is a sign that their bladder doesnt fill up as fast..if they are still on a bottle or get a sippy cup or drink of any sort to take to bed with them, then wait. I mean you can try to train them for day time, but take it form someone who did that (i figured i didnt care if he was in diapers at night til he was older i just wanted him in underpants for school and such) its a bad idea, because then when you want them to get through the night in undies..its that much harder. You want to try and do it all around the same time, so no drinks taken to bed and if they can go through the night dry or with maybe one wetting.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
She still drinks from a bottle before bed. She still wets her diapers when she sleeps at night. So you think I should wait. Some people suggest to do day time training and proceed to night time training around the same time, you think it will work?
@jmhall (143)
• United States
9 Sep 08
The only advise that I would give you is to not force the issue or to get in too big of a rush. When the child is ready to start they will. If they can tell you that they need to potty and understand what potty is then I would say that it is ok to start. I have almost 3 year old twins and neither is potty trained yet. Only one even has an interest. The potty has been out since before they turned 2 and one has shown some interest in using it but not on a regular basis. I personally think that if you constantly have to ask them if they need to potty and are taking them in there constantly just to see if they do then your are not really traing them to use the potty but are just training yourself to take them before the pee in there pants. I personally have been potty trained for sometime now and don't need the training:) So take it slow, let them get an interest and try not to be negative if things go slow they will get it before to long it just takes time and all kids develope and learn at different stages.
1 person likes this
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
I know that they all learn at different stages and begin to show interest in different ways. I guess I will have to let her lead me when it comes to potty training. I'm sure soon enough they will get it. I have been showing an Elmo VCD on Potty Time, I wonder if she has ingested the information. But sadly the VCD does not show much stuff happening in the toilet.