Does love bring fear with it?

For me I would say that love would make me very vulnerable. Probably due to my past experiences I would say the fear of loosing my loved one and not being loved any more would always be there. What about you?

U r right whenever u get it, fear of loosing or fear or some uncertainity is always better take care

Mimpi, The doubts, the questions, the vulnerability, the fear of not being loved any more....These are the emotions and feelings that one experiences in the process of falling in love.When we cross these mental barriers over time, then comes the surety of true love, which brings with it the faith,the confidence,the feeling of togetherness,the sense of secureness and most importantly trust. The issues and the doubts of the future then get so easy to deal with because you know you are not alone and everything will be experienced and handled together.The entire approach , experience of life and the expectations change. The fear of loosing no doubt remains, but mostly subdued by the happiness and joyous experience of love.

Love and fear can not coexist. The one will leave immediately as the other enter its presence.

Our 'Fears' are associated with every emotions of ours. Whatever we do in life a hidden and invisible fear runs through our mind and heart. We always feel apprehensive and keep on thinking - "what is going to happen tomorrow". Same is the case in 'love' also. When we love someone, we always fear losing that person, due to one apprehension or other. I think when you are 'loved' by someone special, this definitely makes you feel stronger and you believe that things are moving your way. However, I feel the 'fear factor' overpowers all our emotions. Though 'fearing' something is a negative feeling rather than positive, but it keeps us alert towards our 'loved ones'. Good Post!

dear mimpi, it is ages since i have been here but you and all my mylot friends are always on my mind. So I love adding my reply to your discussion. In my opinion, love makes us vulnerable above all. It might add savour and value to our life but the one who loves is the one who can be easily hurt by the object of his/her love or by people giving pain to the beloved one and, of course, by the repentine lost of loved one. If you ask to me, is it worth loving after all? Well, I am still wounded and hurt but I think that love is part of our life just like pain, and so it is a sort of unvoidable hazard. Some people are lucky and find good and healthy love, others are not and meet with destructive love. Moreover, there is one kind of love that remains so deep and pure that no matter how much effort it requires it is well worth anything: it is the love for a child, our own child or each child that enters our life. It is totally unselfish and the greatest commitment of our entire life....and the greatest and endless hazard!!!!

I believe that love can bring fear with it, yes. But it still ultimately comes down to the foundation of the person's emotional and personality state. Love can lift you up and make you feel invincible; it can offer you a shining light in a world of darkness and can make you want to be the best you can be. It can oput a spring in your step and make you smile in a way you never thought possible. It can replace our feelings of hunger and cold and fill us with hope. It can make us feel like an excited and nervous child. Yet love can also cloud judgement; it can make us act stupidly in the name of it and can cause us more pain than we ever thought was imagineable. Pain that can't always be made to go away easily like a cut finger or a headache; but pain that seems to well up from deep inside of us from a place that we just can't seem to reach. In my opinion this is one of the areas that fear can come into it. Fear of how we may go on without it; fear of losing it; fear that we are not all we can be to deserve this love and fear that just like everyone else that is supposed to have loved us that it is only a matter of time before we are hurt yet again. But no matter what we will always embrace it and this is what is important. We can never truly appreciate the highs without experiencing the lows! And as the saying goes - it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved before. I do agree with this.....

it is true. when you love somebody deeply, the fear of losing the person is always there. there is no denying of the fact.but also it helps you to crosss stronger hurdles in life.

hey, nice thought and a good discussion as well. its both..it makes you stronger as well as it gives you fear as well. like for the case in where it makes you strong faith and things like that..the person who falls in love for the first time or has entered the relation for the first time goes stronger..feels good has blind faith and trust on the partner and feels good about the relation about each other and must be scared thou about loosing but woudnt give much weightage to that aspect. if a person is experienced in loosing love would be reluctant to keep on thinking in that angle and would constantly have a fear of loosing the other.. there could be spossibility that the person mite not even get into love again if had an experience of break-up, this aspect would also make the person strong in itself or could also make him/her weak initself.. so love has good effects as well as bad effects it all depends upon person to person how do they take it...

I think that in order to be strong in love, you have to be a strong person to begin with. Fear is something we all live with for different reasons and at different times, but not loving someone because you fear the loss of them would be silly. People who do that are really afraid of life itself.

I never fear to not be loved anymore, I know my abilities, but I can tell you that it brings all the emotions together, is great and causes fear of loosing the Real Love of my life! I looked for him my entire life and NO! I will not loose him for stupidities!

Like drannhh, I think it depends on how one defines and sees love. Personally, I think it should make a person stronger. You do make yourself more vulnerable to someone but that is what loving is about. If that "love" ends up breaking your heart, at least you were brave enough to let yourself love and be loved. I've had my share of doubts and fears about my relationship but if one really loves another, then being with that someone is worth the pain of losing him/her or having one's heart broken. One must also remember that loving someone does not mean forgetting to love oneself. It is really nice to have someone to rely on and share your experiences in life with but relying on that someone for everything is, to me, a doing my own self a disservice. Hello mimpi, haven't seen you for a while. I thought I'd say Hi. take care!

If you have to do all the loving alone then yes it does make you weak but if you have someone to share it with and that person also loves you back then you can become the strongest person in the world. Love one, Love all, happy mylotting.

i think love is really my greatest weakness ,but it is just because of it,when my girlfriend left me,my heart is bleeding,i really can't stand the pain of losing her ,but she went without even seeing me.whenever i think of this , tears are always poured out.the most painful thing in the world is not more than it.do you think i am the strongest in the world?though love is not only the love between girls and boys but also other love.but i am not strong right now!

i do not think love brings fear but i sure get apprehensive about what will happen in the future.

This depends entirely on how one defines love. If they are talking about worldly love on a physical plane, then I think they are going to be as weak as Sampson bereft of his hair (or for that matter, John bereft of his head), but if they are talking about the spiritual love that holds the universe together, that is another matter altogether. Where there is universal love there can be no fear or vulnerability. But that would be universal love, not that of an individual, if you know what I mean.

Hi Mimipi, To be loved and to love is the biggest blessing anyone can have. I think if the world had more love in it it would be a much better place. I guess i does make us vulnerable and gives us a fear of loss of that love, but as the saying goes 'it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all' Huggles. Ellie :D

HI friend,Love makes you week depriving you of all your braveness .We under go fear certainly of losing our love and left miserable as you wont be able to live happy and proceed in life without your love.So it makes you unhappy and leaves in permanant trauma of worries about whether your love would succeed or fail.You feel commited.Thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.

for me, i think love will make me strongest coz not matter wat happen, there is a person who wil always with u, support u, let u feel confort, let u feel safe.... but in the other hand, love oso will make u weak bcoz u too depends on your love and u can't stand if your love leave you.... u wll fear of losing him/her....