How can you differentiate between "Liking Someone and truly Loving Somebody"?
By brisk123
@brisk123 (2823)
India
September 9, 2008 10:52pm CST
Is there a way to find out?I have a friend,who keeps saying he is confused.He don't know whether he just like a person or really started loving that person?This is disturbing him.He wants to get committed to that person and at the same time,not very sure of his feelings for her.What do you suggest?
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9 responses
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
he may have mistaken it for infatuation that is if he is confuse because if one loves someone ,one does not doubt as what his feelings for that person.
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Liking someone is a passive, temporary, fleeting emotion, unlike truly loving someone is a strong emotion that involves commitment to the other. Althoug loving someone also encompass liking the other cuase you cannot love that person if you havent like him/her in the first place however, liking someone doesnt necessarily mean that you are truly loving that someone. Its like when we saw a person shoes or some things we couldnt say we love them, but if you say you truly love your husband or wife you would'nt deny that you havent liked them in the first place.
As for your friend, maybe he should establish his reasons if he likes the person or loving that person already. As I previously defined, liking is a fleeting emotion and loving is permanent one.
@jollibee (57)
• United States
10 Sep 08
when you say like for me it means infatuation. you just like a certain thing or qualities that he/she had. love means to me,is accepting who really he is,he's background,(without judging his past), and the weaknesses that he got.when you see his the one that you can share a life with. that love for me.
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
10 Sep 08
Exactly!Loving someone means accepting each other for who we are and what we are without judging anything about that person's background,religion,his/her weakness,etc.Liking can also come in the category of infatuation,and not commitment to a relationship.Happy myLotting!
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
When you like someone, I think that's about it. You just like that person and you don't put much thought into that. Truly loving someone requires deep thoughts and ideas about spending time together and growing old together. If you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life seeing that same person everyday, then that's probably not love. If you truly love someone, you'd do anything for that person.
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
10 Sep 08
This makes sense my friend and I totally agree with you.When a person is committing himself/herself to the other person,it requires a deep thought about how they are going to spend the rest of their lives together.He/she plans for future and the thought of growing old together makes them happy,not scared.Good day!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 08
I think if you love somebody you know and that you shouldn't make a commitment if you're not sure.
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
10 Sep 08
Yup,you are absolutely right my friend.I love my fiance and I know my feelings for him and I am committed.