posessiveness is it needed for healthy relationship
By vinesh_kcm
@vinesh_kcm (453)
India
September 9, 2008 2:19am CST
hi everyone.. i can say that a person is gifted when he is having many good relationships and at the same time maintains it till the end.. but nowadays possessiveness is playing the major role in affecting the relatioships.. even me too affected directly affected and lost some fo my good friends due to possessiveness.. what do you feel.. possessiveness is really needed
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10 responses
@lemayan (188)
• Germany
17 Sep 08
it very irritating when someone tries to posses you because its not possible, your parents can own you in title (by saying that is my son or daughter) but notin person. so if this is not possible with your own parents then how is it possible for another person who you have met when fully grown to posses you its not possible.
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@varian (47)
• India
17 Sep 08
hi vinesh.. i can say that if anything if it exceeds the limit then it becomes very harmful for us.. like wise in relationship also possessiveness is needed in some small level.. but if it raises as over possessiveness, then its really very horrible to.. it will then lead that relationship to some problems
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@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
hi vinesh
the following are needed
1) posessiveness during our children younger days
2) overprotective parents during children younger days
3) overprotective husband for the safety of woman
4) watchful parents or friends or partners who worry about us
5) cautious parents or friends or partners who worry about us
the following are not needed
1) posessiveness after our children are married
2) jealousy husband over wife friendship
3) dominneering wife over husband actions
4) controlling parents over children love life
5) suspicious partners (husband and wife) over all their moves
as you said nowadays ... children or wife or husband are not able to diffrenciate between the good types of posessiveness and the bad types of posessiveness. They are too sensative and over reacts
cheers
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@callcenterchick (94)
•
9 Sep 08
Possessiveness is not good in to a relationship... it chokes your partner out!
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@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
to me, being possessive in a relationship is good but you have set a limit... "too much of something is bad enough" as what the spice girls said in one of their songs... hehehe
anyways, going back, possessiveness brings spice in a relationship.. it feels good when your partner feels jealous sometimes but if he keeps doing it every time without any valid reason at all, that's another thing... it could make the person feel tied in his/her neck until he/she gets suffocated... now when that happens, it could be the end for the two of you.
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@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Possessiveness sounds very negative to me. The more positive value that relates to that is trust and loyalty. Those are far better than being possessive. We should all just relax and feel good. Let's not feel the pressure among our friends so we can express ourselves well.
@chinniR (661)
• India
9 Sep 08
hi vinesh. possessiveness is something which arises very naturally between relationships. it's arises due to the fear that one may tend to loose their loved ones. it is something bad, cause when it keeps on increasing then it results in loss of friends or close ones. but when a person feels possessive about something, he should be made to realize how much he is important and i think that he/she will definitely understand. happy mylotting. have a nice day!
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@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
i definitely believe that possesiveness is negative.it seems it go along with insecurity..lets put it this way, when you love it should be given freely without thought of reciprocation..but in someway it is healthy if you motivated towards healthy and positive direction..(",)
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@sweetbabyjane (1929)
• United States
19 Sep 08
From past experience I can say that possessiveness is definitely not needed for a health relationship. That possiesiveness leads to many other problems in a relationship, one of them is trust. If you are too possessive then you don't really trust the other person.
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