brothers or me?
By angelie1281
@angelie1281 (30)
September 10, 2008 4:21am CST
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4yrs now but until now we still argue about his fraternity. He is so in to it.. as in so so.. much... im 27 and his 30yr old already... but untill not I haven't hear nor make me feel that he have plan of asking me to marry him. my friends and his friends keep telling to get married already my body clock is ticking and i want to have a family.... my own family he knows that i told him already... but still nothing... Its was avalentines day and i have work but he told me that he'll pick me up so we can celebrate. my duty is until 9pm i waited for him until 4am been tryin to contact him but his cellphone is unattended i've tried calling their house but his not there then fin'lly it was 6am already i called their house again and his home already sleeping he did'nt even bother calling me I asked his mom if she can wake him up when he answered the phone he's the one who's angry should'nt it be me?... Im so stupid 2days after he apologized and i took it. He and his fraternity got into a fight... I hate them so much although some of them are my friends... but the way he give his self to them make me jelous... I've been patient as far as i know when it comes to his fraternity but i dont think he sees that and I dont think he can understand what im feeling eventhough i told him a lot of times already... were always like this.... sometimes i wanna give up.. i love him so much and i dont know what to do... But his not that bad all the time we all have flaws even i commit mistakes in our relationship too.. today were arguing again he is sick and i want him to go home straight after work but he told me that he has a meeting with his brothers in fraternity arghh...he got pissed coz i asked him maybe his dating someoone thats why his always out coz i was really pissed off.. right now i dont know what to do and what to feel...
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
i'm in the same situation as you are a year ago. my hubby was in this fraternity that i think never did him any good, but just brought him trouble. anyway, he would not listen to me when i say that he should become an inactive member since i was already pregnant at that time. he keeps defending that the fraternity would be of use to him someday. one day, he got surface wounds because he was involved in a gang riot, and my belly just hurt so much that day (see, when i got tensed or very worried my stomach, it was like the baby inside was feeling it too).
anyways, now we are living in another city as per suggestion of my mom (she knows about his fraternity, and recommended we transferred to another place so he can avoid becoming involve in his stupid frat). good thing he agreed, he must've felt that it was time to let go of his childish activities and start acting like a good father should. to date, he has not contacted any of his former frat brothers.
the point is, if you love him so much like you say you do, you should be able to think of ways to get him away from his fraternity, like i did. either that, or living the rest of your life with him having to stand his associations with those people. good luck!
@angelie1281 (30)
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17 Sep 08
Thank You for sharing this to me we have talked about this situation i gave him deadline for his fraternity which is until october your maybe familiar that they have position and he is one of the officers thats why he is so busy i just hope that he will keep his promise or else... i dont know what will happen to us...
@yyfrancine (461)
• China
10 Sep 08
brothers means too much for a man, we are all women, women always can't understand why her boyfriend even her husband have such realationship with his friend. we often envy that too much, if you really a guy, you should stand his all thing even his fault, don't think too much.
