What was FORBIDDEN when you were growing up?
@soldierswife68 (127)
United States
September 9, 2008 9:18am CST
Parents raise children so many different ways...whether it has to do with morals, rules or other ways of upbringing. Some households are strict, while others are not.
What things did your parents FORBID you and your siblings to do when growing up? How did it make you feel? Did you find yourself rebelling against their wishes at any time? How do you raise your kids differently, now that YOU are the parent?
For me, it was listening to rock music (or any other form besides Christian). As a teenager, this was hard to do and I found myself sneaking around to listen to it. Today, I listen to all kinds of music and encourage my kids to do the same (within reason, of course). I do not condone anything with negative messages or words, but I think it's a good thing to broaden ones' mind by enjoying every style.
Even though I understand the thinking of my parents (to some extent), it has really had an impact on how I raise my kids. I feel that if you raise your children well and to the best of your ability, they will remember the core values they were taught growing up. They may stray from that a time or two, but over all, they will always remember what they were taught and will eventually go back to what was instilled early on.
What do you think?
2 responses
@cncoke (439)
• China
10 Sep 08
I am mostly agree with your opinion.When I was brought up,my parents told me to act as a good girl.Eating,dressing,making friends,sewing were very important to a girl.We have four siblings,my father worked far away and only could go home once a year.So it was nearly my mother who brought us up.She herself didn't go to school,so she didn't care about our study.Now I am a mother of two children,and the condition turns better and better,and the style of households are different.I and my husband pay much attention to their study.We often make some sense on their study,bring them to the library,to the Science Museum,to the Children's Palace...
@soldierswife68 (127)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Very interesting! Even though our responses are different, there is still that one common denominator....our parents worked hard at proving their conrol over us! It's not a bad thing within itself, and although most everything is a legit concern with parents, I have to say that some things can be downright petty and will not make a difference in how a child grows up! Thank you all for your responses!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
10 Sep 08
My Mom didn't forbid me but she scared me so bad of everything that she did not want me to do that i thought i would die if i did it.Or i would go to Hell for doing it...Haha...No i did not raise my kids like that ,Im sure they got enough of stuff that just rolled off of me ...