should schools have a hands-off policy?
By xialinye
@xialinye (1403)
China
September 8, 2008 11:59pm CST
you would expect to get into trouble for fighting in school or for tripping someone in the halls.but what's wrong with high-fiving a teammate or giving your best friend a hug?
Joyce Kilmer middle school in Vienna,virginia,has a new rule about touching in school:it's not allowed!Beaulieu ,13,felt the effects of the rule.one afternoon,he left his lunch table to give his girlfriend a hug.he was told to report to the principal's office.
so what's your opinion?what do you think about this policy.
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15 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
Holding of hands is fine, but hugging, should not be allowed as hugging can mean many other things ^_^ It's a little off limits to hug in school, and even if they wanna hug, they should do it in private and not somewhere whereby the whole school can see ^_^
IN my time, hugging is a big taboo in school, but now most schools will just turn a blind eye to it, and just tell them off or remind them not to do it again in public.. lol
@animeniak (425)
• United States
9 Sep 08
i fail to see what's wrong with hugging in the public places... i mean i've seen hugging and something more intense - students kissing in the halls, when bunch of students are around, and i STILL fail to see what's wrong with those... -_-;;
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
10 Sep 08
schools have went buck wild kids are going to be kids when i went to school they didn,t have all this crap they have not.they want to put your children in detention for everything.
@animeniak (425)
• United States
9 Sep 08
lol he got sent to the principal's office because he hugged his girlfriend?? so should the teachers in that school get fired for just shaking hands with his/her favorite students or giving them a hug?!?! LMAO!!! i mean yea assaulting another person or just showing any signs of violation deserves being sent to the principal's office, which is like that in any other schools, but hugging a girlfriend is different story.... i mean what are the faculty and staff members in that school thinking?? -_-;;
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
Thats taking things too far !! People touch each other all the time without even thinking about it as it is a part of our human nature when someone is upset or hurt to respond with a hug or touching there arm or something . This is going to send across a message that being there for someone is wrong by stating that if you have touched someone to comfort them that you have done something wrong .
I don't see how they are going to be able to prevent this unless they are going to have camera in every area of the school including the bathrooms and this would be invasion of privacy if they were to do that .
I am surprised the parents are not up in arms over this . If my student was given a detention or was expelled for touching a classmate I would be calling the school board so fast and giving them a piece of my mind !!
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I do not know what our world will become if the hands-off policy will be strictly implemented all over the world.. people would be so less caring... since we all know that the touch has a lot of good effects... administrators should no where to draw the line... we want to protect our kids but not to make them heartless and lesser caring individuals...
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
14 Sep 08
To me that is going to far, but we do not know the whole story of what came to that rule. Was the school having problems with excessive touching, fighting, pinching or fondling? I need to hear the whole story before I weigh in on the subject.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Sep 08
xialinye hi I think that school is going way too far with their rules. Hugs should not be grounds for reprimands at all.I suppose a high five would get a kid in trouble also. what is going on in these peoples heads or are they just empty shells?
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Sep 08
A policy prohibiting unwanted touching sure, but stuff like this? Ridiculous!
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I heard about that story but was unaware that it took place in Virginia!
I think these things are getting ridiculous! I can't see why a quick hug would even be an issue if no one complains! The only people complaining here are the administrators. Absurd! (Maybe they were jealous?)
Before long, somebody is going to realize that a pencil can be a weapon and they'll be banned from school! That'll be the day I hope the men in the white coats with the long-sleeved 'wrap-arounds' come to pick up the administrators and law makers.
This has to stop somewhere!
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I suppose you could get into trouble for just shaking hands! That's definitely a contact thing to do!
@sassykats (17)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I myself think holding hands is ok in school, but hugging should not be allowed. I myself do not want my son doing stuff at school I would not allow him to do at home. Also with the huge tred of girls liking girls, and boys liking boys it is hard to determin who are "friends" anymore.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I think that is not good, because students would tend more to not follow this rule. I mean touching is ok and I see nothing wrong with it but of course bullying or physically assaulting someone is another thing. Maybe they should set first standards which are considered ok and which are not.
@Sean_Jean (269)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
Wow.. thats going a bit too far. I mean no hugs? Come on thats not right!
@shooie (4984)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I think high fiving a fellow teammate should be okay or even hugging. I emember when I was a kid in school we didn't have to deal with these issues. Us kids could walking around holding hands and skipping around the school yards (grade school) hugging our friends and teachers weren't an issue eiter. When i got in high school hugging friends and high fiving weren't issues either. We could even hug our teachers without anyone worrying about it. Hands off for fighting and things on that nature I agree with and should be dealt with but a hug and high five should be okay.