I focus on my flaws!

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder they say. I just wonder, how can others see your beauty if you yourself can't see it. You, said that your friend says that your pretty. Why don't you try saying thank you instead of contradicting. You know, by just accepting a compliment, it could do wonders to your self esteem. Practise accepting ang acknowledging every compliment that you receive. Just say thank you. Later on, you'd realise that indeed, you are pretty. Beauty is not just about the physical look of a person but it is something that goes beyond the physical it is also about your being, ur totality as a person, your outlook, how you treat others, how you look at life. Love ur creator,yourself and all the people around. Learn to see the beauty of life, everything around you. Be happy always. Each and every individual has his/her own beauty. You may have somethings that others don't have and vice versa. We all have our flaws but you don't have to dwell on it, instead, improve it or correct it. Do it for yourself and not for other people. Smile....

Lots of people find it hard to take a compliment. All of us tend to focus on things we think need to be better. I say look for something you like about yourself. Then put your focus on that. Life is hard enough on us. We don't need to be hard on ourselves.

The only tip for that is start appreciating who you are and accepting what you don't have. if people try to compliment you thank them. You don't need to put yourself down at all because that is not what other people see in you. Be kind to yourself and sooner or later you'll love yourself.

I think a lot of us are the same way. I know I was raised to feel inferior and that I was not very attractive. I think maybe my Mother was trying to teach me to be modest but she went about it wrong. Anyway that makes it very difficult to accept a compliment. When I look in a mirror all I can focus on are the flaws. My husband tells me I am beautiful but their is no way I could ever believe that. When I had a daughter I was determined that she was going to be raised believing she was smart, beautiful and very much loved and I succeeded.