Where are my close friends when I need them?

[i]Hi dhangski, i also don't like the feeling of being along..yes, there are times that i feel alone and no one to talk to especially when i have problems, but i try hard to divert my attention to something else and wait for the right person to talk to about my problems. its actually just a matter of how you deal with the current situation instead of worrying why your friends are not around when you need them..remember, they have their own lives too...and its not something that we demand from then. The only thing you need to do is get a way to divert your attention into something else, so that you don't have to keep on thinking whatever it is thats bothering you. Its also good if you're close with your mom...or maybe yet. send them text msg that you have problem right now and that you need someone to talk to you...there are times that they will pause at what theyre doing and start listening to you... good luck! [/i]

Yes i had felt that way.It was hard when you need someone who will listen to your pains and problems nobody is there for you.But i learned that we can't expect too much from friends because they have their own lives too and i understand that they are having stuffs to take care also and sometimes it coincides when we needed them.It would be good to learn how to be independent.I had alot of pain and sufferings in life but i handled them on my own and that made me a stronger person.You can share it to your Mylot community.I am sure we all here to listen for you.

im lucky i have someone at home whom i can share with all my problem ..that is my husband..very supportive ..i consider him as my best friend..although i have friends offline but not really that same level with my hubby..i can talk anything to him even for shopping spree...just cheer up my friend!

[i]Hi dhangski, [i]Nice avatar! ANyway, sorry about how you feel, I hope you will find any of your friends who will get online soon so you can talk to them! I have the moment also and when I am very down, I will talk to my husband and I am just lucky that he can find time to get online even if he is working! I don't talk much to friends about my feelings, I have few friends whom I trusted and sometimes, I will call them but most of the time, after venting out to my hubby, will watch some "tagalog series" then I will get back the mood! Exercise will help me so much also!Take c[/i]are!

You know what went through these past week. You know that as I am losing my second job, there has been no internet connection in the new building. You know that internet in my regular job is not permanently turned-on though it is dsl. And you know what happen to my MIL. As I am so sad to have no connection in the last few days, I have been trying to be connected with you through SMS. So sorry to hear what is happening with you and your hubby. I wish I can do something to help you.

Hi dhangski, I have only just come online as I had to do my husband's dinner, so how are you feeling now? what is wrong girl, you can tell me or pm me if you can't talk here, I know it is difficult for your (BOF) to be online because of his job but please feel free to talk to me what ever the problem. Your friend Love HUGZ Tamara

we are all an indivual and we need to fight our battles and for that HE GIVes you the grace.friends are there to give you support but they have their own life.it is like the labouring woman in pain about to deliver,she has to labor herself,nobody else can help her except GOD.

Frenz cant be around for us always.. Unless those really good frenz, who u are willing to tell them u are troubled, and they will stop everything they are doing, just to listen to u ^_^ Or another type of good frenz are those, u will only call or contact them when u are troubled, so once they get your call, they will know what happen ^_^ I have the similiar things happening to me b4, and i can only keep to myself, go take a long walk home from wherever i'm.. The long walk will make me feel better and by time i reached home, i will feel very much at eae, as if i just talked it out ^_^ hehe

Well, you can talk to any member here in mylot as we are all a friendly community. So feel free to talk and I will give it a try to listen. As this discussion is 5 months old I am sure you worked out your problem by now or it wasn't something you could fix but it all worked out okay anyways. Most of the time when we are stressed time will fix it and we can look back on it and wonder why we were so stressed about the situation. Most of the time it works out for the best. And if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris

Hi dhangski..many many a time I have felt alone misunderstood and taken liberty of as I always try to help others and get nothing in return..I don't share it with anyone as there really isn't anyone I can share it with...so can very much understand your situation if you want too talk pm me and will see if I can help...littleowl

I have been to this point several times in life. I have found that as long as you have money and things are going well, you have lots of friends. It is when you hit bottom and look around for help that you truly find out who your friends are. Guys who were supposed to be like brothers to me were nowhere to be found when I really needed them. They were all out continuing to party and doing the stuff that we usually did together. I guess the old saying "out of sight...out of mind" holds true. I guess sometimes we need to get into a slump so that we can get a chance to reevaluate our friendships...

Well, I hope you get in contact with one of your online or real-world friends soon. It can be hard to have something you want to talk about but can't. Right now, for instance, I have some problems occupying my thoughts involving my family. However, I just can't imagine anyone that I would share these stresses with. I thought about typing to two of my aunts, but I really don't have that kind of relationship with them. So, here I am left trying to ignore the distracting thoughts and move on with my day.

Wow this topic is selling like hotcake, you got a lot of responses already. First of all, my apology for not being around when you need someone to talk to. I'm still very busy this time and don't have much time using the net. I think in my life I never experience this. I always have somebody to talk to when I need a shoulder to lean on. During those sad moments in my life I have my family who are always ready to listen to me and of course God who is always there waiting for me to talk to Him. So why not go talk to God, when your friends are not around, you can always confide to God and He will comfort you more than your friends can do. By the way, ask Him also to let your friends be available when you needed them most.

these are the thoughts friend and not reality. You are running from the reality. It is a kind of escapism. My views are that do not escape from the life because it is very interest and giving you can get what ever you like in life if it is lived as livable and lovable life. Have a courage and live a lovable life.

Your right sometimes why we can say why our friends of love one not thier if we got a problem, but if i feel same what you i just try to call them and us they they are not busy, in that time i can say that im not alone, try to call them, even by calling they will understand you that you need them in this time.

Yes, I have and its a terrible feeling. What I learned to do was to start getting busy, too. I hope they are not ignoring you. Start to look for other friends. Find people who have similar interests as you do. If you can ignore the feeling of being alone, this is a good time for you to get your creative juices going. Like for once in your life you can explore your mind and find out what you really want out of life and pursue it. They are many social websites you can check out online. Stumble Upon is a good website to explore its where you can socialize with people who have similar interests as you do. Try it.

Do you KNOW that your friends are too busy to listen to you, or is this just an assumption? Do you patiently listen to them when they are bragging about their "chicks"?

I hope I am with you unto that day because i also consider you as one of my friend already and hope that you were doing good unto this day without any discomfort feeling from the previous days that are bad happen in yesterday just take good care friend and it would happen sometimes that friends are not their to open on your emotion for they also have their own struggle but just be strong and always remember that your Husband and children loved you so much and they worth to fight all the consequences of life. Hugz from me and my prayer as well .....

never happen to me cause i'm always have a spare here hahahahha i got a lot of lovely and very kind and nice friends girls and guys they are very nice and most of the time they are the one who pm me i only start to pm few of them i like to spend my time on the web with them cause they make feel that i'm not alone and yes yes when i need help they always giving me hand so this good sign that i have friends indeed

It is very normal when you need someone to share but there no one around to comfort us. I do always experience it that way, my friends usually around with me during in triumpts and in celebration but when you are down and sad seldom comes along. But i do believe it has a purpose for you have to rely most on the most powerful best friend i have which is God. In trials i go for God and communicate with Him in prayers and ask Him what should i do. Truly God is Good all the time for he always answer my prayer not in instant but in His time. Have a blessed day!